Got no complaints so far 
and it makes you the better person for just ignoring them and doing what makes you and your husband happy 
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I forgotten to say that is a blessing in disguise the fighting you had to do to get what you’re entirely entitled to with your **birthday coming up 
I wish there was a sex toy emoji 
I seen something about a 40% birthday discount if that’s correct that’s a bloody good discount for sure, have you got a good idea what you’re wanting for your big day 
Edit that’s good bab 
it’s true saying nowt is definitely better than giving people the satisfaction of getting angry n reacting n it takes alot to walk away n definitely is bigger than ranting n raving.
I try not to let people get to me but these people really have making out we don’t deserve a holiday, everybody deserves a holiday n I’m a firm believer that nobody is better than anyone from people who’ve got billions to homeless people nobody’s above anyone, we all came into the world the same way n I’m damn sure we’re all leaving the same way!
I also need to say, I’ve nothing against addicts it’s an illness that needs treated not prison. We’re sending people to jail n not rehabilitating them, the system is broken big time which is really sad 
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Pretty sure I am being lied to by my colleague who gives me a lift to and from work, in respects of needing to leave early tomorrow and why. They’ve already tripped themselves up and their story doesn’t add up. Being lied to is the thing I find hardest to come back from because I never give anyone any reason to lie to me, I’m descreet, I don’t judge or blame, I’m easy going and understanding, if they want to tell the bosses something different why they need to leave early it’s nothing to do with me but don’t take me for a fool 
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I hope it goes ok @AmyA
I have similar experience, a person who lies a lot, basically to leave early or to have paid time off. It’s very predictable and laughable at times. Covid has been the gift that keeps on giving for them. They think they’re getting one over on the bosses. I just feel they’re insulting my intelligence by thinking i believe their bull!
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Okay I’m feeling really disturbed. I think my mum is deliberately trying to catch me masturbating or doing anything sexual. She came into my bedroom unannounced and unprompted at 1:30 am last night, for no good reason. She does this all the time in the day but not usually without reason in the night. I can’t confront her because she is an expert gaslighter and I usually just come away from even incredibly minor confrontations feeling confused and upset.
I have an escape plan now, but I need to wait until I see my surgeon and consultant so it’s another 2 months before I can leave. I’m feeling incredibly disturbed about the whole thing and 2 months feels like a lifetime.
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I am assuming putting a lock on your door is out of the question. How about buying a small plastic door wedge off a certain online site, and wedging it under your closed door when you want a bit of privacy?
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Yeah locks are out of the question. I’ve tried blocking my door a number of times/ways over the years but all that happens is she forces her way in or tells me “there’s something wrong with the door” and won’t leave until I open it. Getting privacy while living here is basically out of the question and until now the am hours have been my safe times.
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So glad to hear youve got an escape plan in place. Big hugs hun 
, i hope the 2 months fly by.
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Hang on in there, hun. Keep a hold on who you are and your eyes on the horizon. No doubt she’s got a whole repertoire of antics up her sleeve, and I’m not pretending any of it will be anything like easy, but you WILL come out of the other side of this. You know you will, because you owe it to yourself. Better times are within reach…
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At least wedging the door would give you some warning in case you’re doing anything you don’t want her to see
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Thanks all. And that’s true @Ace12345, good point. Guess I’ll start trying to wedge the door overnight.
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@Alyssa646 sorry I’ve only just seen this snd sorry to hear it! Some friends take the pee! Not sure what’s happened since over it all but maybe lashing out isn’t the answer! Yea he’s been a tit but he’d probably benefit more from a concerned friend trying to help rather than a dressing down! I know that’s easy fir me to say looking in like coz obviously it’s none of my business but 
But if that doesn’t work, jab him as for the others about the benefits, I wouldn’t waste my energy on them! I just hope things don’t take a turn for the worst for them one day and they suddenly need to start claiming! Karma has a funny way of biting people on the ass!
I’ve always worked apart from one time when I was made redundant and was out of work a few months! Not for the want of trying to find a job mind! I decided to claim job seekers, if nothing else at least to get my stamp payed! Got refused on the grounds that I had a house in my name which I rented out Because it was rented out I couldn’t get jobseekers, even after paying my tax and insurance for about the 15 prior! I know what a struggle it is and don’t judge others!
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I’m a stay at home dad, so probably not the best person to give any advice on this. But I watch a lot of Hotel Inspector, and she always asks them why they’re working so hard if it’s not making them happy. And something about ‘don’t work hard, work smart’ - though that might be David Brent.
Hopefully someone else has some actual experience you can benefit from.
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It’s a true saying! Hear it a lot! Working smart for me would be just pricing/organising etc and letting the lads build the jobs! Easier said than done though being in the building trade! Lads always take the Michael wish days off and Doin things wrong! It’s hard to fully leave things to people and not have to check up on them all the time, I’ve literally got to ring all the lads on the jobs I’m not on to check they’re actually there each morning! Had one lad once who had about 12 nans die, all seemed to die on a Sunday night too
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I worked with a chap like that once, numerous nans die and other dubious excuses! Also worked with a chap who saw it as his duty to do as little as possible and screw the company for money for hours not worked. Definitely not a team player, leaving others to pick up the slack. So i totally sympathise with you.
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Same here. One guy used to pick off all the easy IT jobs (changing ink, issuing replacement mice/speakers) while the senior techs were out on jobs, which you could argue is the right thing to do to keep things ticking over, except he’d also use the time to reassign the 95% complete jobs to himself so that he could close with a client and the system would give him a massively high success rate. We knew he was doing the easy jobs but only found out about reassignments when he mistakenly put his name against one of my longterm projects, which nullified me for 6 months work 
I feel your pain…
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I’m not bothered where someone works, a job is a job to me! If it was the difference in providing or not id literally do anything! I do believe though you should always give what’s expected! If you don’t like it, love on! Some people moan everyday thst their job is crap snd they hate it so they tend to do things like this! They’re the first to kick up a stink though when it comes to anything to do with wages! Don’t get me wrong I was a little like this when younger and maybe took the mick a bit but not like this!
Another home after 22:00 for me, lads clock watching all day and shot off as soon as the clock strikes 16:30 like they’ve a plane to catch 
Tomorrow is a 6:30 start for me and I’m not leaving the job till at least 23:00! 6:30 start Sunday too! £250 cash on offer for the joiner tomorrow and £180 cash for the labourer for just normal hours but no interest in it now they’ve got a little extra through the week
They’ve probably got friends and family they want to spend time with. There’s no point working if you don’t leave yourself time to enjoy the rewards.
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Your work and home life seem very imbalanced. If must be awful. Can you maybe look for a partner, or someone you can rely on to share the load?
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