@Knight1119 thank you lovely
@WillC yes I figured that after July but hadn’t really realised quite how little I meant to him until today where I found out that apparently I wasn’t even worth a trip up the stairs
@VanillaWithSprinkles I think @WillC summed it up perfectly with “stop letting him take advantage of your good nature.” That seems to be exactly what he is doing. You’re worth a hell of a lot more than that and deserve a friend who would do exactly the same for you. Don’t waste any more of your time, energy or money on this guy.
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You’re welcome @VanillaWithSprinkles, you deserve some happiness 
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@For_Your_Eyes_Only_x I won’t waste another second on him, just absolutely gutted that I’ve been taken for a fool for so long
@BigishBen agreed! I did dress like that too haha, I’d like to think he’ll never do better
@Knight1119 ah tomorrow’s another day, here’s hoping it’s a good’un
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I reckon it’s already been said here @VanillaWithSprinkles but he sounds like a selfish twat. A true friend wouldn’t treat you like that. Obviously you can’t avoid him if he’s matey with your flatmate but just keep it on simple polite terms such as hello or goodbye.
I think you’ve been incredibly restrained over all this. I’d be absolutely raging mad!
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Ah @wildflower I think I went through all 7 of the stages of grief for that relationship tonight. Thankfully landed at acceptance before I go to sleep so I’m not stewing all night 
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Absolutely agree with everyone else @VanillaWithSprinkles . He’s an absolute loser.
If I were you, I would vow to never have sex with him every again, even if I was totally desperate, and I’d wait until he came crawling back when he wanted something… and then I’d blow him off once and for all. You’re better than him sister! 
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I love that in theory, in practice when I’m single and he’s still the last person I’ve had great sex with it’s a lot harder to stick to my morals. However, I am definitely going to try to be strong here just for the satisfaction of telling him where to stick it.
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Unfortunately hun, I have the t-shirt for this one. I kept crawling back for sex and he got worse and worse. I know it is hard, but it really was the only way I could cull him once and for all.
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Yeah I think because it ended up so casual I really need to make sure I don’t give an inch whenever he comes crawling back out of the woodwork. I don’t want to fall back into that toxic cycle. This is why I’m seriously considering cutting all ties now even if it makes it awkward for our mutual friends. Onwards to better things.
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@VanillaWithSprinkles as long as you are letting him have casual sex with you (no matter how good it is), it’s stopping you finding someone else, who will treat you properly. He`s obviously not ready for commitment if he couldn’t get on with his last girlfriend.
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@vanillawithsprinkles Im kind of going through the same situation but I keep sleeping with him/trying to make another go of it. We have a child together and was originally together a decade and after 10 month’s apart I still can’t get over him. But I’m starting to realise we can’t be friends either
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Get rid of the time wasters and piss takers @VanillaWithSprinkles @Orgasm_Chaser, your both lovely and deserve better, the right man is out there, just have to get rid of the dead wood before you can move on, hope everything works out for you both
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I don’t even want anyone else I just know how he is now I don’t want him either. He developed a substance addiction and it completely changed him mentally. He is no longer the man I fell in love with
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Sounds like you’ve had a pretty rough time @Orgasm_Chaser the sooner you break the cycle the better I’d say, easier said than done I suppose
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Aw no @Orgasm_Chaser I’m so sorry to hear you’re in this boat too. It’s complicated isn’t it, finally getting it into my head that even though the sex is good it truly isn’t enough when they treat you like crap outside of the bedroom. Holding out for someone who actually wants to spend time with/appreciate me as a person not as a sex toy.
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It’s so complicated. And that is an understatement. He led a double life for 8 months. Told me that he wanted to try again while being with someone else. Just lies and deceit all the time. We had 8 years of bliss and the last 2 were horrific but I’m the one to blame for everything in his mind.
Classic toxic personality. Somehow find a way to twist the narrative so that you’re always the bad guy. It’s gaslighting and I can very much relate to this.
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Omg @vanillawithsprinkles couldn’t agree more. Even getting upset thinking about it. Cos that’s all we had no complaints in the bedroom… I trusted him with my life… Literally just everything else
I will admit 100% when I’m wrong but he manages to justify everything even if its down right wrong what he’s done
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