Ah I sure do want out! Tied in with contracts etc. OH feels very helpless as he can’t offer any alternatives either but I keep reminding him it’s not his responsibility. It’ll all settle eventually, just gotta wait it out. Thank you for your lovely words this evening 
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@For_Your_Eyes_Only_x we could do so much with it hun I really hope you move somewhere better for you all but I remember you saying before all the memories are in the house also remember that they are in somewhere he can’t take ! Your heart and your head
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@For_Your_Eyes_Only_x - I don’t know much about tenancies these days, but if it’s your name on everything - which, as far as I can see, makes you the principal tenant - can’t you insist that his tenancy contract is terminated when it comes up for renewal? …or is that too far off? Why should you be the one who has to move?
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On that topic, is there anyone you could get to take over his contact? Landlords tend to be more amenable to removing someone if you can guarantee someone will take over the contract (it also makes it easier on you as you should already know the person and you don’t have to worry about needing more money)
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@PleasureDrone it’s my name on the bills but we both have our names down for a 50/50 contract unfortunately so he has just as much right to be there as I do. It’s such a lovely house, perfect location for me, in the village I grew up in… it’d really hurt for me to move but at the moment seems to be the easiest option.
@Ace12345 I wish I did! It’s something I have looked into but know no one personally looking to move.
I have no clue, but I keep getting an image of you putting the TV on in the living room, and that turns his phone back on in his room. And then he turns his phone off, which turns the tv off. So you turn the TV on, which turns his phone back on… 
I don’t know what app it was though, so I really have no idea if that’s possible. It just made me smile.
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@For_Your_Eyes_Only_x the extra things you’ve revealed really make him seem like a creepy, dirty oddball. As i said before, i think your OH should have a calm, polite word with him, if that does’t work, try your landlord, a last resort would be your HR dept. You can’t let this unpleasant little shit make your homelife a misery.
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@For_Your_Eyes_Only_x I’ve been a tenant for 20 years, so I’ve had a number of departure based scenarios.
Assuming you are on a periodic tenancy, at any point that isn’t the renewal of the tenancy, you can ask to be released and the agent will start the process of finding a new tenant. Once they’ve found one, you just leave. There might be some fees etc, but you are out of the tenancy.
Or, you just wait until they ask if you want to renew the tenancy, and you say you don’t, but he might - they need to ask him.
Finally, if you aren’t on a periodic tenancy (ie it is just a rolling tenancy), you just say to them that you are going to leave.
There is never a route where you can’t get out of a tenancy one way or another.
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I absolutely loathe our neighbour, the man is a grade A dinosaur. We just forked out 600 quid on a fence after catching him looking into our property thinking we were at work. We’ve always know he perves on our house when we are out, but he was caught bonnie by me, who had to take a day off to look after my son. He could see my wifes car was away but he can’t see mine without going out his front door. Was sitting on the sofa with my boy and he “slid” into view, eyeing up the house not realizing I could see him clearly. He’s a retired builder and is obsessed with commenting on other folks property (even though his house is falling into disrepair). Last time we spoke it was a full blown argument so we ignore each other now. But honestly I’d never dream of leaning on his wall and staring at his house regardless if he was in or not!
@Ian_Chimp that gave us a little giggle this morning 
I didn’t even know I bought a tv that could be controlled with your phone 
@WillC the behaviour continued this morning with the tv being blared at 7am. Out of character considering he doesn’t roll out of bed usually for another few hours. Even heard the volume go from standard to numerous notches up! Instead of letting it get to us we’ve decided to start our day early, get up and showered and soon head out. It’ll certainly be going further. Thanks for all the support
@KinkyMira thank you for this. It’s something I’m aware of although to be reminded is reassuring. If I had a new place lined up I’d be out of here. May even make a return to my parents’ if it gets too bad, but at least I’ll be out. Thank you x
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There’s definitely an air of him being a knob because your OH stayed over, the tv volume this morning is definitely a sign.
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If it’s your tv you should set/reset the password to connect. 
And maybe take it into your room.
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Signed for two week trial for gym app called fiit and not once exercise routine suits a wheelchair user 
This isn’t first time I’ve had this issue. These companies know very well they are discriminating but get round it by telling you that they can’t cater for disabled for legal reasons which is bs…
Sure whatever, adding some upper body exercises won’t kill them to add it, think they just don’t want to. Drs tell everyone to exercise anyway
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Well thats a load of crap, and completely wrong I’m sorry you deal with that crap.
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Update… housemate sent me a text late last night (although I didn’t see it until midday today) saying “Hi I’ve spoke to landlords name I’ve tried my name sooo I’ve told him I’m willing to give him a months notice.” This is because my OH came over for, at the point this text was sent, 5 hours. I also got in about half an hour ago and he had put/thrown my parcel (luckily clothing) on the floor rather than the normal place of windowsill, sofa or coffee table.
I’ve had no message from my landlord and strongly believe this is an empty threat.
I’m baffled. Literally baffled. How can a 31 year old man act so child-like at me having my own partner (who was around long before this housemate moved in) in the house for a matter of hours while we quietly watched tv and chatted.
I’m going to rage into the takeaway I’ve angrily ordered and see how his tune changes when he realises it’s just me in the house. Then bath, self care and relax. It’s needed
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He seems a very sad individual. This passive agressive shit needs to be stopped. Please get your OH to have a calm but firm conversation with him.
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@For_Your_Eyes_Only_x , hopefully the text is true. Your house mate’s behaviour is outrageous so if he wants to move out then that is great news. I’d get in touch with your landlord saying, Housemates’s name has informed you he has given his 1 month notice. You’d like to stay so he only needs to find one new tenant and you’re happy to help with the search if he would like you to and it would be helpful to him.
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This is an annual one…feckin fireworks! For the last 2 weeks it’s been like Beirut here after dark. Our dog is a bag of nerves, even with the surround amp cranked up. How can times be hard when people literally have money to burn?
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True, i respect Diwali, but can it just be on set day?
We have neighbours behind us that seem to set them off for every single possible reason. Birthday? Fireworks. Passed a test? Fireworks. Children visiting? Fireworks. Terrifies our poor cats (and our dogs before that)
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