Thankyou @Natalie , I just try and be a decent human being - it doesn’t seem like too much to aim for!
I was definitely never a fitter-inner either, but what I learned was that sometimes, we’re not meant to fit in! Sometimes guys dig the girls who stand out more than the ones who fit in, because they’re individuals - they won’t have a “crowd mentality”.
Check out Amy Studt’s song, “Misfit” - it’s a favourite of mine and a real uplift for us extra unique individuals
I definitely noticed I mirror a bit sometimes too, like sometimes I’ll see somebody acting really confident on TV and I’ll kind of “test” that body language for myself to see how I feel about using it. Oh, and I’m always, always, always practicing upcoming conversations that I need to have
It certainly seem like more than a decent human being - kind, encouraging and inclusive.
No matter how positive I feel, whenever I head out, I still feel like people pass judgement based on what I’m wearing. Especially when I’m dressed outside the norm. I’m not sure I can change the norm, so I need to keep working on feeling comfortable with myself when I don’t fit in.
It always feels safer in a crowd, but then, if you find a crowd of misfits, you start to fit, and you’re no longer a misfit?
Just finished your latest content (Friday Post) —absolutely enthralling! Your words create such vivid imagery, it’s like I’m being transported into the moment. I love this type of intimacy content that makes me feel connected. Can’t wait for your next adventure! . Every moment of yours offers me a different experience. It’s not just obsession; it’s genuine fascination. Though the positions may stay the same, the excitement they bring varies for everyone. Each position tells its own story.
I think that’s normal, but again, that’s about developing your style. I have quite a “timeless” style (think Kate Middleton, albeit sadly without Kate’s flawless skin, hair or figure). Wrap tops are a curvy lady’s best friend. Just… trust me on that
So that’s why we get along hubby and I are misfits, my ex poly partner was a misfit, and the one before him was a misfit too. I have the Dr Zeuss “Mutual Weirdness” poem framed above the fireplace in our lounge - it was a 5-year wedding anniversary gift from hubby. Embrace the weird, life gets bets better when you do
I would guess as it’s just a book recommendation and anyone can read it that wants to read it, that’s probably not a problem. It’s if you tell me personally that it’s a book that I need to read that it probably becomes a problem, because you’re singling me out from the other forum members
@Tenshadesandme… I agree! If only we all had Kate’s exquisite features!
Sometimes Natalie’s really girly side comes through and it’s all skirts, boots, tights and heels… but there are other days, more of Nat heads out and its shorts, ties, tees, docs and runners. It’s really tricky to fit, or mis fit, when the fit keeps shifting.
I’ve always loved being weird too! I’m so happy to hear you have a hubby that matches!
There’s nothing with wearing what you want to wear. Yesterday as a cute sparkly tee and drop earrings, today it’s jeans, khaki and steel-capped boots. Embrace you
Why do males not have these decisions to make? Are we just a bunch of sods that don’t care how we look? Way more discussions about bras and knickers than pants and T’s.
I respectfully disagree on this one @Natalie . Yes, there are some males into fashion statements but I believe most just want to pull on a T or jersey and be done with it. I spend time thinking about which undies I want to wear each day but don’t think twice about what I will cover them with. My fashion choices are determined by what is clean and left lying on top of the laundry machines to be honest.
In saying that, through my journey and experiences I have seen and understood how guys and girls struggle to fit in with appearances and the effect that has on each individual. Gender certainly has a part to play, but my experiences tell me its not necessarily a specific gender only issue.
As I haven’t lived, nor fully grasp your experiences, I can’t disagree with your perspective. And therefore, as you haven’t lived mine, I would be hesitant about others disagreeing with my perspective.
People from all walks of life struggle to fit in. Often women can feel the pressure more to dress and act in a certain way. Believe me, women are very critical of each other’s taste. But likewise, Men can feel like they need to conform to a particular masculine image. Wander too far from that and you’ll cop all sorts of abuse. Some people cope well with ignoring the pressure and judgement of others; but sometimes, many people struggle with how to fit in. All we can do is be kind, inclusive and welcoming.
I hate to say you may be onto something @be3169 , but you may be onto something. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve thrown on a nice dress/nice top and jeans, done my hair and make-up all nice and gone out on a date with hubby, only to have him think a hoodie and jeans are fine. I had to give him a more-direct-than-I-would-like nudge on why a hoodie is not okay on a dinner date (yes, even if we are only going to the local pub) and wearing graphic t-shirts under formal shirts for an interview. If everybody, regardless of gender, cared a little about how they looked and the impression that they created, I think we would all be happier
I have worn graphic shirts under a formal shirt for interviews and other formal occasions, also graphic socks. I think they’re the real me underneath the formal exterior and gave me confidence. Sort of like Clark Kent having the Superman costume beneath his formal clothes.
—absolutely enthralling! Your words create such vivid imagery, it’s like I’m being transported into the moment
. I love this type of intimacy content that makes me feel connected. Can’t wait for your next adventure! 
. Every moment of yours offers me a different experience. It’s not just obsession; it’s genuine fascination. Though the positions may stay the same, the excitement they bring varies for everyone. Each position tells its own story. 
