Played with the idea for a while but forgot to say as well as the Doxy going like im trying to mix concrete it has to be applied with such force / pressure im sure any harness would probably stop any blood flow to her legs if i tightened it that much hahahaha , sorry to sound jokey but you just have to keep smiling , God shes hard work but shes mine and worth it , keep safe lovely people
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My OH has had knee problems since 6 years old and has since developed arthritis in her knees and fibromyalgia. To top it off she suffers from depression. Mentally most of the time she is up for sex on some shape or form but it’s normally her body that stops it i.e. pain or an inability to get wet enough.
Admittedly the wet isn’t an issue, we have plenty of LH lube, her faves bring the quiver and Tracey Cox “O” gel. Mine being the white silky one that looks like cum. We are both pretty adventurous and have been generally active for all 16 years we’ve been together.
Her disability defines her in all honesty, she’s dealt with so much but just keeps going. She’s a big girl, which I love and tell her so regularly so she’s very conscious about things like sex swings but I think if I can get her to try it she would love it as she prefers to be the submissive one of us, in bed at least. She loves me being rough, we recently have played around with sexy fighting.
The biggest issue we seem to face that stops things in the middle of sessions is she suffers with cramps in her calves. Yet to find a solution for this one though.
We have plenty of different toys and would definitely like more but we have 2 major drains on our finances, namely the kids lol.
Anyway, my main point from all of this is that yes disabilities of all kinds suck, but they definitely shouldn’t stop any of us enjoying some sort of sex life. I’ve done more with my disabled OH than I ever did in previous relationships and we plan on doing as much as we can in the future.
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Not me but my aunt’s husband is blind amongst other things, they really love each other and he doesn’t let his disability stop him from doing anything. My aunt met him on a dating app and they really hit it off, they’re married now and are easily the happiest couple I know. Before my aunt he’d been with a fair few other women, most of them didn’t mind his disability.
He’s such a massive inspiration, got such a kind soul and great outlook on life no matter what. I won’t say too much, for anonymity sake, but he also competed in the paralympics!
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Yep, I got with my OH in full knowledge of her knee issues. The fybro has come on since then but she’s always had her scars from 4 knee ops by 16
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Disability’s and Sex…. Or as I like to look at it, what abilities I have and great sex…….
One of the hardest parts about being disabled is being able to fully relax and be intimate without having to worry about it if you disabilities would get in the way…..
I have seven autoimmune diseases and one of those is being type one diabetic and I wear a pump and a sensor
One of the most frustrating things about having a great sex session is the risk of hypos …. That’s why your blood sugar drops so far that you can end up collapsing on the floor passing out slipping into a coma and die…… I know…. It really is that scary.
But that’s nothing compared to what autoimmune disease I have been rheumatoid arthritis…. Trying to perform while in pain is always difficult and can create many other complications throughout the body, including paravascular disease and vascular arthritis…… all leading to complications to performance…….
However…. One of the greatest things I found other than my wife….. is the ability to talk to her about the issues I face during our sessions….
We’ve been able to adapt fine positions that put less pressure on the body at the high-level that she would expect…..
Some of the items that we have got from love honey have certainly helped with these. I have severe rheumatoid arthritis in my hands and sometimes playing with the clitoris can be so painful so things like a magic wand or a good vibrating dildo takes the pressure off me, but still gives her all the pleasure…….
There are many items from love honey that can be used to adapt towards disability and giving great sex to the couples using them….
I actually think love honey should do a course for some of the sales team with actual disabled people to discuss items that they sell and how they can be used for disabled people…… sex should be inclusive for every ability.
It’s all about talking, communicating and being able to prepare yourself and your body for what you’re doing……
Being disabled shouldn’t mean you have no sex or crap sex being disabled means you can have fantastically weird and wonderful and loving sex just like anyone else it just means sometimes you may have to do a handstand to reach that perfect position……..
Anyway, I’ve probably bought you all loads
Hope you all have great and wonderful sessions
Read your post, you’re a true gentleman…….
I hope you and your wife have many more wonderful moments together
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I was just checking up if the presents arrived yet @Tenshadesandme and to see if you had had some fun with them yet?
It’s not December yet @steve19 , though I think after my behaviour today, Santa will have definitely added me to the naughty list 
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There are certain standards that have to be maintained @Tenshadesandme and one is certain, you must misbehave in June and every other month until December when Santa calls again. How/what have you done today? Its a badge of honour to be on the naughty list.
@steve19 I like yogurt on my granola for added protein and my husband said protein is “for the gains”, ie to build muscle. I said “that and satiency” and he didn’t know what satiency meant, so I said “well a girl has to feel full somehow”. It was a thinly veiled reference to the fact that we weren’t having sex in that very moment, so you know, “a girl has to feel full somehow” 
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I did not know what satiency meant either. I like the idea of a girl having to feel full somehow. I’m surprised he did not fill you up there and then! May be he was saving himself for tonight. @Tenshadesandme
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Yes , knew my good lady had problems when we first met
I have a sex chair stool thing that’s helpful. As I can sit on it and my sexual. Partner can be underneath. This supports my joints.
I have EDS.
I also have to be mindful of certain positions, I tend to find me being on top more helpful.
I also oddly find using restraints more helpful as it keeps my joints stable and in place.
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My husband knew when we got together. Not quite sure he knew what he was letting himself in for, but one of the reasons I fell for him was that he saw ME, not my disability. So many people see the disability rather than the person.
My body may be crap in some ways, but it’s pretty good at sex.
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@KinkyMira We love you for who you are, I was not aware of any disability. You are a super individual who enjoys life, a true inspiration in my eyes.
@steve19 I thought I’d mentioned it loads. Basically, I have Fibromyalgia, which in my case presents as a massive lack of energy. I can do anything you like, but only for a short time, and I have to carefully manage my energy levels and what I can do, otherwise I get broken and can do nothing for the rest of the day. Thus (for example) a sex position where I’m supported is much easier on me than one where I’m not. Which is a bugger, as I love Cowgirl and Reverse, but can’t do them often. But when I feel like I can, you can’t stop me (for a bit anyway!).
As far as I’m concerned, if I didn’t live life to the full, I’d be wasting an opportunity, and regret is something I can’t live with. And to be honest, sex is something I can do well, so why wouldn’t I? xx
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Agree with every word @Phil44. For Pete’s sake, I’ve got a first class honours degree, I run a small business, and people still see the disability aid rather than the person. So frustrating.
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I have a friend who suffers just like yourself with energy levels / Fibromyalgia. Fatigue/energy levels effect me as well, big time due to my MS. Its so frustrating, brain says you can do it, the body says NO.
I hope you are feeling a little or more better than last week. I bet this heat does not help. I think the mind set/determination is a big plus so keep on going girl. xxx @KinkyMira
@Lovehoney_Brenna
Thanks for bringing up this topic!
Neurodivergence is not talked about enough.
I hope everyone enjoys this topic and can learn something.
@KinkyMira I didn’t realise you live with Fibromyalgia sweet. I have Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy Type 2 (Causalgia) so I fully get energy and “nope” days. I have other bits and pieces wrong with me too and a few people convinced I have ADHD. I’m resisting looking into that one (not another diagnosis!) but I fear my hamster wheel brain may leave me no choice.
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