Hi. My wife during her first pregnancy was put off sex all together to the point where she was not even interested in masturbating. Whilst pregnant to our second child she was ultra horny to the point where we tried anal for the first time and predominantly did that during the pregnancy. Most of the vibrators she owns were bought during the second pregnancy. She is now more experimental post the second pregnancy. What has everyone elses experience been?
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It has varied a little, but whenever the wife was pregnant the second trimester was usually when any sex would happen. She sometimes had bad heartburn so that put the kibosh on things too. 1st trimester was generally off limits and the 3rd maybe once or twice.
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We had some similar experiences, yes, though not quite so extreme in the dropped interest.
Our very first pregnancy she was very horny quite early, sort of insatiable both for sex and food at 4-5 weeks. But we ultimately lost that babe in a miscarriage at 9 weeks which was very hard.
Second pregnancy she had a less extreme response early and had a lot of fear/anxiety through the first trimester, and then loads of heartburn in the 3rd trimester. We never stopped having sex and remained quite regular, close to every day or every other, though everything was fairly vanilla between exhaustion and just adjusting to changing body. Our boy is now almost 7.
Third pregnancy was much more relaxed for her. Again she never expressed feeling crazy horny or hormones, but by the time we hit second trimester she was really feeling herself and we were back to daily sex at bedtime, and extended romps during weekend naptimes where we began to have quite regular anal sex and double-penetration with toys. In the third trimester, especially those last weeks, we kept with the daily sex, weekend romps, and frequent midnight wakeups for sex/orgasm to help fight her insomnia. By the time we hit 41 weeks people wanted to give the old wink and “you know sex induces labor” to which I wanted to respond I would have to take time off work to fit in any more sex! Our girl is almost 4.
I do miss the pregnant sex sometimes. I was very into her changing and growing body, it was very sexy to me. But we are all done - got the snip-snip two years ago - and definitely have no desire to start over again with any more kids. We have always had a very healthy sex life with frequent experimentation into new things, but I’m so very thankful for that time during the 2nd pregnancy that made anal/DP a more frequent part of our routine. Now we’re just exhausted from chasing both little goobers around all the time, but still make good time for each other!
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I’ve never been pregnant, but these sexual happiness podcasts are a good listen 
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we had sex (more love making)during all 3 of our pregnancies no rampant sex just good slow love making right upto the end, we was told sperm was a great way to start labour. If you can it’s a great way of togetherness.
Great information shared that I have often wondered about. When I married I inherited a very young family and have never experienced a pregnant spouse. After 2 decades I feel I have provided my parental duties even if not my own biological children. That being said, I do find photos and videos of pregnant women having sex to be erotic. I suspect it’s mostly because I have never experienced it and I am also fully aware it’s for money and may not be the most pleasurable experience despite what is portrayed.
I mean, that’s the deal with everything right? Everyone’s experience varies. Even just from reading this thread you can see that plenty of folks lose all interest in sex during pregnancy due to feeling ill or high risk, and some partners struggle with wanting sex either due to mental hangups or (sadly) not being attracted to their pregnant partner.
I’ll just reiterate that for our part, I found my wife to be incredibly sexy pregnant and she, thankfully, was mostly well and experienced periods of absolutely astronomical libido during her pregnancies (as written in my comment above from 2022).
There’s an alternate universe where, if there was no financial cost to raising a child and I had all the time in the world to get sleep other than at night, we would have kept popping them out over and over again and kept her pregnant as many times as possible. Alas, I actually really struggle in parenthood and between financial, environmental, and medical impact, stopping at two was the right choice as us. But dang if those weren’t extremely special seasons.
LOL… good on you for wanting to be a baby factory without the bills. I am surprised by this comment though…
Blockquote or (sadly) not being attracted to their pregnant partner.
As I mentioned, I have not had this experience but would think it to be a very intimate experience for a couple.
Some men get squeamish about the changing body during pregnancy: maybe it’s the changing size and shape, maybe it’s the milk leaking unexpectedly; my wife had severe heartburn and burps and gas throughout; and some guys (yes, pointing the finger at dudes - not sure if woman partners of pregnant folks also get weirded out, but they could) just don’t handle it well.
That wasn’t my experience, but I can understand how some folks just can’t over the mental stuff. Some guys also get a major block about the idea of their penis poking the baby (not a thing that actually happens, but still). Since sex is 90% mental, if you can’t move your mind around these things it can be a real deal.
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Appreciate you sharing your real life experience. I only see what the adult industry produces which I know is not the same.
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Everyone is different on this one.
I’ve had men say they find it super sexy that their partner is carrying their child that sex created and it’s proof they’re virile and fertile…and others say it makes them look at their partner differently…going from a lover to a mother…it puts them off knowing there is a child in there…they want to protect their unborn child and not put any pressure on the growing uterus. Lots of varying concerns.
I went to some ante-natal classes with other mums to be and partners came along too…discussed any issues regarding sex during pregnancy as well as sickness…indigestion…tiredness…birth and delivery etc. It was great as not much was said about sex before delivery or afterwards otherwise…this WAS before Google.
I always wanted sex throughout my pregnancies in each trimester…finding the most comfortable ways in the last trimesters was a giggle…it’s also a great boost as you’re having sex without having the worry about getting pregnant too.
That’s funny and one of the ideas that did cross my mind. Not an issue for me given I am fixed but I do find it humorous that one can’t get pregnant if they are already pregnant.