Sex Ed

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There are some older threads (2010 and 2014) about this, but thought it would be ok to start a new thread :thinking::grimacing:

I just finished listening to S1E31 of the sexual happiness podcast about queer inclusive sex education, and it made me think back about my own sexual education, or rather lack of…

I don’t really remember much from my couple of sex ed classes, only that it was boring. They read from a textbook about how sperm fertilizes an egg and a little about STDs, just reading out sections of it. I had my first period before I had any sex ed classes. My mom hadn’t talked to me at all about it, but some of my friends had gotten their periods around the same time, so I wasn’t surprised, but they were the ones who helped me (I would’ve rather died than have had a sex talk with my dad :neutral_face: ) My mom gave me some pads because she didn’t use tampons, so my friend had to teach me how to use tampons. My husband didn’t get sex ed in school because it wasn’t required, and you needed a parent’s signature to attend, and his parents likely thought, if he learns about sex, then he’ll start having sex, so didn’t let him take the class (and they never had a sex talk with him because it was too awkward) :roll_eyes:

The podcast guest host brought up that it’s not only gay people that have anal sex, straight people have anal sex too, and they should be taught to do it safely too. I thought that was interesting because sex ed usually only teaches about piv safe sex (I wish I had learned about anal sex before getting hurt doing it wrong :-1: ) One of the other podcast hosts had made comments in other episodes that sex ed should include info about sex for pleasure (not just sex leading to pregnancy), which I agree, but I feel like most parent’s wouldn’t want their 12 year olds learning about that…

I know there are a lot of parents on the forum (I don’t have kids, just nieces and nephews), I’m really curious how you would start (or have started) a conversation with your kids or what kind of sex ed you’d want them to receive at school… Did anyone on here really have a good sex talk from their parents or get helpful sex ed at school that prepared them for the real world?

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My view. It’s different now. Growing up there was no resource other than school or maybe a magazine or word of mouth to learn about sex for pleasure.

Now if we want to learn about safe anal sex you Google it and there loads of great information about how to have good safe consensual anal sex. On the flip side porn is also that easy to see and that often gives an unrealistic view.

The problem with schools teaching sex for pleasure is that’s a pretty broad subject where do you stop? Anal, oral, Fetishes, group sex. So I think it’s right for schools to stick to the biology and consent side of things. And just sign post that there are resources available online (not porn) when ready.

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In the UK, following the Gillick ruling, sex ed was very tightly controlled in what we, as teachers, were allowed to teach so please don’t blame schools for the quality of sex education over the last 40 years​:grin:.

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I have never heard of that ruling. When I was in secondary school-Many many Moons ago-we were shown a couple of films that were very detailed. One of which showed pictures of the result of catching an STD, that one film engraved my mind to all way’s be very careful. I doubt they would be able to have shown it once the ruling was put into place.

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Not a direct answer to your questions/commets but one thing I have noticed from my two is just how open secondary school aged kids are to all forms of sexuality: straight, lesbian, gay, bi or whatever they just accept without comment seemingly. Gives one hope for a future without bigotry and other negativity.

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I was kind of like you. I got a book about starting periods & the classes at school were typical of the mid 80s, not helped by the fact that the teacher wasn’t long out of teacher training…
I’ve learned more in my few months on Lovehoney than I ever did at school.
That’s a thought… Lovehoney to take over sex ed classes…

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Gillick Competent
@rockstar

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The original Gillick ruling was 1985.

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We were shown the films shortly prior to that as I recall.
Having just looked at what @VeryCurious6 posted I have heard of the ruling, was just not aware of it’s correct name.

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I agree entirely too and especially about pleasure as in a real world would parents rather their kids masturbate and learn about the positives of self pleasure, or get up the duff underaged thinking sex is sex with no variations :speak_no_evil:

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I remember it, I was only 13…

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Apologies, I didn’t mean to imply you were daft or owt.

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It’s all good, I did not for one second think you were, I appreciated you posting the information that was kind of you :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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