My wife went out recently on a girls evening wearing a totally see through sheer top. She might as well have been totally topless. I did not know what to say it seemed such a shock to me. I just said have a nice time and be safe
have you ever exposed yourself in this way ?
Am I just too sensitive ?
Tony
No I have not. And am single. She was wearing a bra yes? If so then it's not too bad. You're not too sensitive it's better that you are sensitive than not. Perhaps the sheerness of the top enamoured your wife with confidence about her figure. It could be as deep as a puddle, but if it is bothering you its best to communicate with her about it. but don't fall out over it, it's just a top.
It really is just a top! They are in fashion at the moment remember. If she was wearing a bra then what's the problem?
I agree, if she had a bra on there no problem . I've got a couple of sheer tops but they've got a bit of a pattern on them so they don't look quite as revealing .
With a bra, I see no issue at all. Obviously without isn't appropriate in most settings. I've worn things like this out before. However if it really is an issue for you, then have a chat with her about it, maybe one you hear why she wore it, or how it made her feel you may feel differently. Or she may feel differently about it knowing it made you uncomfortable.
I'd wear a cami top under one of these.
Completely agree.
I have plenty of translucent type tops that I wear sometimes when going out.
I usually pair it with a nice cami or bustier or like.
Admittedly it is almost always with my boyfriend, but I will occasionally wear it when out with girls.
I woud never wear it out with nothing under unless I am with him and in an adult setting.
amber
I like wearing sheer tops.......always with a bra underneath though xx
I am not shocked by much these days, people go out wearing much less than a sheer top! If she's wearing a bra or cami underneath then I don't see an issue :)
NatandTom wrote:
I am not shocked by much these days, people go out wearing much less than a sheer top! If she's wearing a bra or cami underneath then I don't see an issue :)
Totally agree - I think you should be proud she had the confidence and felt comfortable wearing it xxxx
Well the thing is she did wear a bra but this was sheer too ( totally see through ). When I first looked at her I thought she was joking or teasing me for some reason. She was going on a night out with adult girl friends to a company function. Still shocked about this and do not know how or what to say to her if anything. She does what she wants
My main concern was her safety but don't know if I am reading to much into this. My wife has fantastic boobs and you can't miss them she is a 36 G. It seemed so out of character for her
Maybe I am old fashioned
Thanks for your input
Tony
A company function?
With her boobs completely seen?
She work for an escort agency?
Why aren't husbands invited to a company function?
Wonder how the other girls were dressed.
I don't even want to think of the argument my boyfriend would have (and rightfully so) if I dressed like that and didn't even take him to something supposedly work related.
The whole outing sounds suspicious as hell.
You are deserved some explanations.
amber
Personally, I think you're overthinking. It's just a shirt. It might seem out of character, but maybe it's something she's always wanted to wear but never felt confident enough to. The way that I see it is that she's an adult, she can wear what she wants. Her friends probably wore similar things. You know how girls are, we tend to check with our friends about outfits first, so we're not over or underdressed. If safety was your concern, remember that girls also tend to do everything together, I mean we even go to the loo together.
If her chest is that noticeable, then it would be so whether she was wearing a sheer shirt or a regular t-shirt. She shouldn't have to miss out on certain styles just because she's blessed up top. I would just let it go and be happy that she felt confident enough to wear something she wanted to wear without worrying what others think.
I have become rather fond of sheer tops. I like wearing a strappy top under them, and it's nice during the summer to keep the sun off, or during slighly cool evenings. If I wore bras in my day to day life I'd be willing to wear them with just a bra, during work I deffo wouldn't mind a bra under them as they are often rather smart. I have considered just wearing pasties under some, however these are very patterned sheer tops which m ake it harder to tell what's under.
At a club I don't see a problem with just a bra under them. Although I must admit I also attend kink events too where people are just wearing clear latex....
Nothing wrong with a sheer top with a bra. But seeings it was a staff event would you really want to go out with a sheer top and nothing underneath? I certainly wouldn't 🙊. Unless she dresses like this usually I would also find it suspicious
I just think perhaps your looking too much into this .
I think fashion is going that way slowly with more flesh on display but it doesn't mean that she is looking for anyone else .She just perhaps wants to feel confident and feminine and doesn't want to be the odd one out amongst the other girls. As some of the other posters have said girls always do things together .
The only question I would as is Why won't you wear that combination for me ?
As Mysteron has said, I would be questioning "why do you not wear this when out with me?"
The other thing that's in my mind is that you say this seems out of character for her.
I had a similar situation with my ex where she would wear and do stuff when out with friends, but never with me.
Anyway, the best thing to do is to speak to her about it. Bottling it up and getting everyone else's opinions (valuable as they may be) will never truly put your mind at ease. Only knowing what's happening in your wife's mind and thoughts will give you clarity.
amber_angel wrote:
A company function?
With her boobs completely seen?
She work for an escort agency?
Why aren't husbands invited to a company function?
Wonder how the other girls were dressed.
I don't even want to think of the argument my boyfriend would have (and rightfully so) if I dressed like that and didn't even take him to something supposedly work related.
The whole outing sounds suspicious as hell.
You are deserved some explanations.
amber
I think it's a bit of an over reaction to suggest that she works for an escort agency just because she's worn a sheer top ! ( not that there's anything wrong with that if it is your chosen profession)
Maybe Tony was invited to the company function and declined to go ( we don't know the answer to that yet )....they're not everyones cup of tea, my OH would hate having to attend that sort of thing. As others have said she might just want to be the same as the rest of the girls and it maybe gave her some extra confidence too.
Either way , in this day and age women are free to wear what they want without having to have their outfit vetoed by their husband or boyfriend before they leave the house .
If they're are any real concerns about other aspects of her behaviour being out of the ordinary then I agree that needs to be discussed.
wildflower wrote:
amber_angel wrote:
A company function?
With her boobs completely seen?
She work for an escort agency?
Why aren't husbands invited to a company function?
Wonder how the other girls were dressed.
I don't even want to think of the argument my boyfriend would have (and rightfully so) if I dressed like that and didn't even take him to something supposedly work related.
The whole outing sounds suspicious as hell.
You are deserved some explanations.
amber
I think it's a bit of an over reaction to suggest that she works for an escort agency just because she's worn a sheer top ! ( not that there's anything wrong with that if it is your chosen profession)
Maybe Tony was invited to the company function and declined to go ( we don't know the answer to that yet )....they're not everyones cup of tea, my OH would hate having to attend that sort of thing. As others have said she might just want to be the same as the rest of the girls and it maybe gave her some extra confidence too.
Either way , in this day and age women are free to wear what they want without having to have their outfit vetoed by their husband or boyfriend before they leave the house .
If they're are any real concerns about other aspects of her behaviour being out of the ordinary then I agree that needs to be discussed.
I missed the escort comment. However, generally I've found working as an escort, not everyone will dress revealing when going out during their non-work time.Whilst I Dom now, and escorted in the past, most of the time I'd wear jeans / leggings and a comfy top,
I've met people at work events, seen people even work in offices, where they are showing a bit of bra off or wearing a sheer top. I've also seen it a lot in popular girls movies where the women wearing such items are often the higher ups in the org.
From my recent shopping trips, I have seen loads of sheer tops (just ordered one today, and saw a few the other week whilst shopping from younger womens clothing stores to older). They just seem to be in right now =).
Yeah, they are very much in fashion right now , I have some and quite like them . Yes they show a bit of bra but I often wear fairly low cut tops anyway so its not that different :)