Long time lurker, first time poster. I could have posted this when I was 19, really really shouldn't be posting it at 28!
I am married to a lovely chap, over the last 2 years we have had our ups and downs for one reason or another. Mostly because of his work and behaviour, he would agree with that I know, but also I wasn't perfect.
As a result I had a short affair last Summer. I am not making excuses or trying to pretend that it wasn't my fault. Anyway, I told him and we worked out where we were heading and have put all of that behind us.
Then the really really stupid thing happened. The text messages and photos to do with the affair where on my iPad, synced from my phone, and I had totally forgotten. We never use my ipad. Before Christmas he needed it for something or other and I told him my passcode. There were a load of messages, not between me and the other guy, but between me and a friend talking about the affair and especially about the sex, in a lot of detail.
There was also a lot of photos that he or I had taken, a lot just me in undies or topless, but enough of me sucking him, or with cum on my face or boobs. There was also one of me riding him taken in a full length mirror, you can see everything, absolutely everything!
My husband told me he had seen and it was sorrrrt of OK but now it is an issue everytime we have sex, or at least try to have sex. The text messages were very explicit about things like size and err cum, and the photos, particularly the one on the chair in the mirror, leave him in no doubt about what happened.
My husband isn't naive, he and I have enjoed a lot of chats about previous boyfriends and that side of my life. He even gave me a pass a few years ago for a girlie holiday with a couple of single friends and he certainly wanted to hear the stories which came back from that week.
But this is different, he says that everytime we try to make love he sees ... you can guess.
One thing which also rankles is that he read my text messages and we have not really cleared that up either but it is very hard for me to complain.
What can I do to get things back?