i am a sub and was just wondering what other subs like doing.
for example: i love breath play and spanking and i resently found out that i love it when my master pretends to be a zombie and bites me like hes pretending to eat me.
i was also wondering what rules Masters had set for you
being in a long distance relationship mine include not being alowed to call on skype and insted having to ask Master to call.
I read the thread title and my innocent mind thought it was referring to sandwiches...
well im sure theres always room for a thread on sandwiches AliMc :)
Evening Rag Doll.
Personally I can;t abide breath play- Scares the life out of me. Personal Kinks - Rope Bondage, Cuffs & Chain or spreader bar, Some flogging, have discovered recently a great love of Clothespegs *squeals*. But push comes to shove, for me, It's the orders - and my compliance that make the fun.
Master and I are also in an LDR. Rules, we dont have many (yet) just starting out. But "Not without permission" is one rule there's no budging on (Chastity, no masturbation). I get a fair amount of instruction and play (resulting in Master laughing his head off when I managed to cuff myself into a rather complciated position and mewled pitifully when I realised I was stuck) - But he gives me a lot of trust by taking me at my word when I say I haven't played, and So I dont play as I wouldnt want to abuse such trust.
I get set tasks and occasionally punishments. Tasks can be as simple as "You are going to the Gym", as otherwise I'm inclined to lounge all over my sofa if left to my own devices. Or I have to wear my collar in public (I have a public collar, a plain leather choker, and a Private collar - With the rings on). I often get set tasks such as "Wear the vibrating egg while going grocery shopping", which can result in a very squirmy uptight sub arriving back to talk to him in the evenings.
My other tasks have included Drawings (I'm arty and he encourages me), so I was struggling with drawing women, so my task was 15 faces of women with x y z expressions and I had to show what photos or screenshots I'd used. Given some of the requested images, I spent probably 4 hours browsing porn which was almost torturous...
Punishments, I havent earned many yet (And I intend to keep it that way, I like being good for him), But they're either clothespegs related, or Are being made into a list to be executed when we next get together.
We're still working on whetrher he wants to give me a petname and what it would be.
Yeah, fun and games ^_^
rag doll wrote:
i am a sub and was just wondering what other subs like doing.
Surely, "whatever they're damn well told to!"
Mr Monster wrote:
rag doll wrote:
i am a sub and was just wondering what other subs like doing.
Surely, "whatever they're damn well told to!"
Bwahahaha indeed Monster!
as i understand it if you are a sub it is of no interest what you like it is about what your dom likes.
But that is why I dont understand it because if it is all about the dom, why would anybody be a sub, my mind works logically I would love someone to explain, and I have been with a dominatrix I just didnt understand what I was doing or maybe even feeling
gunther wrote:
as i understand it if you are a sub it is of no interest what you like it is about what your dom likes
I understood that it was a transferance of power but should be consential. Therefore what a sub likes or dislikes is very much at the centre of a s/D relationship.
xGGx
I'm naturally quite submissive with my partner as I just prefer him to take the dominating role. There is some joy taken from this as it pleasures me just to please him. Even though it appears one sided- it's not. Oh, and I don't call him master- I think that's too far along for us.
I don't have any kinks outside the usual experimenting with occasional spanking etc but tbh being in a LDR there's not much chance to go through all of what we'd like to do. The zombie thing actually sounds interesting lol. Although I think we'll just try out a nip or two to see if we'd like it.
I just generally enjoy it when he's in control as I know he'll tease me but know that he's aware fully well of how to push my buttons. So win-win!
Part of the thrill is putting your trust into your partner. I wouldn't mind playing the dom role though as long as he wears a blindfold so it's easier to do so. =]
gunther wrote:
But that is why I dont understand it because if it is all about the dom, why would anybody be a sub, my mind works logically I would love someone to explain, and I have been with a dominatrix I just didnt understand what I was doing or maybe even feeling
because Doms get happy feelings from taking control over a person and submissive like the control being taken from them ( in a consentual way)
there's also sciency things about endorphins and mental play that both subs and doms like
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To answer the original posters question
There's a lot i like but my favorite has to be breast play - anything with nipple clamps. weights and breast binding/bondage
sensory depravation is always fun, spanking is nice, pussy spanking too, hot wax play, any kind of bondage is fine - chains,rope and tape.
as for punishments, not really played in that kind of way really, but occasionally spanking or whipping with something that is on the edge of my thresholds.
rules - I don't really have a master and i don't lifestyle sub ( as havent got that trust with someone) so not had any rules
gunther wrote:
as i understand it if you are a sub it is of no interest what you like it is about what your dom likes.
But that is why I dont understand it because if it is all about the dom, why would anybody be a sub, my mind works logically I would love someone to explain, and I have been with a dominatrix I just didnt understand what I was doing or maybe even feeling
As Ghostgirl says it's a power transference. The "Sub" having no say is very much more of the Master/Slave end of things rather than the Dominance&submission.
Safe Sane and Consensual is very much part ot the BDSM -I hate the word "Scene" but its the most approptiate here- As a submissive in a Dom/Sub relationship rather than just "Kinks", for me its about trust, and me making him happy, I allow myself to be "Enjoyed" in whatever way takes his fancy.
That doesnt mean there aren't limits. When we set out we sat down and discussed what each of us did/didnt like, what were "Hard No's" (Mine are breathplay and Watersports - Both will never be yesses for me), and what were "Soft No's", i.e. things I am uncomfortable with but would not be completely adverse to exploring in future.
For my part: I enjoy the power transferrence and the no-control appearance of it (I have Safewords, but aside from pre-discussed limits I am put to whatever use). What do I get out of it? Master enjoys my screams and squeals of pleasure and pain (that sentence sounds much worse than it is), and so he will play essentially often to please me, because he enjoys it. *complicated mess*
For my part, I obey orders and instructions. If I'm told to arrive for dinner with no underwear and a remote control vibe in I do it. If I want to climax I ask permission, and If he declines then I damn well better keep control of myself. If I'm told to strip off and play with myself for his viewing entertainment I do so. If I'm told to rest my face on the floor and stick my ass in the air I do it.
And for me its the orders I enjoy, the compliance, the sheer often embarrasing and risque situations I may find myself in in public. It's the willingness to hand control of my own orgasms over to another. It's about the trust that goes hand and hand with that.
My role is essentially as his property (I know how bad that reads - but its the best way of explaining) I am his most well cared for, most prized and enjoyed possession.
Master and Slave is this but to a further extreme. The Slave has no say at all in their own pleasures or whatever, Masters Word is the be all and end all.
I refer to Master as master, and he calls me his little slave on occasion, but I have the right to object if I need to, but often I don't feel I need to or want to because I enjoy pleasing him.
Quote I once read. "The Best Submissives come to you on their knees whispering of Love". Submission isnt something that's taken by force. To me it's the most valuable thing I have to offer him, and I offer it willingly and with trust and care.
Does that make sense or am I waffling?
ghostgirl wrote:
gunther wrote:
as i understand it if you are a sub it is of no interest what you like it is about what your dom likes
I understood that it was a transferance of power but should be consential. Therefore what a sub likes or dislikes is very much at the centre of a s/D relationship.
xGGx
You selectively quoted me but didnt answer, having been in a non sexual situation completely submisive and not through choice I think the sub must be in charge, the dom is actually controlled by the sub or the sub walks away and its game over
but it isnt really my kick
MsEllie wrote:
Does that make sense or am I waffling?
Ellie it makes sense in terms of the game or the scene as you call it. I am making up a document of my experience which I will post some how, may be in erotic fiction but it isnt actually fiction. Some things about it trouble me, so I will think about it before i do it.
gunther wrote:
ghostgirl wrote:
gunther wrote:
as i understand it if you are a sub it is of no interest what you like it is about what your dom likes
I understood that it was a transferance of power but should be consential. Therefore what a sub likes or dislikes is very much at the centre of a s/D relationship.
xGGx
You selectively quoted me but didnt answer, having been in a non sexual situation completely submisive and not through choice I think the sub must be in charge, the dom is actually controlled by the sub or the sub walks away and its game over
That's part of it, too; the term "power exchange" isn't about one person handing all power over to another - control, yes, but not power - it's about a mutual investment in and development of the relationship, however permanent or temporary that relationship may be. I've always found the Nietzsche-esque musing on the master-slave relationship to be quite on target, even if they are commonly mis-interpretted (see Hitler's version of the ubermensch!). The Master cannot be a master without a slave in his thrall, and a Slave cannot be a slave without a master to rule them, thus both are reliant on the other in an almost symbiotic way, and would be reduced to nothingness without the other to define them. so the 'balance of power' is a true balance, with both parties contributing (and benefitting, when we're viewing a consentual dynamic) equally, albeit in extremely different ways.
The sub does get to set rules, as they are not truly without control. Usually, this will be in the form of setting limits before any play begins, having the option to 'tap out' via a safeword or other mechanic, and of course having the option to walk away if at any time they no longer wish to continue. However, that does not give them more power or more control than the dominant party, as they as will have their limits that have to be adhered to, can also dictate when a session or scene must end, and can leave just as freely. In these respects, both are equal, and no individual's set of limits or will to continue may trump the other's. Where the illusion of power comes from is that, within these parameters, the dom gets to exercise control, dictating play and deciding what happens next. If you imagine a scenario where you and your wife always have lunch together, and ye have agreed on set times that suit and such, and you know her food allergies, her likes and dislikes, but every day you may choose where to eat and order for both. You might decide to be mean, and not order the thing you know she craves that day, instead giving her something she will still like, or you might decide to give her what she truly desires, but you are the one who gets to place the order and she must eat whatever's put in front of her, as long as it conforms to the rules you've agreed on. Sounds silly in such a context, but that is essentially how the dynamic works.
As to why people enjoy it, the reasons will vary from person to person. Some cherish the intimacy and trust, where you let someone have control over you, let them see as much of you as they wish (within your limits), and believe that they will honour your wishes should things get too much. Some like the freedom of giving up their decision-making to another, being much like a child or pet being guided by someone else. Some like the fear of feeling forced into situations one wouldn't normally choose (without the risk of being in genuine danger). There's so many reasons, and many more that can't even be expressed in words other than "I just need it".
Miss Ellie i envie Your devotion to Your Master and hope that one day Master wil help me be that good. i also have a public and private collar, of sorts, and also leather cuffs that i can wear in public but Master isnt too strict about them. my collar is a mettal one with the O ring skrewing off so i wear that part under my clothes in public.
im very pleased also about the intrest my Post has sparked and love hearing others views on what D/s means to them.
oh and for those who seem a little confused: of course what Master sayes goes, i was just particuly interested in what other subs particuler Kinks are and if anyone had any interesting rules.
and please feel free to ask me about any of the things i like (i like lots more, was just giving some examples)
as a male i like being spanked, whipped, nipple play, strap on fun and deressing up i like more but i will let u know in chat if ur there xxxxx
sorry DOC1, Master doesnt approve of me accepting friend requests. im sure any discousion can be done on his forum though. or you can always make another and id be very happy to talk there
its ok i understand some stuff i dont want the world to know lol
xxx
what else do u enjoy xxx
love it when Master whispers dirty things in my ear and calls be his little fuck toy. and i love rope bondage. would love to try suspention one day.
anyoe tried suspention? not realy something you can do at home unless you got good exposed beams.
also fun when Master stops my wee from coming out using his finger (not realy an exclusivly Dom/sub thing)
whats your favorite thing to dress up in/as DOC1?