Hi my first wife and I were into swinging for roughly 23 years, most of our married lives experiencing mfmf, ffm, mmf and on quite a few occasions my wife experienced 4 maybe 5 guys at any one time with their wives and I watching. There were times when we visited friends who we never thought about in a sexual nature but ended up swapping for the night.
But you must talk to each other and have no secrets, which will build a strong bond. Wefound that at the end of the night we would have intercourse while telling each other about our experiences, who and what we had enjoyed and how it felt.
You will notice I said first wife. She broke that bond that we had, Lying about where she was going and who with.
My new wife has now started to show an interest in swapping saying she would like to watch me with another woman and also join in with us and how she would adore feeling another guy or two inside her. She has taken another step by watching porn on swapping and on gang banging. She is now also talking about when she feels the guys inside it would be wonderful because she is now 56 and does not need to use protection.
My boyfriend of 9 years and i are just dipping our toes into swinging. We did try a few years ago but I can now say we weren't ready, we were looking for a single bi fem however didn't really find anyone we liked. Now a few years later we are both much more open and honest and are looking to couple swap. No parties or clubs for us as yet .. thou this is something We want to do in the future. I would defiantly recommend joining a swinging website or even just checking out porn related to swinging mmf ffm etc I know it's not realistic but there is some hot amateur stuff out there. You might be surprised at how you feel. But you have to be secure and trust each other, otherwise it will just find all the holes in the relationship ship
We've spoken about swinging and maybe even a threesome or foursome but we both agree that we need to be 150% sure on the idea. Neither of us are that sure so for the time being i dont think we will be doing.
sounds to me like you are not comfortable, then really at this stage i would not do it. I think swinging in any form is one of those things both of you need to be into to give it a go.
You could propose a compromise, make your own private video together and watch it back something like that that allows him a bit of voyerusuem but involves just the two of you.
she is now 56 and does not need to use protection.
I'm sorry but that's not true at all. Even if you can't get pregnant, there is still the very real chance of contracting and STI through unprotected sex.
I've never been in a situation where other participants have not used protection. It's just common sense.
It's not something I've ever considered and not sure I would but I just want to comment on the fact how great the responses to this post have been! It's great to read varying opinions and also both sides of the coin! I've actually learnt a fair bit by reading these responses. Thanks folks!
We're in an open marriage but we're not swingers. We thought about swinging and went to a swingers club about 10 years ago, we just realised its not really for us as often one of us might not be attracted to the OH of the other couple. Then we agreed we'd just have an open marriage to allow us to seperately have fun with other people on a discretional basis as to not let family/friends know we're non-monogamous.
We've done quite a few mfm and fmf threesomes in the past, I've done a gangbang. We're really open minded and don't get jealous anymore considering we're still happily married. We just try to keep it quiet as a lot of people are very judgemental.
I think i like the idea of it more than it happening.I think that is the same then maybe some things are best as fantasy. That said there are many couples they suit this lifestyle but i think you both have to want to explore it.
I've been involved in the swinging scene for many years 5 years as a single female and 4 yrs as a couple I met my current partner at a swingers house party is joined a swingers site called Fab swingers it's free to register site and you can browse profiles and watch webcam action to try out some mutual play & flirting general chatting People on there are very friendly and it also lists different swinging clubs with feedback about the clubs most clubs are set up with a social/ bar area so if you venture inside it's just like been inside a fancy bar / night club members are usually dressed in general clothing but they do have a dress code policy some ladies dress up in sexy outfits and most men don't get naked around the social areas they tend to wear a towel or boxers Some clubs also having swimming pools and jucuzzis and saunas there's private lockable rooms too so there's no issues with uninvited guests or a voyeurs room which is a room with a 2 way mirror window they can watch any fun your doing without you seeing them 121 meets are a good icebreaker once you get a rapore chatting you can meet up after a phone chat at a public place and have a drink & chat to see how it goes and if you get on you can take them to yours or their place Sometimes you can just do "soft swing" which means you just do a bit of flirting and touch on the other couple but you have sex only with your own partners I know sometimes seeing your partner been played with can be a turn on or it can also make you jealous but it's to be total consentual and it's not cheating on each other Best of luck
Quite some time ago my wife and I had our only MMF experience. We spent a night at a good friend’s house where my wife spent part of the night in bed with our friend and the rest of the night in bed with me. No jealousy or awkwardness. It was an intensely erotic experience for all three of us.
I would never judge anyone for doing it but it’s definitely not for me. I could never share my man. I’ve waited a long time to meet a man like him and there’s no way I’d let someone else get their hands on him. Likewise, I wouldn’t let anyone touch me. I’m his and only his. I don’t mind if someone spots us from afar, and I don’t know they’re watching... and we’ve definitely put ourselves in situations where we could be spotted... but I wouldn’t want anyone else in the same room. I don’t like the thought of another person being turned on by seeing him naked. His bits are mine and mine to enjoy only, visually and physically.