@SteelA1 talking on here has helped me tremendously this week, there’s plenty of us here to listen and hopefully help if you need it. Be kind to yourself and take care xxx
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Same here, I know I’ve not opened up much on here. But when I have it’s made feel so much better, and others are here to listen, and give me heartwarming comments back when I did talk. We’re always here 
I kept things to myself and it just makes me feel worse, so please don’t hesitate to open up and keep it to yourself. We’re here when you’re ready 
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That’s what’s so good about this community everyone is willing to give sensible impartial help and advise on any subject or problem. We’re here to help and support anyone who needs it.
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Definitely not upsetting anyone @SteelA1 
It might be worth having your own topic or talking on here, it’s always helped me to get people’s opinions. I don’t have much advice to add since I’d just be giving advice that I wouldn’t take myself! I’d just say that @Rhilee is right, we only have one life and you deserve to be happy.
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And if you want advice on your situation @SteelA1 it’s best to ask/make it open that you’re looking for some. 
That way it gives people an opportunity to give some without feeling they’re overstepping the mark. 
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yep, the Cheer me up thread is where we go to read short snippets of things that are going well for us and put everyone in a good mood
@SteelA1 : there are numerous threads on cheating (not something that cheers us up) you could tag onto or as Kitty Cat suggests, start your own
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I don’t think @SteelA1 or anyone else is considering cheating, just getting some advice on what sounds like a difficult situation. Obviously I don’t know the full situation but, if anything, it sounds like he doesn’t want to cheat or end his marriage at all x
Anyway, I think we should probably leave this topic alone unless @SteelA1 actually wants to talk about it 
It’s a bit presumptuous to discuss someone’s life without them wanting the input 
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I’m sorry guys I’m going to have to disappear for a while I think. My heads everywhere at the moment and don’t want to be spreading doom and gloom everywhere (which I feel is all’s I do lately but really what I don’t intend on!) I appreciate everyone taking the time to comment and what everyone has said so much, it means a great deal!
I don’t want to be that person everyone rolls their eyes at when they see I’ve posted something.
I love the forum and it’s helped me so much over the past few months, I’m so glad I found it!
I’m sorry if I’ve wasted peoples time over any of this. Hope you’re all well, I’ll keep my account open and hopefully be back soon
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Listen mate, that’s what we’re here for, we have got your back. Please stay, and we’ll give you any support or advice we can.
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I know you all would have my back, and maybe it shouldn’t but that in itself makes me overthink like you wouldn’t believe! I feel that that’s me being a burden on people who all have their own battles going on! I’ve always been like a rock! Always had my own back but lately I’m a shadow of a man I used to be and for the life of me I don’t know how that’s happened!
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Honestly we all have different life experiences and problems that makes us understand and have the perspective to help. Trust me, nobody on this forum is a burden. I’ve been here for over 10 years, trust me!
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Seconding @WillC, please dont feel like a burden. One of the good things about this place is it lets everyone let of steam and vent.
Like you said everyone has had our own struggles, thats why we all understand when other people are going through hard times too.
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It means a lot mate honestly. I just think my life is slipping away from me at the minute though. Work is crazy busy at the moment and home life is none existent and while I know that’s probably all my fault I need to work to keep living the way we do! I’m so tired, I’ve done over 70 hours this week already and I’m in tomorrow and Sunday again! I feel I’m on the verge of breaking down if I’m honest and need to try and switch off, I just can’t manage to let myself do that though 
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Thank you! It really does mean so much that everyone gives the time to chat and understand things! I know it’s not easy! Just not sure where my heads at lately
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Trust me i’ve been there and done that in my younger years in a very hot steel mill, and it did affect my mental health, so don’t be afraid to vent here.
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Being tired, I can deal with that! I’ll have plenty of time to sleep when the inevitable eventually comes around! It’s my overthinking that really wipes me out! I don’t know how to fix that! Work keeps my brain away from doing it but as soon as I stop I’m done for! I find myself outside the house some nights for at least an hour before I go inside! I’ll just have to stop it and put it to the back of my mind I suppose! I don’t want to be the cause of anyone else’s misery because Of my misery!
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I’m agreeing with @WillC and @Green_Eyed_Girl, you’re not bringing anyone down, it’s lovely to have you with us. If you feel you need a break from the forum then we’ll understand and look forward to having you back with us when you’re ready but we’d rather you didn’t go! I’m sorry you’re going through such a rough time at the moment, if there’s anything we can help with or anything you want to talk through please let us know, we’re happy to help in whatever small way we can xx
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I’m sorry I wrote it on that thread mate. I didn’t even realise if I’m honest. Sorry mate
Believe me i’ve been there, I was ok at work cos my brain was occupied, but at home when i was supposedly relaxing my brain was over-thinking to the max, and not in a good way.
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@Kitty-Cat01 thank you. I’ve got a lot of thinking to I think! Even though that’s a bit of a crazy thing to say as thinking too much is a big problem of mine 
Xx
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