Hi @WordsOfMrA , I did a bit of Googling and could just post the straight forward answer that in 2001, Dan Savage challenged readers of his column to coin a name for “the sex act in which a woman uses a strap-on dildo to perform anal sex on her male partner”. After multiple nominations and a reader vote, the verb “peg” was chosen, with a 43% plurality over runners-up “bob” and “punt”. It seems to have stuck from there.
However, in the course of my Googling I came across this article, which, once you get past the issues with the terminology I thought was a really interesting read with parts we could definitely incorporate into our guide. What do people think?
Hi @Peitho. Thanks for that, it makes for a good read.
Given the only options, ‘pegging’ is definitely the best term but I wholely agree with the article…anal play is a much better wording for it!
Thanks again.
Thats a really good read, really important to get another perspective of it. And I think that everyones feelings about pegging with differ slightly.
For me pegging is exactly what they’ve said, anal sex with a strap on and everyone can peg or be pegged. It’s not just women penetrating men. But I get that someone decided it needed its own name.
I think that article also confirms the need to remove gender from the wiki, bc its not just a woman penetrating a man and to say that it is, excludes a lot of peoples experiences.
There was only 1 reference, so I’ve taken it out and added a wee bit to the opening paragraph of Why do people peg? but I feel it needs a tweak, if someone wants to jump in.
It was kind of funny how I became a fan of anal play that led to pegging . After some heavy partying and a quick shower together , we got on the bed and were starting to warm up for some sensual action . Starting off in 69 I felt an unannounced finger penetrate my anus . At that point I found out my wife had wanted to anally play with me for 15 years but was scared to ask or bring it up . I "warmed up " to it quickly , even though I had never considered it . Within a week or so she was pegging me and I have never looked back .
Another section people do not talk much about is prepping and tips for making it less messy . I find my body guides me to when is a good time . After a bowl movement , there is more room and less chance of a mess . I have tried anal douching with limited results , often making things worse . That’s just me , anybody else with tips ?
Im open minded to the subject, but think id feel very out of control… obviously a large degree of trust is involved in such a sensitive region… having a finger inserted or vibrator held against anus feels great, but still a bit worried about deep penetration.!!
That is a large part of the arousal , her being the dominate one . For many guys it will be the first time you gave up control . Wife started pegging me a short twenty years ago , now it is a craving . I personally think a good presentation is a large part of having a repeat visiter to my back door . I have been hair free for at least 15 years along with learning how and when it will be a cleaner experience .
Would it be worth advising against anal numbing lube, as that can result in getting hurt if you can’t feel when you need your partner to stop or slow down?
I would love to be able to recommend a podcast called ‘ruby ryder - pegging paradise episode #122’ for givers new to the idea of pegging from their parter
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People will have their own preferences. I’ve only tried a harness and it felt odd at first but thats just because it was new. It was grand after wearing it a while.
Personally I wouldn’t want to wear the briefs and other people will wear them and it’ll feel right.
Thanks. I’ve read the wiki details.
My wife isn’t asking me - it’s more an intrigue I have as to why I’m not keen on it? I’m happy to try out female anal play so I should be happy with the reverse I guess.
not sure why? Any thoughts guys?