Warning! Warning! Rant coming on! If anyone has watched this show I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts. I've just ranted on my blog about it so here are my thoughts, but what do you think?
There's a rather ridiculous programme on UK television at the minute on Channel 4 called http://sexperienceuk.channel4.com/sex-education. Exactly, versus pornography. Not a well rounded debate about pornography. Not a documentary on its history and effect on modern society. But a show against it.
It's designed for teenagers to discuss teenage sex. Now as the UK has a ridiculous teenage pregnancy rate which is downright shameful to be honest, discussing this topic is no bad thing. Trouble is the presenter, Anna Richardson, and producers seem to have assumed we must take a position to criticise pornography and generally anything to do with sex it seems.
I was 16 when I first had sex. A pretty average age in the UK (and the legal age). In no way do I condone kids having sex before the legal age or before they are ready. But I am also not going to deny that teenagers (and younger kids) have sex drives. The show to me, represents teenage sexuality as a very negative thing. Ignorant kids watching too much porn which their parents are oblivious to and getting into trouble as a result. That's a pretty damning criticism and to be fair, it's not quite that bad, but it ain't far off.
They are obviously trying to do some good work with some schools, by coming in and talking and showing normal human bodies and teenagers' experience of porn and sex. But I find the presenter's attitude so negative.
Instead of an enlightened, genuine debate, she seems to come in with a rash of assumptions and we only really hear one side of the story. This is what the kids have seen and done and oh isn't it bad. Well actually no, it's not that bad.
My main complaint is that this negative attitude as I see it, suggests that teenagers shouldn't be sexual at all. Instead of suggesting that we all need to know and respect our boundaries and experiment in a safe way. They are saying no to porn, criticising it heavily for its fakeness, instead of arguing for better, more realistic pornography.
Even the sections on male and female bodies, which could be very useful, seem to have picked a very small selection of body types. Only thin people need apply! How is that helpful?
I love porn. I find it very useful! But I do strongly wish it would be more realistic, less false, more loving. It's such a pity that a programme like this which could spark genuine debate, instead focuses on the negative aspects.
The presenter is, as I type, speaking to people about their sex lives and sex toys. But her premise seems to be that we are all pressurised into sex and using sex toys. Um hello? What about the positive aspects of these toys? I do think that looking at the sexualisation of society is very useful, and talking to and helping people who do feel pressurised. But what about representing the other side? Do you really feel pressurised to be sexual all the time? Do you? I sure don't. So why not a more balanced look at this issue.
She has just visited the major supermarkets, to find, SHOCK HORROR! that they sell cock rings and lubricants designed to pleasure. This again is represented as a negative thing by her.
Why?
I cannot see why on earth there is anything wrong with sainsburys (or in her words "middle class waitrose" ahem!) selling rings and gels. They sell condoms so why not? Why our her words on the rabbit vibrator - "what do you do with that?" said in a way in which it appears scary and weird.
Last night they had a stat that two thirds of teenage girls shaved or waxed their pubic hair. This was suggested as evidence as to the sexualisation of society. But um, of course they do because they probably swim! Really, of course we all look after our pubic hair to some degree, we simply would not be allowed in a public pool if we did not! It is the use of this kind of statistic in this way that I have a problem with. It does not demonstrate the sexualisation of society. Trimming pubic hair does not equal sex!
Another great TV generated moment from the show was when they showed some of the parents what their teenagers were watching porn wise. We only got to see the audience's reactions but everyone was completely horrified. Everyone? Surely someone would say 'nah that's ok'. Nope. This is mob rule. You are a parent so you must be horrified by porn. Oh come on! How does that help an informed debate?
Oh and by typing porn into google as she did, you'll find child pornography within 45 seconds. Yeah right. Thankfully I have never come across child pornography. I feel this was far-fetched and designed to be alarmist and therefore 'good television'.
So my biggest issue with this programme is that it is overly alarmist. Instead of brokering open discussion, it has taken a stance and by god it's going to mis-use everything it can to justify this side of the story. Pity that it won't create debate in an enlightening and useful way.
Ultimately, I see it as evidence that the times they are a' changin'. Kiss goodbye to the glory days of open pornography on the web. The shutters are coming down fast, welcome sanctions and restrictions. I think our attitudes to pornography go through cycles of boom and bust. For example, 1970s mainstream porn films to porn being shut firmly away in licensed sex shops in some areas only. We've had the open and free internet, hope you enjoyed it while it lasted because I think things are changing for the worst.
Anyway as to the programme, it's on for the rest of the week so go make up your own mind.