^should have said 'our males' not 'us males'
I’ve been very curious about trying a threesome or group with another couple. I have mentioned it to my wife but she quickly said she wasn’t interested. I think we have a stong enough relationship that getting others involved in our sex life atleast once to try it wouldn’t cause any issues. Plus I even know of a couple that we are friends with that it think would be interested. Even if we start by playing some games that involve taking or clothes off in front of each other would be erotic for me and I think my wife would actually be interested too. I know she is a bit on the jealous girl side but I still have hope. Anyone have any suggestions on how to talk to my wife about this and maybe make something happen? Also, would you all recommend doing it with a stranger(s) or someone we know?
AMcouple5231 wrote:
I have mentioned it to my wife but she quickly said she wasn’t interested.
I know she is a bit on the jealous girl side but I still have hope.
I am afraid those two points will make it pretty hard, but not impossible.
AMcouple5231 wrote:
Also, would you all recommend doing it with a stranger(s) or someone we know?
We chose the someone you know option because I always relax more being intimate with someone I know. If you have some possibles, that is good, as it means you can be a little more than abstract in your conversation with your wife.
AMcouple5231 wrote:
Anyone have any suggestions on how to talk to my wife about this and maybe make something happen?
Tough one. Be prepared for an opportunity. Do you ever talk about fantasies? That might be a good way to reintroduce the subject. You do have to be careful, as she has already said she isn't interested. But (for example) it might be that she has an image in her mind of picking someone up in a bar, and she isn't interested in that - I wouldn't be. Would the fact that it is a friend improve matters, or make it worse? If she is jealous, would she be able to get past you shagging a friend of hers?
I probably haven't helped, but I think being prepared for the conversation is key, and then that ongoing conversation is all important. But fundamentally, if she doesn't want to do it, then it'll have to remain as a fantasy.
Thank you for the thoughts! I definitely will have to keep bringing it up among ptgee conversations. We haven’t talked too much about our fantasies but she definitely knows I am a little more adventurous and comfortable with my sexuality so it’s no surprise to her when I talk about sex all the time or bring up random strange topics.
I’ve yet to mention to her the couple that I think would be interested in doing stuff with us. I don’t think it would upset her that I suggest it but I will still tread litely. Thanks again!
I’d love to hear from others as well! Like i mentioned before. We have never done anything like this but I think we would both really enjoy it.
Let me know your experiences when first talking to your OH about it
Me and my hubby had one about 6yrs ago with his best mate.
I can honestly say it wasn’t planned, we never even spoke about it. Fair to say my OH and his mate where a bit tipsy as they’ve been out. My hubby just whispered in my ear that he wants to fuck me now and that he wants his mate to join in. Well with that I was horny as fuck. And it was one of the best night of my life ever.
Well for us it worked out, we’ve been together 15yrs married 8yrs. He’s still very good friends with this other bloke (who’s now married, he was single I’d like to add)
It worked out well for us, as we still talk about it now and sometimes talk about doing again with someone else obviously.
But everyone is different and you both have to feel comfortable otherwise it’s a time bomb ready to blow.
Hi I was wondering if you could help me me and my fiancé are trying to find a other couple to have a 4some with and I was wondering how to go about it ?
Debz2910 wrote:
Hi I was wondering if you could help me me and my fiancé are trying to find a other couple to have a 4some with and I was wondering how to go about it ?
I would suggest trying a swinging site, such as fabswingers
Were a young couple and my oh has started to talk dirty/ use toys during after our conversation about a possible mmf or group scenario. I love nothing more than the idea of her getting pleased by a more well endowed guy but wondering what our next step is.
This always crops up in relationships and it's totally personal and all depends on everyones attitude towards sex & how secure they are in themselves.
Also consider the reason why you want to do this ?
Personally i want anyone i'm with to be totally satified and share a wonderfull and open sex life with them.
I've had many threesomes, MMF & MFF attended swinging parties and also been to sex clubs and I would say if you have the balls to get on with each other and want the best for your partner then get on and do it.
How many relationships break up which remain monogamous ?
For me, life is too short. I don't do jealousy and want to explore, see, taste and enjoy as much as i can.
I've met the most interesting and inspiring people in the swinging community and have always found their openess and view on life to be totally refreshing.
If you want to live a little and experience something new and possibly share something really speacial, then have a go.
What happens at the party, stays at the party.
No rules other than, both has a free pass to cum as many times as possible.Experience and be as erotic and naughty for your partner as possible.
The idea is to receive and give pleasure. Not jealousy, insecurity and regret.
If you do it, remeber the idea is to enjoy it. That means seeing your other half getting off with someone else. You'll either love it or hate it.
All depends on your view really.
Just play fair and ask yourselves, how you'd feel watching ?
I love it :-)
Lots of orgasms for everyone please !