I'd love to meet other couples for sex and play but don't think the oh would be up for it, I've mentioned it in a roundabout way sort of jokeingly and she has said no in a roundabout way, she's up for most things but I don't think this. You never know though she might come round and fancy giving it a go here's hoping but no pressure if she definitely said no that's it
I'd like to add something else into this mix that we feel maybe relivent generally, buth certainly for us. The 3some vs 4 couple dynamic is an interesting one too, and subconciously may have even shaped our choice of having opted for the 4some.
With 2 couples, both have their partners and the "invited guests" both have someboody to keep each other in check. Inviting a single into the mix, for us, was a no-no. Why? Simply because in this relationship they have nobody to stop them being needy, to pull back the reins if they've enjoyed their time with us and start pestering us for repeats.
We of course want to have a great time, and if so repeat meets would be good, but we also don't want those we indulge with to be left alone to deal with not actually being a part of our relationship. This is why we have insisted on a slow burn chat and get to know you approach. It worked for the original couple who a first were okay but he started to display impatience, and "can you..." questions that pushed past our clear bounderies.
The couple we are meeting this week, have both been speaking, clearly know what each other is saying and totally comfortable with this. They recognise our bounderies and have always respected these.
In short, we want uncomplicated sex that can't authentially be reproduced with toys, That those we have it with can get on with their lives, with or without a repeat play, not obsessing or left feeling alone without somebody who knows what they've experienced.
Update: So we had a meet yesterday and wow, this couple are so relaxed and fun it was easy to speak frankly and get our concerns out in the open. We knew going into this that we wouldn't be playing this week, if we hit it off with them, I was told in the latter part of the week of change of plans, but stuff happens and was unavoidable.
No dramas, completely fun and totally helpful about the local scene. They know and respect our bounderies and don't look to push them, all at our own speed. It was interesting for us to find out about others in our area and if we had any "list of possibles" to want to meet. They clearly knew of some of those that we had looked at and the level of respect for their ID's was brilliant, not coming close to compromising them, but able to suggest might be our best bets given our inexperience. If ever there was a doubt them it was be about discretion of others they've played with, no causes for concern there, we chose well.
Three hours later, we are still busy chatting, like we've know 'em for years. Mrs TD is so wanting to get on with it, I did ask myself last week about is she doing this to please me, no worries on that score - she is so into wanting to get going for herself and us. The other couple female was able to answer about the womans prospective and Mrs TD was able to connect with this info and feel completely at ease about the prospects of others being involved with our sex-life.
Then came the moment about going to the final stage, they looked at each other, smiled and said hell yeah, they have no concerns about us. This week Mrs TD is going to be looking at her Bi-curious play and what she wants from it, she's 99% sure that she actually bi-sexual, up bringing, how she is in the company of women and interestingly for me, how she looks more at the women in porn we watch. This of course doesn't prove anything but the signs are there and there seemed to be releif that finally she's going to experience girl on girl sex. We both believe that her first experience in this area of her life, is with somebody that will confirm or disprove this, and is going to be with somebody that she is completely relaxed to be around with,
Just an aside. If anybody chooses to do this, one less than obvious thing to concider is lube, and more the point if you have reactions to any. The couple above use one that Mrs TD would have a bad re-action to so are going to use ours instead, so don't forget this detail.
Tiger Dick that is a very good post some interesting things for us all to think about if partaking in 3/4 somes
It will certainly make me consider it if we ever get round to trying it
Hey All.
My wife and I both 29 are looking for new ways to explore sexually and quite into the idea of threesomes. Can anyone recommend 2 guys 1 girl or 2 girls 1 guy over each other, or give advice on both?
thanks :-)
Sparky 1 wrote:
Tiger Dick that is a very good post some interesting things for us all to think about if partaking in 3/4 somes
It will certainly make me consider it if we ever get round to trying it
Mrs TD has organised to meet a 2nd couple!
True_f#cking_Romance wrote:
Hi
If anyone has ever thought about either a threesome, foursome or being watched, then here are details of our experience and we hope that it might help in anyone's quest. This is not guide on how to...just how WE did it. Hope it helps.
A few months ago my OH and I decided we that we would love to be watched having sex. We started a thread on LH asking for advce and someone suggested putting an ad on an Adult website. We looked at quite a few and decided on Swinging Heaven. Let us just say, we are not swingers, just a normal couple looking for something a bit different.
We placed an ad asking for likeminded couples who like to be watched too. We were very cautious and made it very clear what we wanted and we didn't want and never gave out face pics until we chatted for a while. We also said that we would never meet anyone on our doorstep. After about 3 months we found a couple of nice 'normal' couples who were seeking similar. After emailing, swopping face pics and chatting on the phone we eventually met up for a coffee half between each other (approx 20 miles) and we all clicked.
The next meet was what we call 'same room fun', where we would watch each other in respective couples, or all have sex at the same time (again in own couples) on the bed. It was a very sexy night and felot very natural. The second time we found a couple with a bisexual female and i had always been fascinated and curious about the whole FF thing, but we never felt any pressure from the couple to engage in it, just that it was an option, however, on the night we didn't leave the bed for about 5 hours and i had my first FF experience, WOW! We always said we would never swop and we still don't, but we are now happy for the two girlies to interact, with the guys joining in with their respective partners. It feels so natural now and we don't feel any desire to evolve into full or soft swinging, just same room fun with FF interaction.
It has taken us a while to find exactly what we were after and we hope that our jouney to finding a threesome/foursome/being watched may help others find similar.
Top tips:
Know what you want and stick to it, no hidden agenda with your partner. If you want to turn fantasy to reality have a good long chat about it and if all parties concerned are happy, go for it!
Take your time finding the right couple/person, they are out there, but don't rush in, we took 3 months of emailing/chatting/deleting requests before finding just two couples we liked. Be picky.
When you do find a likeminded couple, get to know them via email, skype, mobile etc first, then meet for a coffee and if they are not right, don't feel bad saying no to them, and likewise they may say you aren't what they are looking for.
Finally, always be honest with what you're after with your OH, because when you do finally meet another couple, its an amazing experience when your all in sync.
We did have a few ups and downs, but we knew what we wanted and now meet the same couple regularly for a (sort of) threesome/foursome, depending who is on the bed and have become close friends.
If anyone would like to ask any other questions then please feel free to ask. If it's a geuine fantasy of yours, then al we can say is that it is very achievable, it just takes time, patience and open mindedness.
Hope this helps.
Two very happy people x
Fab post, exactly what we are looking for, didnt have a clue where to start, thanks
So a final update, so we've gone from getting to know the scene and secured our first meet and arranged a play, well play-day arrived and good god was that a rush.
A late even meet was agreed and we were to spend the 2-3 hours before hand getting ready, this being the first time outside our relationship that the prospect of getting very intimate is a bit of a handful to deal with. Not in a bad way, its just its totally a new experience, beyond any and everything we've felt before, we could just bail out and contact the couple and say not for us, but thanks. That wasn't going to happen though, we knew we wanted this and figured that its was nerves getting into our minds, and it happens to most, experienced or not.
So smelling fresh and our shag-bag pack packed, condoms, lube, a few toys, chocolate and glucose drink, plus a bottle of wine for our fantastic hosts and partners in crime we set off to their place. That journey was something else, “do not crash the car fella” I kept telling myself, Mrs TD totally dressed for sex and with a “little extra” in tow. The conversation basically was on repeat, “what do you want to do with...” and replied with a little ditto of what we imagined would be happening.
We arrived and go inside, chatting away again like old friends from where we left off the week before at our “meet” We were so blessed to meet this fab couple, for and hour or so, I sensed that Mrs TD was wanting to get things going (remember this couple having not pushed us at all) and so I asked about what she was wearing under that dress, My OH was quick to pick up on this and said she'd find out, lifting the dress and exposing a lovely pair of red undies and give the wife access to the other woman's intermit regions and begin to play with her. The other couple were superb, they read the situation and suggested the women go to the bedroom alone and get to know each other, the door ajar we could hear them kissing and a few oohs later we knew that the evening was going to a good one. Then we hear “ Oh you naughty girl..and some giggling.” as my wifes' bed mate discovers her butt plug she inserted before leaving home. Mrs TD wasn't any longer curious, We went to the room about 20 minutes after they entered it, to be greeted by Mrs TD under the other woman who was busy enjoying being tasted by her.
The rest of the evening whilst not a blur, did go quickly and nearly six hours later as we left their drive, we were like wow, that's got to happen again, and it will. But the biggest surprise for us both, yet nobody was complaining, was the lack of F'ing in comparison to everything else. Lots of firsts for us, naturally, but a few things learnt to bring into our bedroom also. They had a great time too,
We have had a bit of journey with this one, the genie's out of the bottle now, and I don't suppose it will always be like this, but Jeez, getting to play with couples like our new friends looks to be taking things into a place where we are both happy to be.
If there is one peice of advice to pass on it don't be in a rush to make it happen , just choose those that fit your place, the area that says I'm good with these, if it doesn't feel right, chances are it isn't.
We hope this helps Mr & Mrs TD xx
Sounds like you had an amazing time Mr &Mrs TD, you make it sound so easy, I think I'd be a nervous wreck. I wish you every success.
Wight*goddess wrote:
Sounds like you had an amazing time Mr &Mrs TD, you make it sound so easy, I think I'd be a nervous wreck. I wish you every success.
It's not easy Lovey, just only it was made easier by researching the people you want to play with, and geing good with meeting them first and being at ease in their company, do that and its a big thing less to worry about on the night. Yes it was amazing and appreciate that its not like that for everybody. For a "non-touchy feely " type of guy, I surprised myself with how at ease I was kissing and touching another woman. I shouldn't have of course been worried, but until it happens you don't really know how its going to be.
I've been following this thread with interest . This is something that my OH and I considered doing several years ago but we've just never got round to it or maybe a few insecurities popped up on both sides and it just never happened.
I still think about doing it especially now I've read your very positive posts on your experience TD but not sure my OH still feels the same and to be honest I'm not sure how to broach the subject without making it seem like I just want sex with other men.
I find the idea a huge turn on but I still don't know whether in reality we'd both cope with seeing each other with other people .
It's been great to read how you've taken your time and not rushed headlong into it and that you and Mrs TD have had such a wonderful experience .
wildflower wrote:
I've been following this thread with interest . This is something that my OH and I considered doing several years ago but we've just never got round to it or maybe a few insecurities popped up on both sides and it just never happened.
I still think about doing it especially now I've read your very positive posts on your experience TD but not sure my OH still feels the same and to be honest I'm not sure how to broach the subject without making it seem like I just want sex with other men.
I find the idea a huge turn on but I still don't know whether in reality we'd both cope with seeing each other with other people .
It's been great to read how you've taken your time and not rushed headlong into it and that you and Mrs TD have had such a wonderful experience .
Thanks Wildflower, the couple we went with were as the result of a previous couple (well one of the pair) failing the pushing things past our comfort zone, we were able to recognise this going on and blocked and deleted them from our account. We then searched a list of possibles and did a bit a research (checking and cross checking verifications, posts they've made etc) and was able to ask for a chat and we just clicked, never for a second have been pushed, it was at our speed and that I'd suggest to anybody is try and get that as a base line for your experience.
Never fail to remember you can walk away when you want.
In your case WF, maybe the http://mojoupgrade.com/ needs revisiting
Tiger Dick wrote:
wildflower wrote:
I've been following this thread with interest . This is something that my OH and I considered doing several years ago but we've just never got round to it or maybe a few insecurities popped up on both sides and it just never happened.
I still think about doing it especially now I've read your very positive posts on your experience TD but not sure my OH still feels the same and to be honest I'm not sure how to broach the subject without making it seem like I just want sex with other men.
I find the idea a huge turn on but I still don't know whether in reality we'd both cope with seeing each other with other people .
It's been great to read how you've taken your time and not rushed headlong into it and that you and Mrs TD have had such a wonderful experience .
Thanks Wildflower, the couple we went with were as the result of a previous couple (well one of the pair) failing the pushing things past our comfort zone, we were able to recognise this going on and blocked and deleted them from our account. We then searched a list of possibles and did a bit a research (checking and cross checking verifications, posts they've made etc) and was able to ask for a chat and we just clicked, never for a second have been pushed, it was at our speed and that I'd suggest to anybody is try and get that as a base line for your experience.
Never fail to remember you can walk away when you want.
In your case WF, maybe the http://mojoupgrade.com/ needs revisiting
Yes I think you're right , I'd be a good starting point to gauge how we both feel about things at present ...thanks for suggesting it :)
Sounds like a fun evening, a great post full of lots of good advice. Thanks for taking the time to share.
Thanks for sharing .... I as wifey like being watched on cam while me and oh are busy from time to time. I just don't like the idea of 3sums nor 4sums but I know my oh would love to try 3sum 2 females of course. But I want our sexual experience to be only us two and cam from time to time
Mr and Mrs TD - wowsers - fantastic post and such a positive result for you both.
May your new found experiences long continue.
Xxxxx
lovingnewtoys wrote:
Mr and Mrs TD - wowsers - fantastic post and such a positive result for you both.
May your new found experiences long continue.
Xxxxx
Thanks Hun, just coming down now, to say this weekend has been highly charged is an understatement... Have to add your holiday pics are sooo much more interesting than the ones that usually reach my eyes. Love the Aye Aye Captain one, you look in such a good place. XX
Followed this post with great interest,so happy for you that you got such a positive result. Whilst this has always been a fantasy of mine my OH has no interest so doubtful it will become a reality for us (for now at least, OH has come around to my thinking quite a bit over the years). Fantastic post, really informative and interesting.
Just another update, we had our second session with another fab couple a few days back, we met an went for it on the same night. Another fun couple who know the first couple we went with, a party of 6 was mentioned and wouldn't be out of the question for us. The reclaim sex ( getting your own OH back) afterward is sensational too. A hugely erotic and passionate experience for us no doubt about that.
I have started and about half way through a book called Swinging: The games your neighbours play by Mark Brandon
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Swinging-Games-Your-Neighbours-Play-ebook/dp/B002TU1Q7K/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1502119841&sr=8-3&keywords=swinging
It is an excellent account of his journey about the scene and has answered question I needed to know along with questions I didn't know I needed to know.. A first class read for £3, a vital must read book in my view if you are venturing into this area.
There is one section where it mentions body image, it is spot on, I'm not even close to being extroverted but can honestly say that I don't ever see myself standing at the side of the dance floor again. Getting your kit off in front of strangers and getting intimate with them is probably the most liberating thing you could ever do. Making of yourself at a disco, doesn't even come close to that. The other thing is all of a sudden you are going a bit further when it comes to getting ready for a meet, it is in many ways like going on your date...