TD - you are one dark horse aren't you (and Mrs TD too).
I find myself being very excited for you over all this and am pleased that everyone appears to be having a fantastic time.
Many years ago Mr LNT and myself had a very brief discussion about the possibility of a third party, but it went no further than that, and honestly I am glad because I know for a fact that I would not be able to handle it emotionally.
Fair play to all those who can - and equally to all those who are strong enough to know they can't.
Xxxxxx
lovingnewtoys wrote:
TD - you are one dark horse aren't you (and Mrs TD too).
I find myself being very excited for you over all this and am pleased that everyone appears to be having a fantastic time.
Many years ago Mr LNT and myself had a very brief discussion about the possibility of a third party, but it went no further than that, and honestly I am glad because I know for a fact that I would not be able to handle it emotionally.
Fair play to all those who can - and equally to all those who are strong enough to know they can't.
Xxxxxx
Its not for everyone for sure. We have surprised ourselves in someways, but rationalising it, its not love, just recreational sex and so on, it becomes something that we wish we had done sooner. My health and state of mind would have prevented that then though.
The forementioned book in an earlier posting does explain a few truths better than I can. Dark horse maybe, but we are both totally into it, Mrs TD has enjoyed the social side as much as the sex. We've met 2 couples that we speak to as if we've known them for years, such is the ease of our get togethers. We are going on a break in December and Mrs TD has already been looking at a few couples who live nearby to where we are going that fit our demigraphic - kinky cow LOL
I have been looking into the world of swinging and the more I read about it the more appealling it sounds and is quickly becoming a fantasy of mine. I love ready no about peoples experience and love the idea of going on first dates as that is something of a distant memory nowadays. But even though there is a lot of great advice on dipping your toes into swinging, there's no advice about first raising the idea with your OH.
I would love us to someday look into couple and couple but how do I mention this with the OH without her thinking that she is not enough or that i have some sort of sex addiction that she can't fulfill.
I really don't think she will be into it as she is shy and prudish but I think the idea is amazing and now we have our camping equipment sorted would even love to mix the two.
It would torture me seeing my partner kissing and touching another woman and it would be the same for him seeing it done to me, I would be quite unnerved and extremely jealous to the point if the woman touched my partner I would lose control and she wouldn't be there very long, but saying that my partner knows I am curious of ff play but with him telling me what he wants to see and telling me what he wants me to do, I would involve him by me playing with him etc but the other woman would have to be strictly hands/mouth everything off him or I would fly.
KarlsGirl78 wrote:
It would torture me seeing my partner kissing and touching another woman and it would be the same for him seeing it done to me, I would be quite unnerved and extremely jealous to the point if the woman touched my partner I would lose control and she wouldn't be there very long, but saying that my partner knows I am curious of ff play but with him telling me what he wants to see and telling me what he wants me to do, I would involve him by me playing with him etc but the other woman would have to be strictly hands/mouth everything off him or I would fly.
The thing is we both thought the same. What is working for us are that we have rules.
No playing alone
No singles
If one has doubts, there is no play. Nobody takes one for the team.
We stay in the same room, to keep an eye out for each other.
We talk about the last meet/play and check each is happy where it going, or what has just happened.
That we double the effort for "US" time. And the "reclaim" sex afterwards is awsome, (the sex that you have to reclaim your relationship.
It has to be remembered that this is recreational sex, there is no tangible emotion to the other couples. Sure, in our case we have to like them, but we have no desire to more than what we are, bed mates for that moment. If its a repeat thing then great, if its a one off well that's okay too. The point is attactment isn't on the radar, only to each other, its just we can authentically fulfil some fantasies, and find ones we never knew we had.