I like it when im spanked during sex,I also have no probs with a little bit of rough play, but cant see the fun in having my hair pulled (dont mind being held by my hair from behind) am i missing out by not getting yanked by the pony tale? Anyone noticed that a lot of porn films have men forcing there hands/fist into the womens mouths, dont find that sexy in the least,just looks uncomfortable.
Agreed here Avrielle. Most porn imagery is crap! It doesn't go on in real life. My OH would murder me if I pulled her hair properly, now gentle tugging she loves. Spanking is good too. I don't like all that shoving hands in mouths stuff myself. Disrespectful in my opinion unless it's specifically asked for. SG x
Lol i like a little bit of rough. hard spanking but one thing aswell that im not keen on is my hair pulled to tight that my head nearly gets yanked off. i also like to be held down by the throat, that drives me wild. not to tight though. I had a great orgasm when my OH held me to tight by throat and i nearly passed out. call it an outer body orgasm lol
Are you missing out?
Well, do you feel that you are missing out on any of the other sexual practices that you don't find appealing?
It's just about what you like, not what other people are into.
Maybe a better thread for general discussion would be "what level of rough play do you like?"
Here here! I think porn is just for show - plus its all edited and cut to make it look like they are having one long sex sesh where the truth of the matter is they stop and start all the time.
You have to do what YOU like - if your partner wants to do something, then explore it if your comfortable to (instead of saying no straight out right). In the long run, if you don't enjoy something then the likeliness is you'll be put off it the next time you do it.
i think hair pulling from behind is nice :)
p.s if your asking if your missing out.... doesn't that answer your question that you feel like you might be missing out a tiny bit?? Maybe try a soft version of whatever you dont find appealing - the light sensation might grow on you and give you the option to go a bit rougher each time you do it until you find your limit?!
I like having my hair pulled, not ripped out at the roots or anything but having my head pulled down to crotch height by my pony tail is a super-hot instruction to suck my OH and during doggy it feels nice too. It hurts a bit sometimes but in the same pleasurable way that spanking does - the scalp is full of nerve endings and I really love them being stimulated.
The hand in mouth thing we also do, not a whole fist, just a couple of fingers to suck to cater for my oral fixation - my tongue is a major erogenous zone! Also it's nice as a gag - I'm not into ball gags etc. but a hand used as a gag is very erotic to me.
If we do hair-pulling or hand-gagging during vigorous sex then I feel exactly the right amount of overpowered to be a massive turn on, done during slower sex I find it quite sensually submissive. I can see that it's not to everyone's taste but I like it!
Bad porn gives sex a bad name - two people being paid to fuck in exaggerated ways for the camera is never going to be a great representation of what real, passionate sex can be like. The way they show hair-pulling and hand-gagging is about as close to reality as the female porn star's bright orange tan is to real skin....or as accurate as on-screen oral is to real oral. Don't dismiss something because it looks crap in porn - dismiss it if you find the idea upsetting or a turn-off. Even pain threshold doesn't matter too much - not everything has to be done at full tilt! E.g. spanking: some just want a tap others want to bleed ... if you like the idea of hair-pulling but don't want too much pain, do it gently.
Sexuality is a complicated thing, don't worry too much about what you should and shouldn't like and what does and doesn't do it for you, just enjoy (or not) as you see fit!
xxKPxx
Porn is generally crap.
My OH enjoys her hair being pulled but not in the facefuck porn way. She enjoys having her hairbrushed and fingers run through it so she likes the feel of pulling.
I think most things like that a worth a little try and if you like then great if you don't then at least you know your not missing out on something you could have enjoyed.
I love my hair being pulled during sex, I think it's more of a turn on too.
It's definately worth a try and if you don't like it, you know it doesn't work for you and you don't have to do it again.
rb
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ronnie-baby wrote:
I love my hair being pulled during sex, I think it's more of a turn on too.
It's definately worth a try and if you don't like it, you know it doesn't work for you and you don't have to do it again.
rb
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i like to grab my oh hair when it's long..as far as putting your hand in mouth not a turn on at all ..now fingers in mouth being sucked or licked leaves thing s to the imagination we do this often ourselves especially if they have just come out of her pussy
sweetcherry24 wrote:
Lol i like a little bit of rough. hard spanking but one thing aswell that im not keen on is my hair pulled to tight that my head nearly gets yanked off. i also like to be held down by the throat, that drives me wild. not to tight though. I had a great orgasm when my OH held me to tight by throat and i nearly passed out. call it an outer body orgasm lol
I like the throat thing too i didn't think it was that common. I also like my hair to really be pulled and i enjoy fighting against it : )
i like to spoon it's nice up and down her back too
Agree most porn is utter crap, and just put on for the people who buy it / watch it, i sometimes feel that they cant be enjoying it with fist in mouth, now i like a good spanking being held down tight and a little bit of hair pulling my OH knows how much i like and never goes past that point of where it is hurting me and i,m not enjoying it xx
i wouldn't advise anybody to watch porn for sex tips, that is the reason some young girls are doing things they are uncomfortable with, because themselves or their sexual partners have seen something on porn and feel like they msut do it to be good at sex,
i find the whole thing a bit sad that someone may watch porn and even if the idea to do something has never popped into their head they will decide to do it because "everyone is" well no they aren't the fake porn actors are!
i will admit that before i had sex i would watch porn online and thought that all girls had to know what to do and that every guy would expect me to deep throat etc, however i got with myboyfriend (who before he met me was a fairly regular porn viewer, being 15 when we got together) and he never asked me to do any of the scary porn things! however after a few months of our sleeping together we felt comfortable enough to introduce new things, but it was things we found sexy and then explored and found other things, never something we just seen in porn and thought we had to do!
as for hair pulling i like my partner to pull it if we are doing it doggy and i like it when i am giving him a blow job, but also when sucking his cock he will play with my hair and move it out of my face and other such tender things,
it is upto the individuals involved what they want to do and to what level.
i have a cane but we barely use it and when we do it is for light play, if we're going rough i prefer his hand because it won't leave any welts or anything lasting.
i don't watch porn anymore haven't for a while so can't say i recall anyone stuffing their fist into a girls mouth but i would find this unsexy, sometimes i will bite my partners hand in orgasm and i often suck his finger when i am making myself come but others may find this weird, it is definately upto the personal taste of a couple how rough they play
VW x
I agree with what Vampywillow said......dont even bother trying to get tips from porn.......mostb of it is utter pants and not true to life!!!
I dont mind a bit of rough and tumble...quite gets me going.....love being spanked and treated like a bad girl....having my hair grabbed..or being held down........also i like the whole being held by the neck thing that Pinkalicious and sweetcherry mentioned.........my oh does it......i think its the whole restriction and dominance thing.......really turns me on.......however you can go to extremes....some porn you see is extremely rough.......and the woman is treated like a dog...for me thats too much............i mean u only have to look at their faces...thats enough to put me off....lol
headsouth wrote:
I wou;d say that porn is a great place for sex tips, in as much as it suggests doing x y and z and you can often find yourself with a certain act staying in your mind for a while and you end up wanting to try it. There have been a fair few things along those lines for me. Of course though, if you don't want to do it, just disregard it and move on.
In terms of hands in mouths, it's something that we do, generally when we're too far gone to get a ball gag or such like, to me it serves a similar purpose, just maybe more symbolic than as functional as a ball gag.
I agree actually! Bad porn is full of crap sex but there's some great stuff out there too if you look. Violet Blue does some really hot and educational stuff External Media
xxKPxx
Pinkilious wrote:
sweetcherry24 wrote:
Lol i like a little bit of rough. hard spanking but one thing aswell that im not keen on is my hair pulled to tight that my head nearly gets yanked off. i also like to be held down by the throat, that drives me wild. not to tight though. I had a great orgasm when my OH held me to tight by throat and i nearly passed out. call it an outer body orgasm lol
I like the throat thing too i didn't think it was that common. I also like my hair to really be pulled and i enjoy fighting against it : )
Its actually alot more common than you think ladies. I personally dont get turned on by sexual asphixiation but I know somone who does. As far as im concerned if its between concenting people than not alot is out of order.
KittyPurry wrote:
I like having my hair pulled, not ripped out at the roots or anything but having my head pulled down to crotch height by my pony tail is a super-hot instruction to suck my OH and during doggy it feels nice too. It hurts a bit sometimes but in the same pleasurable way that spanking does - the scalp is full of nerve endings and I really love them being stimulated.
Oooh, me too. Love it when my boy gets super rough with me, hair pulling, spanking, holding me by the throat... anything he can use to put me in my place is good!
But if you're not interested in it, then you're not missing out Grimly.
I do like the throat pushing or hair pulling as KP described, it's animalistic and passionate in my opinion but I'd never do it like in porn, the problem with the porn way is that it actually looks much more like an assault!
I luuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuurve it rough!
I didnt realise i liked the throat gripping, hair pulling, biting thing until recently and it drives me absolutely bonkers!
even more wild than normal
i love it like that, and then for a slow sensual intimate passionate
cuddle type of sex.
feels so close like that
mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
xx