Bit of a strange one y’all. Was having a chat with one of my best friends this morning discussing my naughty antics last night with my date last night (we’re both trans women) and she seemed shocked that we both used our dicks. First it really upset me and has now panicked me that I’m not being as feminine as I should be
If you have any, what are your experiences of having sex with trans people?
Really sorry if this feels like I’m looking for an agony aunt but didn’t really know who to speak to
The way that you have sex shouldn’t change how feminine you are or affect who you are. As long as it’s not hurting anyone or anything I say have sex how you want.
Thank you it felt so natural at the time I didn’t even think about so I suppose that is the most important thing!
I didn’t want to ask my date in case it made her feel how I do now
Absolutely as said above, don’t let the stereotype of how you should be as a trans person in bed get in the way of you having fun.
Thank you so much I needed that.
Hoping for more of the same tomorrow night
Whatever you do with Whatever bits you have is absolutely your own business.
It felt good, you were both comfortable, consenting and enjoyed.
Sounds perfectly fine to me sweetheart x
Thank you @Mrs.John I’m sure my friend meant nothing by it being a cis woman and is normally really supportive.
I will keep doing whatever feels right x
Thank you @forwardghoul52 think it was more a case of who questioned me than anything.
To be with another trans woman was absolutely amazing and can’t wait to see her again tomorrow
Your friend is applying a gender to your reproductive organs, thinking that because she doesn’t have a penis to use during sex, that you shouldn’t either.
You’re as feminine as you are and its not up to anyone other than yourself to decide how feminine you should be.
But how else did she expect you to have sex?
I suppose you’re right @JoCat never really managed to get into her way of thinking. I’m just really wanting to focus on being how I truly feel and when people say that can’t be right then it throws me!
Maybe we’ll have to give her a demonstration
Maybe try drawing a picture first, having her watching might be a bit off putting
Good point been watching before but never by such a close friend. Don’t think she’d be able to look me in the eye again after seeing me at my naughtiest!
That is not the type of 3some I’d be wanting
She found my toy drawer once (she doesn’t have or want any) she was in shock, main question being “how on earth do you fit that inside you!?” I didn’t bother to explain to her it was a double ended dildo
Having only witnessed this in porn, I think there is a lot of exploring to do with each other. Introducing a third female into the sex with all female parts is actually one of my porn searches. There is nothing hotter than a trans woman giving anal sex to a female. There are very few videos that I could find that show this well and I find it fascinating!
Especially if she is open to being shocked? Oh my goodness, that is a massive turn on for me as a closet fetish.
Thank you there’s a lot of very awkward porn out there not just trans!
I’ve never really thought like I need to use this bit or that bit. Without wanting to go into too much detail Alice and I just explored what we each liked, didn’t like and kept communication open as it should be when anyone has sex.
Definitely out of the spiral I was in this morning. Thank you all for your wonderful support x
@valbowski77 @JoCat @forwardghoul52 @Mrs.John @DanceswithPenguins @Siamesecult
Use all the bits that give you pleasure @FunSam92 !
And them @JoCat I’m not greedy
Never doubt who you are as we’re all unique and enjoy different things so there’s literally no right or wrong to this. Plus as you’ve not fully started your transformation yet, you’ve still got all them male hormones in you and dick urges so why not enjoy using it while it’s still there
It’s going to be so weird and so great when it’s gone