Girls, is it just me or does ones pussy get larger with age. Yes Im 42 yrs old, yes I have 2 children (last born 2000) yes I have a healthy sex life and yes I do use realatively large dildos ( 8" )
But I 'm fit and exercising every day (pelvic floor and crunches )
Im only a size 8-10...weigh 8st 3 ...but I just cant seem to get that full feeling anymore..!
My latest 8" realistic dildo has ( what I thought when I ordered it ) a HUGE 7.5" girth...my hubby has only a 6.5" x 5.25" girth (maybe a little above average size dick)...so in theory Im gonna get filled up..!
At first it was WOW take it easy...but now my hubby can bang that thing into me as hard as he likes even doggie style and Im still left feeling like my pussy could take more girth..
So the question ...! is this age related or have I just got a rather large hungry pussy....!
Although as we age and our hormones go haywire, as long as you are managing to return your vagina to it's usual level of tautness, then everything should be OK. I know what you mean though - I'm nearly 42 and looking into getting some more girthy toys. I think that maybe as we get older and more confident in our sexuality, we relax and are more willing to push our limits. So yeah, maybe us older lasses are just greedy
Having said that, if, at any time, you notice any real changes or find that your muscles are weakening or losing their elasticity (as you will know, the best indicator is being able to hold in your pee) do mention it to your doctor, well-woman nurse or the nest time you go for a smear test , whichever is more convenient.
But in the meantime, you go girl and if you can, keep us posted.
I'm also 42 and I do like to be stretched around my opening quite a lot by my hubby but I have to say I would hate anything 8 inches long being rammed inside me, my cervix can be quite tender at certain stages in my cycle, that's why I really don't get the appeal of super long dildos as you couldn't get more than say 7/8 inches inside you anyway? It's only the first inch inside around your urethra that is sensitive anyway so wouldn't fisting ( such a horrid term) be a better option? 3 knuckles is enough to send me into ecstacy - my hubby has got big hands though.
Doesn't it make your hubby feel inadequate? - I know mine would hate using something huge on me but then we're not really into toys like a lot of the folks on here.
I'm also 42 and I do like to be stretched around my opening quite a lot by my hubby but I have to say I would hate anything 8 inches long being rammed inside me, my cervix can be quite tender at certain stages in my cycle, that's why I really don't get the appeal of super long dildos as you couldn't get more than say 7/8 inches inside you anyway? It's only the first inch inside around your urethra that is sensitive anyway so wouldn't fisting ( such a horrid term) be a better option? 3 knuckles is enough to send me into ecstacy - my hubby has got big hands though.
Doesn't it make your hubby feel inadequate? - I know mine would hate using something huge on me but then we're not really into toys like a lot of the folks on here.
Hi Lady Lara. Wouldn't a man only feel inadequate about this if he was somewhat insecure about his own cock size and how happy his partner was with his cock? I myself definitely would not feel inadequate if my OH asked me to ram a 8 inch plus sex toy inside her for her pleasure. I'd be only too happy to obligeExternal Media!
I think your final comment is spot on LL, some folks like toys and some don't. My OH wouldn't like me to put 3 knuckles inside her for sure but possibly would like a 9 inch dildo rammed into her.
Variety is the spice of life don't you think? This is what I love about this forum, we are all different!
My hubby's definitely got nothing to feel insecure about, he just admits to feeling weird about vibrators etc. he's fine about using a vibrating ring but they are rubbish .(for both of us!)
We've only ever had each other from the age of 17, 25 years is a long time and it's only recently I've had problems getting to orgasm - which is weird becaue sex is so much better for both of us now - I think it's because we have now sex in such different ways, before it was always the same and I've become used to having an orgasm in only one way, flat on my back , hips up and him either using tongue/fingers , or him inside me using fingers as well - I'm much more adventurous now and because I've been maybe concentrating on his pleasure far more , he forgets how much stimulation I actually needed, it's almost like getting to know one another all over again, which sounds ridiculous but there you go . It's actually rather nice to be exploring each other's bodies again after being stuck in a rut for many years - that's what kids / shift work and a lack of privacy does for you, eh?
I don't even fancy a dildo myself as I much prefer the real thing but I know he wouldn't like to use one on me, he is still a bit shell shocked I think but is slowly coming around to my new found desires - I'm obviously a very late bloomer .
I have found that I've enjoyed things far more when he's initiated them, perhaps I have been a little too keen to make up for the wilderness years?
My hubby's definitely got nothing to feel insecure about, he just admits to feeling weird about vibrators etc. he's fine about using a vibrating ring but they are rubbish .(for both of us!)
We've only ever had each other from the age of 17, 25 years is a long time and it's only recently I've had problems getting to orgasm - which is weird becaue sex is so much better for both of us now - I think it's because we have now sex in such different ways, before it was always the same and I've become used to having an orgasm in only one way, flat on my back , hips up and him either using tongue/fingers , or him inside me using fingers as well - I'm much more adventurous now and because I've been maybe concentrating on his pleasure far more , he forgets how much stimulation I actually needed, it's almost like getting to know one another all over again, which sounds ridiculous but there you go . It's actually rather nice to be exploring each other's bodies again after being stuck in a rut for many years - that's what kids / shift work and a lack of privacy does for you, eh?
I don't even fancy a dildo myself as I much prefer the real thing but I know he wouldn't like to use one on me, he is still a bit shell shocked I think but is slowly coming around to my new found desires - I'm obviously a very late bloomer .
I have found that I've enjoyed things far more when he's initiated them, perhaps I have been a little too keen to make up for the wilderness years?
Hi LL!
If your chap wanted to use a dildo on you would you be up for it then? And I think being a late bloomer is great as you've still got lots of things to discover! Good for you!
Honestly no, I don't see the point - unless you don't have a male partner, obviously.
Plus he's not the slightest bit interested in using toys on me when he can play with me himself . He honestly can't understand why some men like to watch their partner use a toy on herself. I wouldn't get anything out of watching him with something like a fleshlight either - I actually find them very creepy.
I do think porn has a massive effect on what people want and do - we don't watch it as a couple and my hubby has never watched it alone - he's seen it obviously, he was in the forces for a long time but he has never bought porn or even been more than mildly curious about it. TBH, a lot of aspects of porn really turn us both off, whenever we've watched porn week / sexetera etc. we both dislike more things than we find things a turn on.
I don't know about lots of things yet to discover, the only thing we haven't done is full anal, if it happens, fine, if not, that's fine too, it's only mild curiosity on my part and he's never expressed an interest, even when I said I was willing to try anything that we had never done before.
His prostate's a no go area too but that's fine by me, he would never ask me to do something I didn't fancy just out of curiosity - I asked him if he wanted me to try it, he said no, so unless he wants to try in the future, I won't bring it up again.
Hello again LL! I'm thinking that you Lady Lara are a mystery, wrapped in a puzzle, wrapped in a conundrum!! a complex woman you are! Whatever you enjoy doing and trying out for the first time. . .good luck!
Hmmm I'm 43 and I think I'm too tight, even with fisting, 2 kids by c-section, and I've been spoiled with 10 inch + dicks most of my sex life. For me its about the girth rather than length, g-spot and anal stimulation and whole body sensation....
Lady Lara an answer to your question is no it does not make him feel inadequate, he is to be honest a very good sh~g always taking care of my needs and is only too willing to use my huge variation of toys.
What I failed to mention in the first post was that Im one of those lucky girls who have multiple orgasms during sex and quite often experiance female ejeculation..! so Im often very lubricated down there..!
I'm pretty sure you just grow accustomed to toys. When I've been working away for a week or two & Mrs Duck has only been playing with her clit stims it's like trying to fuck a mouses ear when I get home. If she's been paying with her bigger toys (Dr Mullato) then it's like throwing a sausage up a wizzards sleeve.
Try leaving the thermos flask alone for a week or two & just play with small or non penetrive toys & see if it springs back.
I'm pretty sure you just grow accustomed to toys. When I've been working away for a week or two & Mrs Duck has only been playing with her clit stims it's like trying to fuck a mouses ear when I get home. If she's been paying with her bigger toys (Dr Mullato) then it's like throwing a sausage up a wizzards sleeve.
Try leaving the thermos flask alone for a week or two & just play with small or non penetrive toys & see if it springs back.
mouses ear? thats not a version ive heard before, but i like it!! x
