Ok here it goes, been with my wife for 9 years, married 3 and we have a good active sex life no issues at all
For years though I’ve had this hotwife/cuckold fantasy that is so strong, I’ve put it to the back of my mind for long periods but it’s back stronger than ever and It’s a massive turn on for me
Basically the idea of my wife having sex with someone bigger than me (I’m average) in front of me drives me crazy!
I’m having trouble bringing this up to her though, she’s very conservative when it comes to sex and I’m not sure how she’d react, as far as fantasy’s go it’s pretty out there! If it was just spanking or something I would easily be able to mention it, but I feel like with this once you open the box it’s hard to go back
I wouldn’t want her to look at me any differently, or any less manly etc. On paper it seems like it could be a woman’s dream scenario but in reality it will probably be a shock at least at first
I would never rush into it though and don’t think I’d start straight off with the whole fantasy, I wanted to introduce it slowly and explore with some sex toys, I think even just exploring it as a fantasy and not going all the way would be enough
A large dildo would be an obvious start but she’s never used one and says she doesn’t like the idea of them, we placed our first LH order last week and got the up all night kit with a mini wand and also added a clit suction toy which she did enjoy
my next step was to try and introduce some more toys but without her knowing the fantasy it will be hard to explain why I’d like to order an 8” realistic black dildo
My question is how can I approach this fantasy without freaking her out?
I had a similar situation and concerns. I had the fantasy for some time and would mention it to her during foreplay or after some drinks, she played along with it a little but nothing more came of it.
One evening I decided to tell her of my fantasy in the cold light of day, it was such a relief to share the fantasy with her and made it feel much less deviant. She is your wife and if you are honest she will understand, your just explaining your kink to her and are not asking her to enact it, just no pressure honest communication.
After explaining why I had this fantasy we have had alot of fun with it since, we have chosen toys together, she will indulge my fantasy in roleplay and will point out guys she is sexually attracted to, she’s even dressed up to show herself off on a night out. All fantasy for us at the moment but a good way for us to explore how we feel about it
Hey @Kinkier I would try posting in the “What’s your fantasy” thread which has already been started and some already sharing same fantasy. You will likely get bigger response and this new one is likely to be closed in 7days or merged.
If you search the forums at the top you will find it or put cuckhold you will find some previous to read through.
Sounds like definitely on the right track though and take it slow as if your just starting out with toys it’s a big step to then introduce third person.
Some really good advice though already on her about third person the risks , trust etc.
Maybe over glass of wine or two, you can just share fantasies and see where it goes.
I may be very conservative when it comes to these sort of things and very vanilla. By the sound of it so is your wife and for that reason I would say until she has accepted , tried and enjoyed the dildo/vibrator I would not even consider mentioning your fantasy. Until it becomes her fantasy don’t even consider it would be my advise, she needs to want it as much as you do.
That sounds perfect, exactly how I’d want it to go to be honest! I can definitely imagine the relief once you said it out loud, glad it went well for you!
Thanks for the tips! I’d read through all of the cuckold posts over the last few days and seen most were in this category so choose this one but maybe you’re right that would’ve been best! Thanks
Im not even sure how it came about or how i mentioned it but i had the exact same fantasy.
Being the luckiest guy alive, my wife enjoys acting it out with me, which is such a turn on.
If i wanted too go futher she would try it on a random night away with a stranger, however i think this would be a step to far for me. Ill stick with the 8" king cock for now.
But as said above introduce more toys slowly and once she atarts to enjoy them, then start droping hints.
I agree with @Iwill be careful what you wish for!
Be really careful not to mix up fantasy with reality. Once you’ve opened that particular box there’s no going back and it could destroy what sounds like a solid relationship.
It would have to be something that you were both 100% comfortable with long before going there and it sounds like you’re a very long way from that right now.
If you’re determined to take it further, introduce it as nothing more than your fantasy and even then, pick your moment carefully.
She will let you know if and/or when she’s ready and if not, let it go.
Sorry to be blunt!
I think that if this is the case, she probably won’t want anyone else inside her either. I think you should keep this one to yourself… maybe try a penis extender or something where you are still emotionally involved.
I have a feeling you may do more damage than good.
If she has never used a dildo and doesn’t like the idea of them…then suggesting them when you know she doesn’t like them will make her feel you are pressuring her.
She may be fine with non-insertable toys…but sounds like she associates anything penetrative with a partner / lover.
I would say that dildos would be a no-no…now as for introducing another man into the scenario for you to watch her with…I would try and get a conversation going with her…(but not in the bedroom…)about fantasies…maybe porn you could say you’ve watched or “heard” about…that you thought you’d like to watch together? Ask if there’s any kind of porn she’d like to watch?
Take it from there and you should be able to judge from her reaction / response as to taking the conversation further.
It is a huge can of worms to open…and once opened they’re out… and there’s no rewind option to go back…please please think about it…think… then think again before either of you make any decisions.
I’ve said on the forum before… I know someone who went along with it and she squirted for the first time…her partner saw her “loving it” and it made him feel inadequate…they split up and it made her feel dirty and like she’d just been used to fulfill his fantasy.
Good Luck…don’t rush into anything and be careful.
I think these things can best left in fantasy land.
We have recently been watching “open house the big sex experiment” really good show to help u think about possible issues with this.
Hmmm…I would be all over the CuckQueen fantasy… A man could never feel inadequate since he would never know how it feels to be a woman with another woman.
I like it @FortySomethingWife … I think that is the technical term to a fantasy I spoke of above that I have.
the forums at the top you will find it or put cuckhold you will find some previous to read through.
