So last night, for the first time EVER - I let the hubby take a video of me pleasuring myself.
I wouldn’t usually be that into it as I’d be feeling self—conscious, but I was so horny at the time so I just didn’t care.
Anyway, this morning he was talking about it and telling me how hot it is and how turned on he is at work.
I love this!!!
However, he showed the video to me and I was instantly like “ugghhh I do not want to see that”.
Why does it make me cringe watching myself like that?
I don’t feel that way watching others.
Is this normal?
Does anyone have any tips on how to feel and look good on cam or video?
I’d love to be able to sit back and watch a whole sex video of us without feeling that I want to turn it off.
I made an instructional video about using fibreglass and I can’t even bear to watch that so there’s no way I’d be able to watch myself doing anything intimate.
I hate seeing even a pic of myself and don’t like hearing myself, but always wanted to do it with my partner and think it would be sexy watching it together afterwards, but never managed to do it, but definitely something I want to try.
Afterwards I am sure I would cringe, but it is a hot fantasy!
So no tips but definitely total understanding. Most people don’t like seeing themselves!! But is really about confidence in ourselves!
Hi @Cupc8kes
I think men are probably more confident in that situation.
I’d love to make a video of our sex session, but OH hasn’t been keen for similar reasons to yourself
Maybe take one of him pleasuring himself and it will give you a different perspective.
Sounds like great fun you had.
Hi @Cupc8kes - I may be wrong here, but given that you’ve posted some damn fine images of yourself modelling various items on this forum, I’m guessing that it’s probably not the whole of yourself you can’t bear to watch. Again, guessing here, but… if the video was mostly a close-up of your bits and what you were doing with them, your reaction isn’t totally surprising.
Why? Cos an awful lot of women never see their genitals from that angle and in such close-up, so the “mental image” they have of their bits can be quite different from the reality. This even applies to some men and their bits, although far less commonly cos our junk is more “out there” and on display. An awful lot of women, though, really have no truthful idea of what their …er… fun palace looks like.
Back in the 70s there was a movement/trend pioneered by feminist activists in which groups of women would get together, sit in a circle on the floor and each examine her vulva in a small mirror: get really properly familiar with the architecture of it all, the look of it, and notice how its appearance and behaviour changed over their monthly cycle. The idea was to get over societal taboos about “down there” and to “learn to love your pussy”.
As I say, apologies if none of the above applies to you - for all I know, you may have framed pictures of your bits all the way up the stairs! - but I wondered whether doing something similar (perhaps even masturbating on your own while watching your bits in a small mirror?) might help you to get over your reaction to that video?
I don’t think I could do it. Not a fan of watching/hearing myself. Besides, I masturbate under the covers and barely move. Even my partner says I don’t put on much of a show when he watches me
I’m the exact same I don’t mind the videos/pictures being done but I cringe at looking at myself it’s the same with audio hate hearing myself speak on a recording, not sure why… There’s nothing hotter than sexy video of your wife/gf playing with the self’s
I have done it and the bit that really turned me off was hearing my own voice! I’m really self conscious of my voice even though I’ve been told it’s as sexy as hell
I’ve done a bit of camming so I’m kind of used to watching myself but it’s totally different to making a video and watching it played back , which generally features a lot more ‘close ups’.
I’d suggest making sure your OH angles the cam in a way that doesn’t show anything you’re not confident with (although judging by your pics on here you look pretty damn amazing!) . I feel more confident in lingerie that covers the bits I’m not keen on.
Your OH clearly found it a massive turn on but it can take a bit of getting used for the person at the other end of the cam. How about videoing him having a play so you can get a perspective of what it’s like from the other side?
@PleasureDrone
I definitely do not have pictures of my clam packet plastered all up the stairs
Although this may help me to become more familiar and open with it!
Well this particular video wasn’t even a close up of my genitals, but I guess it’s just like watching your facial expressions and stuff.
I’ve tried to investigate and discover myself down there to see what all the fuss is about … I just don’t find it nice at all to be honest
@Cupc8kes I think that the excitement of taking the movie usually better than the result. Being involved in the process far outweighs the watching it back in the cold reality of day. That is why we always erase ours after we finish filming. The fantasy is better than the reality of the result.
@wildflower
Thanks, that’s real nice of you. But I’m only happy to show off the bits I feel confident with. So as you can probably tell, I love my top half but I’m not overly confident about the bottom.
I’m going to get hubby to make a cheeky lil video for me and see if I like it x
The same way that you were turned on when you took the video, have you tried rewatching it when you’re turned on? It’s definitely good to build on confidence with your own body and being able to look at it at all times, but in the same way that most people don’t watch porn unless they’re turned on, this would be the same for home videos.
I love rewatching home videos during solo play or partner play, but wouldn’t necessarily watch them back outside that time
Can’t stand filming myself. Especially if I’m in some lingerie that I think I looks really good and I feel really confident in, then see myself on video and my illusions are shattered! Done that too many times.
My husband once took a short video of me using a vibrator, I hated it so much that I couldn’t let him keep it either. He loved it though!
At first I hated seeing myself especially how goofy I look when I’m going to cum, but now I like it. It does take time to like yourself in a video if you don’t have full confidence, if your partner puts you at ease when watching it then you may well soon like it just as much as your partner likes seeing you in the video. I have a thing about a orgasm face so sexy now I have learnt to like my own
I hate seeing myself on video or hearing recordings of my voice!
I have some videos on YouTube (on a subject completely unrelated to sex!) and I think I look and sound like a complete idiot! Other people seem to like them though…
It seems a quite number of people on the forum have tried filming…I’d really like to give it a go, but would really need to get OH in right frame of mind.
Not too bothered about close up shots , just a view of OH on top riding or doggy position
( Mrs Iwill’s boobs would film well)
I’m sure it would be arousing when watching later.
… I just don’t find it nice at all to be honest 
.Not that I take too much anyway.
