Right I know this is very weird but is there anywhere I can send a picture of my penis and get a honest opinion on it? I don’t care how critical it is
I’ve just got out of a very long relationship and she was my first and only, but she has left me with such a complex about my penis it’s honestly ruining my life.
The not knowing if how she’s made me feel is true, is what’s destroying me. If others agree with her then that’s fine, I just want confirmation
Hi and welcome to the forum @RuinedNightmare 
It sounds to me like possibly your ex was just being nasty and/or maybe had her own insecurities and to make herself feel better, made you feel insecure.
You said it was a long term relationship, so realistically, she wouldn’t have had an issue at the beginning? Something to maybe consider?
I’m not sure where you’d find anywhere to give you an honest opinion, everyone likes different things - size, shape, whatever it is, someone will like it.
If you’re concerned from a medical perspective, I’d recommend talking to a doctor/nurse. Nothing will be new to them.
I know you can search online for people who will ‘rate your dick’ but I personally wouldn’t trust them. I could be wrong but imagine they’re either in it for money or kicks and care more about that than giving genuine feedback.
Sorry I can’t be more help, but hopefully that gives you some food for thought.
I imagine other forum members will also have some input later 
I agree with @MsSubExperimenter, it sounds like your ex was trying to be hurtful, especially given it was a long term relationship. Make a GP appointment for a health check but they will ask you what your concerns are.
Theres nowhere that I would recommend you sending a photo bc people like to be cruel, and don’t be sending it to anyone unsolicited either, the shock factor is rarely kind. Do you have a male friend that you would trust to be honest and considerate?
Welcome to the forum, sorry it under such terms we see you here 
It’s your penis and it’s the one you’ve got so it’s not weird it’s yours and if it’s different from just a straight pole then is more unique and potentially more giving than some of our counterparts.
Did you know our friend for life come in all shapes, sizes and colours. Without knowing what and why and I’m not asking you to tell. You could be 5”2’ as thin as a bean pole but have an 8’ coke can that curves like a crescent moon. 
or 6”4’ and have a 5’ penis no thicker than your thumb. It’s yours and if someone doesn’t like it then they are not for you. Your penis could be tapered so it’s bigger at the bottom or a really fat glandular head or your colouring just doesn’t match your body skin tone, so what?!
And people say the most hurtful things to you when they leave you. It makes them feel good, every detail of why they think it’s right to just to make you feel the worst you can be. That’s not a nice characteristic for someone to have. And you are better of without it in your life.
@JoCat and @MsSubExperimenter have already given you the best advice. If you have any worries go see your GP.
I hope life keeps getting better for you day by day. 
As others have posted,they come in all shapes and sizes.Plus,the fact it was a long term relationship speaks volumes,she was with you for a long time so she was more than happy.Unfortunately the downside of a long and loving relationship is if it ever does come to a break up.You have been together a long time,shared thoughts,experiences,insecurities and feelings which in a situation like this can make us vunerable.Breakups are generally not happy occasions,far from it.Those intimate and secret worries/anxieties divulged during the time you are feeling safe and secure with someone who loves and understands you are suddenly there to be used against you during times such as this as @JGood posted.I know it is easy for us to say,but do not worry.lt was said to hurt you and make her feel better.You will find someone else and we all wish you well.
@RuinedNightmare welcome to the forum.
Sounds like you’ve had a lucky escape.
I am sure that you could get a medical opinion to inform you that there is nothing physically wrong and could explain your anxiety and where it stems from.
I would hazard a guess that somewhere on the Internet there will be a site along the lines of ‘rate my dick’ but that may not do your confidence much good and the picture will be out there forever.
The only person that should be making comments about your cock is a medical professional. Any one else can comment on how good it is but its the one you have and you cannot change it. It sounds like she was just be nasty, a cheap way at getting it you. On line ladies that rate cocks are more likely to be fake so would not trust them. You have what you have, keep it clean and find another lady.
Welcome to the club
J agree sounds she was being rude about your penis / as others say they come in all shapes and sizes (if you want to describe it to us we will give you an honest opinion)
Hello there and welcome to the forum.
I really don’t have too much to offer other than to say that I completely agree with the others above.
Having not long come out of two failed poly relationships myself, with insecure, toxic, cheating men who both dared to call me the 'toxic" one for daring to raise ny concerns in the relationship, however gently, I can tell you that people can and do say the most vicious things when they want out and they aren’t happy. If I were you, I’d set it as a boundary now that you must be respected, because you deserve to be respected - I’ve already decided that if a man labels me as “toxic” again, we’re through on the spot: that’s a projection and I don’t deserve it when I’m trying to help our relationship grow.
Just to add to my story there slightly, my last ex blocked me in retaliation for me blocking him once (I took a poorly communicated Whasapp message the wrong way, he blamed me entirely for that too). I noticed a few days ago that he’s unblocked me since, about three weeks later, I guess because he missed me - he missed his supportive, loving, patient, “toxic” ex. Too bad, so sad, I blocked him for good and without telling him why because he blocked me without a word when I asked him to communicate with me to try and sort us out. I am much better off without him and by the sounds of her you’ll be much better off without her too. You might not feel it right now, but you will be
Regarding your penis, I would strongly advise you to stay away from getting it rated online. I got my face rated online once and I got rated a 4, despite being able to charm just about any man that I encounter and despite being told by a friend-kinda-more last night that I am “very pretty”. As others have said, perfect penises vary and as long as it’s clean, somebody will love you - all of you
Hi there RN.
We are a friendly bunch on here and no-one would criticise you or make fun at all. As others have said every penis is different.
Lovehoney won’t allow intimate photos, even for educational or help purposes unfortunately.
Also as others have said, it would be very unwise to post it to a group on a platform such as X or Reddit, especially if you have insecurities about your body. There are people out there who don’t care if they insult their mother, so stay away from anyone you don’t know or trust implicitly.
Why not describe to us what you think is wrong about yourself, we can probably debunk the toxic comments she made very quickly.
This is a community of people who help (but don’t judge) each other
So sad to here this dude, I’ve actually had guys in the past ask me to help give them honest advice on their penis and if it’s below average or anything…
If I was able to give you my details I’d happily say feel free to send over to me in confidence if needed but alas it’s against forum rules on here… I’ll instead say maybe see if you’ve got any close mates you can open up to about this and ask them?
Is this a medical type thing you’re worried about or just size and aesthetic?
Penis are ugly, dont ever send a picture to anyone unless requested.
You should know that, survey says, size does not matter. You should not pay attention to her. Size is not correctly viewed, in general. A study found that the majority of men believed that the average erect penis length is more than 6 inches. This indicates that there is a general misconception about penis size. Another study concluded the average erect penis length to be 5.16 inches. One interesting video on YouTube from pelvic floor therapist Michelle Kenway discusses information that she gathered. She discusses an article that Bruce M. King did in 2021, which is cited and referenced in the video. Michelle’s survey indicated overwhelmingly, for women, that size does not matter. The themes that came through in her survey included that what matters is technique, honesty, and passion. The 3 key take home messages from the video were (1) Most men estimate size incorrectly, (2) Size does NOT matter for most women, and (3) Other things matter for more women and large size can be painful. Also, with respect to the woman, penis length and girth (in circumference or diameter) can affect her. Length is connected to the length of the vagina that the penis is going into. The vagina can range in length from 2.7 to 5.8 inches in length. The cervix, which is at the end of the vagina, can be hit by a penis that is above average in length; and this can cause pain during penetration sex and even bruising of the cervix. Therefore, the vagina length factor is another reason why a penis length above average can actually cause problems. The other size factor is the girth of the penis, which is usually measured in circumference. A study found that the girth can range from about 3.4 to 5.7 inches with an average of 4.59 inches. This corresponds to about 1.1 to 1.8 inches in diameter, with an average of 1.46 inches. Since the vagina opening can vary from 0.94 to 2.56 inches in diameter, a penis girth above average can matter very much for women with smaller vagina openings. You do not need to be insecure about size.
I’d suggest that this like others have said is likely done out of spite for whatever reasons
There a few places on line where you can see collections of penis pictures
They range in size shape cut and uncut
I’m a 60’ish yo guy who has cammed with literally hundreds of other guys nude in the past few years
I can assure you that there’s no need to be afraid about researching this
Don’t look at porn though it isn’t likely to get you a representative sample
Try joining a group on line somewhere where guys post pics or videos of themselves ask for feedback and see what they post
Be careful about who you share with and when you think you are satisfied with your answer you can delete the account
First of all hiya @RuinedNightmare
I hope that you are genuinely ok…I first of all have seen my fair share of penis’s all different shapes and sizes and all beautiful to look at…hold…feel…smell and taste…again all varying in texture…taste and smell.
It’s terrible that you have only had one partner and she has made you feel this way about your penis.
As others have said don’t go posting pictures on any web sites or feel that your penis is anything other than a pleasurable part of your body…a fantastic complex and beautiful part at that.
Also don’t compare it to anything in porn…they are chosen for their penis firstly and they are not the norm. If you feel you want it checking I would go to your GP or if you have noticed any changes in the appearance of your penis get it checked out.
I’m sure forum members can put your mind at ease if you give us a bit more insight into what was said if you feel comfortable doing so.
You say it was a long term relationship so presumably your penis was ok until the relationship wasn’t? Some people say the most hurtful things in the heat of the moment especially when a relationship breaks down.
Get some advice as it will eat away and possibly spoil any further relationships and cause sexual issues if you’re feeling something isn’t right.
Sending you hugs and hoping you resolve this concern soon.
Well said @CurvyJilly a great post supporting this gentleman. As you have said partners can say such bad things when relationships breakdown.
As everyone else has said, sounds like she was just being horrible, I always thought my cock wasn’t the biggest, so I invested in a bathmate, and I did see some decent gains, but it got to the stage where mrstoysrus said any bigger and it would be uncomfortable, I started off at 6.5”x5” and only got to 7”x5.5”, turns out I’m the perfect size for my mrs, if you look online you’ll find a large percentage of women say 5-7” is the perfect size, so don’t worry about size, just learn how to use it right