My car passing it’s MOT with minimal expense, a small win, but I’ll take it.
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Small wins are still wins 
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Exactly, and i always appreciate them!
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My disabled wife seems to have reset her brain and is truly trying to improve herself . She started physical therapy two weeks ago , twice a week . The pain is terrible , but she is sticking with it . Yesterday she wanted to go grocery shopping with me , first time in 6 - 8 years . Anyway , things are looking up a bit . Now if she can reduce her spending . Also she has reduced her Coke intake and eating less , she has lost weight and that should help with strain on her poor body . Once again I can see a tiny candle in a very long tunnel !
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Great news @Oldman
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Awwwww @Oldman that’s a massive step forward…
Fingers crossed for you both that many steps forward however small keep coming.
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This is fantastic news. I hope you enjoyed shopping together after so long
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Great news! I hope YOU’RE ok too, nobody asks how the carer is, it’s like they assume it doesn’t take it’s toll.
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Rarely anybody asks , you are right there . I have put off several needed surgeries , dental care . Will continue because I can’t take " time off " , along with costs pretty much wipe out any spare money . Soldier on ! It is hard for my friends to grasp why I can not go on trips or attend expensive events . I do not tell anybody what my life consists of . It would appear that if I had worked 80 years instead of only 40 , maybe I would have enough money ?
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Yes, we put on brave faces and just get on with it. Our bad days crawl by un-noticed by outsiders, and they don’t understand why we turn stuff down because we just don’t have the energy or will. If anyone does ask, we lie and say we’re ok.
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As a carer of 25 years I know some of your daily challenges It doesn’t get easy the longer you care. But do what you can to look after yourself
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When asked , I reply " Living the Dream " . I think one of the harder things is since I am the only one around her , when upset or mad at doctors etc. she unloads on me . She needs to vent , and I am handy . When I am reminding her of meds or exercise she says I am nagging her . When I detect something is off and I check her vitals she often gets mad at me . Most common problem is dehydration . The current glimmer of hope is something we both need , yay !
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I had a friend say it was like I worked at a nursing home . I did not say it , but thought that would be easy . I am on call 24/7 and do all healthcare , cleaning and cooking and am her driver . If she is doing OK and weather permitting , my 5-8 hour motorcycle rides clear my head and I am good for another month or so . It is toughest when I am under the weather . All we can do is all that we can do . Oh yeah , nude tanning and being outdoors more refreshes me , with a side effect of making me hornier .
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Yes, it’s very hard to exude positivity and a cheerful upbeat home atmosphere when there’s a black hole caused by external forces inside draining it away, but the mask stays on. The limited family who should care, keep their visits and contact to the bare minimum despite living a 5 minute drive away. Especially angered currently because she’s recovering from a debilitating operation, necessitating me doing virtually everything. Don’t need help or supplies just a social visit from said family to show they care.
So yes I understand and sympathise my friend.
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Seeing Sue Perkins live show 
Recently I’ve seen Susie (Dent), Sue and seeing Suzi (Ruffell) in a couple of weeks, don’t know what it is about that name 
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Realizing just how much you get for your money buying property in Pembrokeshire, 6 bedroom bungalow in the countryside for half the price of our place. Perfect p!ace for a playroom.
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The property is mainly cheaper because there is far less work in the area. Of course this has become less of a problem with many now working from home. Broadband is then more important. Pembrokeshire a lovely area, some great beaches . @Wood-Nymph
We are both retired with private pensions so work is not an issue for us. I think we will be putting our house on the market later this year, but we need to have a conversation with hubbys parents.
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Our son comes home from school on Friday with a bunch of flowers 
for me
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One of my workmates giving me a homemade Guinness cake, just had some and it was delicious. 
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