It’s something I’ve always wanted to try, but I often wondered what makes it sexy for ladies? Is it a control thing, or something else?
For a woman, pegging with a strap-on could stimulate the prostate, and it may result in a hard erection. That would seem to benefit the ladies.
It’s got a lot to do with the role reversal and, in particular, the total switch in the power dynamic.
Some women can orgasm during pegging by using a strapless strap-on, a bullet vibrator in the harness or even from the friction of the harness alone.
There is also the pleasure felt from just giving physical pleasure to another person.
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That is exactly the dynamic for my o/h.
When she did it the first time and started ‘getting it right’ for me and saw my pleasure increasing, she orgasmed herself solely due to the power she had over me.
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Mrs W here …
This is similar to the effect it had on me after I started pegging Mr W … I didnt cum the first time, in fact it took quite a few times before I got it even near right, but then it has tremendous effects on me - seeing and hearing him enjoying it - and including cums for me … and on a couple of occasions, multiples… xx
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Definitely the control and role reversal.
I love to dictate when, where and how he gets pegged. I love what I can get him to do when I’m deep inside his ass.
Plus the pumping the cum out of him is my best thrill and I cum most times.
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Mrs W and Pen here …
Not sure if this is relevant to “pegging” or not, but when Pen and I sort each other out, only one has the strap-on so becomes the “male”.
I usually prefer to ride Pen in the Missionary position, whereas Pen usually prefers to ride me doggy-style (usually over settee arm), although there are a few rarer times when we try other positions… anyway, to stay on topic, when Pen and I do it the one wearing the strap-on becomes a “male thinker” and a “male talker” for the time we are wearing the strap-on and that is a huge turn-on for both of us. At all other times we are 100% female … Only once so far, have we used a double-ended dildo, in that situation we realised we both considered ourselves female but modified positions, thrusts etc to suit the requirements of the other x
Edit: Last sentence added.
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Wow this is really interesting perspective, thanks Pen. It answers why my o/h gets so horny over it as she is role playing a man pleasuring me, which is often considered taboo.
She knows last year that I had ‘a play’ with my good mate and enjoyed it a fair bit as I told her all about it, we have no secrets.
She even kept saying his name once during a later pegging session and it kind of worried me 
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The dynamic of role reversal, also some pegging kits include a dildo with a bullet vibrator, so good vibrations for both.
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As both of us have been reading this thread, we’ve placed an order for the below item. Not wishing to become a size queen though. We’ve had the basic smooth one that comes with the harness for a year (5" long, 3" circ) and feel like trying the next model up.
A bit different being a more realistic version, she wants to see visually how I feel “taking a real one” Being 6" by 4" it will be much bigger than anything we’ve tried before, but I am very small back there and the basic one is more than enough feeling wise, but stretching to this one may be fun.
Neither of us can get the 4.5" circ LH butt plug in ourselves despite trying for ever, so this may be the girthiest thing we manage.
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In our house it’s largely a power play/role reversal thing. Wife includes toys for herself inside her harness briefs (usually a vaginal dildo and Womanizer on her clit) for actual physical pleasure, but most of the appeal is in the mental part of the play.
Here’s a way I’ve previously described it:
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It’s definitely the role reversal and being in control for my OH.
We have tried a double-ended dildo before which added to the pleasure for both of us. As she thrust harder for her own pleasure it made for a deeper sensation for me too. Just incredible.
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Al’s OH writing. I love putting the dildo up his butt. Once i made him cum while moving it in and out. I get very wet just doing that to him without being touched myself. Maybe his soft moans turn me on or watching his butt hole open as I push it in. It always leads to anal sex unless he cums first.
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Would love to explore this with my wife, yes I know “just communicate” with her about it. It’s baby steps with her, as she’s opened up sexually with me over the years, I’ve learned to take it at her pace, suggesting etc. We are already playing anally with her, so I think at some point she’ll suggest trying it on me.
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Yes, a prostate massage with a dildo can be very “productive”.
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He loves it. I wipe the cum off his belly. Or we get in the shower
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I asked Mrs H this question.
She told me that she enjoyed pegging me for a few reasons.
She finds the role reversal / power dynamic is a huge turn on for her. Being in complete control, whilst I am at her disposal, is mentally a powerful dynamic.
She also tells me that the trust I give her in allowing her to peg me is also a big turn on.
She told me that she also “got off” from my vocal, and physical reaction, during my being penetrated by her.
Whether from her grinding action, or the addition of a bullet in one of our harnesses, she tells me that from the physical action (and mental fantasies), she receives lots of personal pleasure.
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For double the pleasure, you could try a Lovehoney Double Duty Vibrating Double-Ended Strap-On Dildo. See:
Lovehoney’s description says:
“One end of the deliciously curved double dildo offers an insertable length of 5 inches, with a shared, flared base seamlessly connecting it to the longer, 7 inch shaft. At its widest point, the circumference comes in at 4.5 inches.”
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Well that settles it then! Definitely need to try! 