blonde vixen13 wrote:
Fluffbags my ex was so bad that even after trying to tell him and give him instructions, he still couldn't get it, so I just have up and stopped him doing it!
:( I have no answer for that situation! lol I believe their is only so many times you can say "This is what I like" before you almost start to feel like your being critical and judgey and just don't want to say it any more. (Out of annoyance and not wanting to hurt someones feelings)
Similar thing happened with me, when I went through a "struggling" period and orgasm was hard to reach without vibrating hard! My guy has a habit. when excited, to start increasing pace and how hard he presses, which kills my buld up. There were so many times I had to stop him as I just could not get there. We would speak after and I would mention the increase, but the next time, excitement kicked in when he sensed I was close and he upped his pace...I managed to save it by barking out "slow slow gentle" and all was good.. We spoke again after and he said "PLEASE do that more...give me direction when I am not doing it right" I said..."But I don't wanna sound like some judgey robot, going up, down left a bit, slow, hard constantly" and he said "I would rather you did if it means I can make you orgasm"
Problem is...constantly talking during oral is a mood killer in itself for me! Anyway, over time he got used to what I liked and now I don't need to say anything. It is really good now, but at first, it was not so much! lol