I’ve just bought an electric massager pen for use on my clitoris. Yes it hurts but I love it.
I’ve also been using chilli lip plumper and other things that burn. I wonder why we enjoy causing pain to our clitorises?
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It’s not just to our clits, some of us enjoy pain full stop. I’ve got a husband’s hair to cut, but I’m sure @Spanky and/or @JGood will enjoy writing a more helpful explanation in my absence 
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You’re like a Professor assigning work to her TA’s. I’m ver tempted to pass on this…but I know better than ignoring…”suggestions”. 
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Then consider it an assignment, and I suggest you get writing 
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@RachelW I often wonder the same things. But here is my observences from playing with my partners.
As a sensual sadist I do not enjoy inflicting pain, I call it inflicting pain in a very pleasurable way. What my partners have explained to me about the desire to recieve pain to pleasurable or erotic areas is that they have predisposed them selves to not seeing pain as a result. But to get there they have to feel particular connection to the person administering such attention.
Pain and pleasure are not mutually exclusive. I have found them to connected. The things we do with each other given the normal wiring is not sexy or pleasurable. In a binary state it’s just pain. Much like how sex isn’t entirly pleasurable without forplay. We will accept much more when we have been stimulated to readjust our mental and emotional senses so that we can recive pain as a sensation. (I stole that line from a mentee of mine)
It then becomes an entire body experiences and their synapsis are firing on all cylinders so that by the time we get to a senstive area such as the clitoris the acceptance and desire has already been set.
Why do my partners enjoy it, they tell me it’s because they feel safe, protected and a full power and neregy exchange has been established. The nned then isn’t about thje pain it’s the sensation of actualizing pleasure.
That’s what I’ve heard. And I’m sticking to this story and that’s either going to get me spanked or hear rubs.
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I have read that, but going to read it again to be sure I’ve understood 
thank you
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Have a head pat. You did good 
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So demanding!
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Hubby’s hair cut, clippers away and dog in bed, I’ve finally got some time to reply.
For me as a Smart Assed Masochist/Floggee (I totally made that word up, it means someone who enjoys being flogged), the pleasure of pain is that I can actually feel the impact of my transgressions — I can feel the impact in impact play. I will torment; I will push and push until my Diominant is at their wits end with me. Luckily my partners are more than happy to give as good as they get! 
A key thing there is “play” — I need playful partners in order for me to feel safe and accepted, I don’t respond favourably to disciplinarions at all. I hate the idea of being punished — I may be bratty, but I’m not bad. I don’t consent to being “corrected” or “trained” — it has to be play, or not at all.
Trust is also paramount: there’s no greater feeling that being able to trust the person who gets you, understands you, and does these things to you. It’s the kind of communication that doesn’t even need words, you can just read one another.
I also think @Spanky is right, in a way — pain is like the seasoning of life. Sure, it isn’t the whole meal, but it can make the meal that much better
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Everything os better well seasoned!
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@RachelW i’m glad to hear the new toys are hitting the mark 
and I agree with all that’s been said by @Spanky here and with @Tenshadesandme.
Just to add that pain stimulation creates such complex chemical and hormonal responses that are so intoxicating and drug like that it can be all consuming. And while you are enjoying that direct and instant pain and joy there are so many more ways to extract that pain from the human body.
Denied
Prolonging any action
Pressure
Sensory overload
Sensory denial
All of these can be equally painfully pleasing. As an example ice cubes on the clit and in the pussy to chill, while a pin wheel is slowly used on the thighs and mound. To the point your body can’t take any more.
Then a labia spreader is used and the clit massaged with a warm wet tongue and bitting to the persons preferred pressure.
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Ahem… a knowledgeable Dominant would know that ice should never be placed directly onto the skin as it can cause freeze burns
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I love the thought of pressure directly on the clit. That shibari knot thing sounds just the ticket.
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Wise PSA announcement
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You could wrap it in Saran Wrap… the ice I mean.
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I do have a rolled steel cane I keep in the freezer for temprature play but if I’m going that close I wrap the end in a cloth. Still get the cold. But safely.
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Of course! What else?
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But you never linger in one spot with temperature play be it hot or cold. The damage to yourself is more worrying than you intended victim… I mean partner
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Victem is Sadist talk for partner. Perfectly acceptable.
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You say that, but I heard “Tormentor” and “victim” used on a shockumentary once, about BDSM. And by the narrator, not the participants.
Admittedly it’s surprising how fast the Tormentor can become the Tormented 
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