So when I first met my wife she had a fair amount of nice general underwear which seemed to be more what she thought she was expected to wear (not necessarily by me) than what she wanted to.
As her tastes changed (less thongs for example) we would both buy nice stuff for her to wear in the bedroom such as babydoll and things and every now and then she would still pick out specifically nice sets on days we would usually have sex.
As time has gone on this dissipated first. I would then try to encourage it by leaving nice sets out for her in the morning or buy her lingerie for special occasions and she once said that she doesnāt always feel comfortable living up to the expectation of these.
Now years on its cheap cotton knickers and Iāve probably seen something nice at bedtime once in the last year.
Now I donāt want to sound hard done by here. We still love each other a lot and the opportunity to help her through some family problems and lockdown has made us much closer and this isnāt about expecting sexy lingerie every day (I know thongs arenāt for everyone) but it is just beginning to bother me.
I make as much effort as I can personally and try to please her in bed as much as possible but how can I help this and make her comfortable being a bit sexier?
She is aware of my specific tastes and feel it would be nice to play to that once in a while?
We have an anniversary coming up and I want to buy her something but Iām worried about how this will come across and hope that it wonāt seem to be forceful or expectant.
Any thoughts or help appreciated.
Thanks