Woah, woah, woah. How did we get from talking about beliefs to rejecting people, GG? I wrote about respecting people, not rejecting them.
My first paragraph was trying to understand what you meant by the phrase "and don't believe it has any place in our love lives."
Did you mean that phrase to be specific to you and your partner or to everyone in general. I read it as everyone in general, following on from the apparent generality of the preceding clause about children and forced beliefs.
I think we have fundamentally different ideas about what religion is, GG. It's certainly not my experience that all religion is taught. Someone can teach words, but much of what it's all about has to be experienced and developed for oneself, including values and worldview. I think you're writing in terms of catechism and things which can be taught and I'm writing primarily from the point of view of living it, which can't.
I also think that your beliefs about religion, even if they are structured in terms of rejection of the beliefs you were raised with, do affect your love life because they're part of the whole package of your life, thinking and worldview. But then we're working with very different ideas about what religion is.
I didn't approach this as a Q&A thread, but rather as discussion. I thought my first question was a natural follow on from your original post. Sorry if I was supposed to just leave my opinion and bugger off.
No one had to tell me what's wrong or right. I use other people's ideas to challenge, test and refine my own and if I find something I really like, I'll happily pinch it, and then challenge, test and refine it until it's integrated into my own, modified or set aside. And when I come across something that doesn't sit right with me, that dissonance can be brilliant for helping me clarify my own thinking further.
My love life and my religious beliefs are both shaped by the ideals I value like dignitiy and respect. Sexual intimacy is an expression of my beliefs about people and God.