it’s nice to know im not the only one 
do you have any recommendations for softer toys?
I tend to read erotic fiction or even get porn up to play
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I know the tracy cox series have some squishy vibes that people seem to like. I have the wand and its nice. Vibes arent quite right for me personally but its very tactile and feels good.
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I’ll look into it! Thank you!
That’s good that you’ve found something that gets you in the mood. As for toys, I’m probably not the best person to suggest something as I’m a bit weird, I realised that I didn’t like small things (they remind me too much of fingers and past trauma etc) so I’ve skipped to slightly larger ones that I wouldn’t suggest you try. The tracy cox supersex range gets great reviews for soft toys. They have a liquid silicone layer that makes them very squishy and gentle. I haven’t tried them myself but I have a very similar one which I love. The bullet vibe is out of stock but there is a clit vibrator and a g-spot one which I would use externally to begin with - that’s the one that is similar to mine and I only use it externally. There’s also a squishy wand that gets great reviews but it’s not cheap!
My first vibrator was actually very similar to this one (it wasn’t from LH but looks identical!). Again, it was best used externally but I enjoyed slipping it inside very slightly and then sliding it back out and over the clitoris before repeating if that makes any sense?! 
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Welcome and wow enjoy the forum and your exploration of your sexuality, you are in the right place for advise and with experienced people who will give you loads of fantastic advise too @gengar 
Hi and welcome! Just wanted to say I was (and still am) a virgin when I started using toys and I know there are others in the same boat on the forum, just in case you felt a little out of place or alone, you’re not! Oh and I also don’t like using my fingers. I totally agree with exploring externally first and finding what feels good there first, you might enjoy a nice bullet or pebble vibrator, that’s how I go started. Once you get to know what you like and what gets you going that way it should literally get the juices flowing and make penetration a lot easier (and you might even find you start wanting something inside once you start getting turned on). Good luck and have fun.
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Hi @gengar !
How about masturbating with something to grind against, like a pillow? That’s how I masturbated for years before upgrading to a toy!
Like the others have said, I don’t tend to use my fingers to masturbate, and I focus on clit (and g spot, which is just inside the vaginal opening)
Also, go with the flow and enjoy it! It sounds like anything sexual was taboo in your family, so take it slow and enjoy yourself 
Theres a rabbit too in that set. They do go on sale quite often so if you want it cheaper you can just wait for them to pop back up reduced
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I’ll definitely add that range to my personal wishlist! Regarding vibrators, do you happen to know if knicker vibrators any good?
I’ve not tried one sorry! I’m sure someone else will have done though
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Will definitely keep an eye out!
All good! Just stumbled upon them and was wondering
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I know they can be alot of fun. You can use them solo (and i know people do, i have a remote love egg i use by myself), but i always think they’re probably (for me at least) the kind of toy thats most fun with someone else holding the remote.
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ah…… yes…… will keep in mind if I ever find a partner……
Hiya @gengar and welcome aboard.
Lots of great advice been given here already. I just wanted to say: learn to love your body. All of it. Every inch of you is a potential source of pleasure and arousal, especially if you allow it to be, and although I know you’re worried about vaginal tightness and penetration right now, know that penetrative stuff is only one part of the picture. Take your time to enjoy whatever’s enjoyable about touching yourself: if a thing feels good, do it, and don’t see the magic orgasm as some kind of bar to leap over or a medal you’ve got to win (sorry - I’ve got the Olympics on my brain! 
). Allow yourself plenty of time, be in the moment, and don’t stress about it or set any goals for yourself. Let your body tell you what it likes and in time you’ll get wherever it’s going to take you. 
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Hey welcome to the forum !
I’d say it’s all about trial and learning what best works for you we’re all different and no two ways works for everyone so explore yourself and enjoy the process of getting to know your body better. LH has some great starter toys so maybe give them a go.
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