sexytime wrote:
I find that swingingheaven.co.uk has a lot of stories about bi guys and girls, and is a site for like minded straight/bi/gay people (and couples) to meet up.
This is a good site, I'm a member.
I had my first bi experience in a threesome with a girl and her boyfriend and it was amazing. I've had quite a few threesomes since then and I love watching two people together who know each other well and being able to touch. I love being watched when I'm with someone.
Now I'm with my OH I'm just a total perv, I get really turned on watching him with another girl. I find it hard when the sex turns turns in to friendship tho.
I wouldn't say I'm Bisexual as I couldn't imagine being in a relationship with a woman, or even having sex with a woman without a man being there.
I like the term 'hetro flexible' :D
ps I went for Bisexual as hetroflexible wasn't there and I wouldn't class myself as hetrosexual either, I do have sex with a woman usually at least once a week.
With regards there being more females who are bi than men, I would think it's also got a lot to do with bi sexual women being a fantasy for men, and some girls say they are bi to impress or fulfil that fantasy.
My O/H is Bi curious and I would love to watch him explore it, but I think it will be much harder for him to find someone to experiment with than it was for me. (especially someone who doesn't mind me watching, I might have to back off on that one and make do with the story afterwards :D
I'm coming round more and more to the idea of having sex with a man. It'd have to be the right man, mind, but in principle, I've no objections.
I can't say I fancy men, though. They don't do anything for me, and I don't think they ever will. Can't see myself in a relationship with one, either. So, I'd tend to say that makes me "bi-curious" at best.
Women are reputed to have more trouble separating sex from love and attraction - could this be why more of them tend to declare an interest in the same sex?
I indulge my bi side a couple of times a month. I go to a couple of sex cinemas that are not far from where I live and fulfill a couple of "urges". There are five sex cinemas all within easy reach. Some are good, some are awful.
As you can imagine, you can get allsorts going on in these places; firstly I am a bit of a voyeur and like to watch guys wank off. This is a real turn on for me. There are usually CD/TV's in the cinemas and I find the image of a hard cock in lingerie to be another turn on. I've bee sucked off by CD/TV's and have loved it. I've also wanked a guy off. It was one of those occasions that was just pure sex. Nothing more, nothing less. To be honest when you are getting a blow job and close your eyes it could be a man or a woman performing the act.
You occasionally get couples in the cinemas. Now that is fun! As long as boundaries are respected everyone can get what they want.
Earlier in the thread the subject of transexuals cropped up. The combination of a hard cock and nice tits really does it for me! That is a fantasy to be ticked off.
Yes I guess I am bi sexual, but as a guy I can seperate the emotional side from these encounters. It's just sex for the sake of it. I am not attracted to guys and will not ever be in a relationship with another guy; to be frank I love women too much for that.
She has been bi for a while, had a same-sex relationship many years ago. His first same-sex experience was when we had a 4some with a bi couple. These days most of our same-sex activity happens in 4some situations, although we do occasionally go to bi nights at Chameleons. He sometimes visits men-only saunas and she wishes there were similar places for women only - apparently they exist in the USA.
We both wish we'd allowed our bi side to come out when we were much younger, but it was considered "wrong" when we were the OP's age.
welll, speaking form experience, i have been with a guy and wasnt oo keen, and then have been with a convincing transexual and loved it.
recently tam has expressed interest in seeing me with a guy and i the idea has also turned me on too. prior to this we have had threesomes with a guy and im very comfortable being with another guy with nothing happening, though it is time to move this up a notch now.
personally i like the sex side of things and not the kissing/affection with a guy - and this is what im now looking forward to shortly. also knowing it turns tam on a lot will encourage me.
tam however is not keen on a transexual joining us, though has said shes happy for me to play if i wanted to go there again.
There's a lot of stuff to unpick here!
First, I hate labels. I'm a lesbian - I use that word for simplicity, but real life is far more complex than that. I didn't fully realise I was gay until maybe my late twenties. Before then I thought I was bisexual, and in my youth I assumed I was straight. The point being - labels are just crude shorthand. You are what you are, and you don't need to fit into any kind of 'official category'.
If you have desires for women, then my advice would be to pursue them if you really think it's right for you, but if you do, try not to take it too seriously at first. Just have fun, see if it feels right for you, and don't worry about what it means for your identity. If it doesn't work out, then as long as you and any partner are honest with each other, there'll be no harm done. Just because you have sex with a woman a few times, you're not necessarily no longer straight.
A point worth making is that a 'lesbian experience' is about more than just sex. It's about companionship, romance, relishing each other's company, a connection.
That said, when I emerged from my straight chrysalis and embraced my sexuality, I wanted sex, and I wanted to meet women to sleep with. Coming into that societal nexus from outside, I found it very difficult at first, and I'm afraid there's no shortcut I can recommend. You just need to live with your eyes open and see you meet. Lesbian bars and clubs are a tricky route - there's hardly one on every street, and you might find the environment very daunting. Although anything involving the internet requires extreme caution, your best bet might be to use a very respected lesbian dating site, take special care, and if you meet up with someone for a blind date, do so socially at first, so you can get to know her in real life.
toycar69 wrote:
Resurecting this thread, due to a thought I had this morning.
I've noticed that far more ladies and then men have put "bisexual" or "bicurious" in their profiles, or the Newbie Intiation thread.
Just wondered why this is? Obviously we have more female than male members, so I think thats part of it, but I'm thinking either female bisexuality is more common than male, or is it just girls are more comfortable in sharing this kind of information?
I'm pretty sure I read a study somewhere that proved womens' sexuality was more fluid than mens', which probably is the reason. Something like, they showed men gay, straight and chimp (yes, really) porn, and the men were only turned on by either the gay or the straight porn usually (depending on which they identified as), but the woman were in general turned on by all 3, although mainly the one they identified as. Women just like sex, men get hung up on who's got what bits :P Obviously a big generalisation, I know some very rigidly straight women and some very experimental guys (including one I used to be friends with who described himself as 'bidesperate' - straight but would have sex with men if he couldn't find a woman to go home with that night). I've certainly known more bisexual/bicurious women than men who generally do seem to fall into either 'gay' or 'straight', or at least have a strong preference one way or the other.
Julie_L wrote:
A point worth making is that a 'lesbian experience' is about more than just sex. It's about companionship, romance, relishing each other's company, a connection.
...Although anything involving the internet requires extreme caution, your best bet might be to use a very respected lesbian dating site, take special care, and if you meet up with someone for a blind date, do so socially at first, so you can get to know her in real life.
Just wanted to add to this, I found my first female partner through a dating site, though not a specifically lesbian one, and it was definitely a good route for me :) That said I really strongly disagree that a lesbian experience needs to be about 'companionship, romance...' etc. Everyone's sexuality is different, I'm bisexual but NOT biromantic, I'm not interested in anything more serious than friendship with women, but I love hot sex with them. It's great if you can have genuine friendship and connection with a partner but even that isn't a requirement for me. I respect that for you sex needs to have that context but I don't think it's fair to generalise, some bi/lesbian women just want to get laid :P
Much of the time, I just want to get laid too!
I didn't mean to imply that a lesbian experience *needs* to have those non-sexual elements - I'll clarfity. What I mean is that (a) your partner will be coming into any encounter with their own needs and desires and (b) if you're exploring your sexuality because you're curious, when you might also want to explore the emotional sides of it, to achieve a broader experience which might tell you more about who you are.
There's certainly nothing wrong with just wanting sex, though!
I am actually Pansexual. That doesn't mean that i simply fancy anything though, it just means that gender makes no difference to me.
I either like someone or i don't, simple as that. Their equipment has absolutely no bearing on that decision.
While i do seem to fancy more women than either men or transgender, it has nothing to do with their sex. It is simply that more women tend to have the traits and attributes (not necessarily physical either) that i find attractive in a person.
dotdashdot wrote:
Thanks everyone, I think I'm probably bi-curious but I guess it really doesn't matter what I am. I'm just me... no need to add a label to that. I think it's something I'll have to properly experiment with in order to find out my true feelings but I wouldn't want to do it whilst in a relationship. Maybe someday!
just explore with your OH.....
Im bi sexual ,although i lean towards men. Although when i was in Amsterdam i was interested in the she males , tits and a cock sounds perfect. Would love to try one if i ever get the chance. X
mm me too funnily enough kind of turns me on when i watch she male porn
lickmadick wrote:
mm me too funnily enough kind of turns me on when i watch she male porn
You you see them in amsterdam there are about 10 in the red light area. Look like fantastic woman, all seem to have huge cocks though. X