Hi everyone. So I'm new to Lovehoney, and figured where better to get some decent sex advice! I'm really into sex toys, always have been, however my partner doesn't feel the same. We have been together 3 years and I feel it is time to introduce some play things into the bedroom, but I want something that is not too scary, and easily used. My ex was crazy kinky so I have never had this problem before, and I'm not quite sure which way to go! I know for a fact he won't let anything go inside him just yet (still working on that one) but any other suggestions would be really helpful! Maybe some male perspectives would be good too?? I just don't want to scar him for life lol! Thanks in advance guys,
Hi RuRu, if you want something not too scary there is the I Rub My Duckie waterproof vibrator, I've got one, it's not scary at all, in fact it looks like a bath duck unless you know where to press to switch it on. You can use it as a massager but look at the reviews to see what other people have used it for.
Walrus may be onto something there but I'd recommend a cock ring of some sort. If you make it a vibrating one then you have the reasoning that it's more for your pleasure than to keep him hard (you don't want to offend the poor boy!). I had quite a few toys when I met my bloke and although he's a very naughty boy in his own right a cock ring was the first toy we used together and it's been lots of fun since. BTW, you may want to avoid the "putting things in him" conversation for a bit. Some guys (including mine) are just not into it and you might put him off. If it is something he wants to explore later then being comfortable with toys can only help further down the line. Why not put a buzzy cock ring in his christmas stocking? Good luck and welcome to the site!
BTW, you may want to avoid the "putting things in him" conversation for a bit. Some guys (including mine) are just not into it and you might put him off.
i'd definitly agree with that, I know it would put me off!
A vibrating cock ring is a good idea, not too expensive either External Media
Lol thanks Littlebird! Suprisingly, he first suggested the idea of putting things in him lol, but says he needs to work up to it first. A cock ring sounds like an excellent idea to me!
Hiya Ru Ru Rabbit, always an imprecise art not knowing the individuals, but how about you letting him see how much fun you can have with them without impacting in a negative sense upon your relationship. Unless he is on monkey glands then maybe you could take advantage of his recovery- refractory? period- to introduce him to your chosen toy.....if he is of or above average intelligence then surely he should get the drift !! Might be an idea to plan ahead and acquire a double ender just in case he changes his mind !!
Are you into porn....another suggestive avenue??
Good luck on this.... kinky undoubtedly is the way to go in my opinion.
I was thinking a vibrating cock ring, they're really accessible now that Durex make them and Boots sell them, they're pretty mainstream so he's not too likely to see it as a step too far.
Small bullet vibes could be good too, I'd encourage him to use them on you, rather than just watch you using them on yourself - which could make him feel a bit left out.
If you want to try and convince him to let you penetrate him....then my suggestion is initially just suggest your finger. It's not a toy and its not scary or intimidating. Good luck!
Hi Ru Ru, l am sure you will have found Lovehoney's amazing stock of beginner butt plugs by now, they come in metal and plastic/rubber too, l have bought off Sin Central in the past. There are ball weights you can get, solid or come apart...l bought one but the central hole was too small to get my nuts through so have to be careful!!
Thanks everyone! As expected you've given me some great ideas. I think I will be purchasing a vibrating cock ring ASAP and taking it from there, very very slowly lol! Thanks again guys,
