Update on this. The 69 problem was sorted thanks the great people on this forum.
The anal thing not so though. I do crave it. They say you can’t miss what you’ve never had and so true of this. I see my OH’s gorgeous bum I know I can’t do anything with it.
Anyway, if you recall I suggested a compromise, some kind sleeve that kind of turns a vagina into an anus…
I can slip sleeve in there and get an artifical anus to enter.
Its nearest thing I could think of…
LH sadly didn’t have anything. But I did find and buy something. It’s a large-ish dildo with a anus in the end and anal canal inside!
I obviously OH to put it her vagina then I put me in it 
I think we might be able to try it tonight yayyy!
If a success I may post a picture of it in the photos of toys section and hope LH might think about stocking it for others.
Will get back on this with an out of 10 rating and more importantly if it helps to satisfy my longing for giving anal sex.