Thank you for reassurance and it has really helped to have someone who understands and would be turned on as you say. This has given me a real boost. I just hope that when I am ready to start dating again I meet someone else like you
I am sure you will, you come across as a really nice bloke
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I have now made the first move to try to get this surgery in the USA it will cost about $3000 to $4000 dollars his name is Dr. Davis he does this surgery and I have now contacted him and expect to have a answer from his team in the next few days.
He advertises nullo surgery which I definitely donât want at all. so I am hoping he will be my guy to remove my painful ugly balls and scrotum.
Hereâs hoping with fingers crossed. thank you so much to the people who have chatted and given me confidence to move for ward. Specially to smoothiestrawberry and to AmyA for your words of encouragement and understanding
Will keep you all updated as soon as I know anything more
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Thats actually not as expensive as I thought it would be. Make sure to allow for recovery time and the cost of that. Good luck!
No that is what I thought too maybe I can get it done sooner I have to factor in flights and hotel stay as well. I have seen some before and after photos and he looks good at his job
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Jocat can I ask you a personal question?
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I have just realised I am non binary. I have been trying for years to find a name for what I feel inside and now I have 
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Yeah sure, you can ask
Firstly thank you so much for your input into this discussion it has my decision to take the next step much easier.
Do you feel it would be a bonus if you met a eunuch as a partner would it do it for you? if it was the right bloke and all??
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I like that youâve opened up more about your reasons and also defended your decision when opinions were given 
Iâm not sure that I would see it as a bonus, I already canât get pregnant- there are no shelves in my oven - it wouldnât make me think any differently of you as a person and it would honestly be down to the sex drive for me, just the same as it would be with any other testicle carrying person. You might see that as a bonus yourself that it wouldnât be an issue.
One point I would make though is the word âeunuchâ if thats the word you want to use to describe yourself then go for it. I do think youâve had a good range of opinions and reactions and the term âeunuchâ and â castrationâ makes people pre-judge. People will understand it by how you tell them about it.
Edited for a spelling mistake.
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Thank you so much for responding, to be honest I didnât think you would.
I am really glad you did and thank you for honesty and understanding. It has been hard for me to talk to anyone except the doctors and trying to convince them to operate on me and do the things I want and not what they think best has been impossible.
I canât talk to my friends or family about it as I feel so embarrassed and feel I would be judged, as it isnât a normal thing I want to be castrated and have my scrotum removed. The guys in America seem a bit more understanding.
I will keep you updated with my progress with this I might be able to get it done in the next month or two if they have space on a list and I am able to jump through the hoops.
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Glad you are getting it sorted and I am really glad we were able to help in some small way please keep us updated 
Not a criticism, but be wary of the surgeons in America (or any country where youâre paying) yes they may be understanding cos they want your money (Think weâve all seen horror stories regarding surgeons who will do anything for money) The fact theyâre willing to do it from an online consultation before any face to face meeting rings alarm bells for me.
From your other post you have come to the conclusion that youâre non-binary.
I just wonder if you ought to contact non-binary support charities or organisations to get all the info and support, and maybe some counselling before taking that huge, expensive and not without risk step.
As i said, not a criticism, i just think you may benefit from some expert advice before rushing into things.
Good luck whatever you decide. 
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I think this advice is very wise
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How much do potential partners ever think about testicals anyway?
I may be being naive here, but I canât imagine lack of testicals bothering that many potential partners as long (as they donât want your biological children)
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That is exactly what I wanted to find out two people have commented directly to that question I just wish more would. I am not sure that women donât look at testiculs or scrotum and donât care if they are not there. At my age most people will have had kids or decided they didnât want children.
How old are you then lumberjack?
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I am 43 years old,
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Have you heard anything back from the consultant?
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