My Oh has exactly the same opinion, she’s happy to test review items and enjoy the stuff i buy, but forums are not her thing. 
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@Kitty-Cat01 I was going to echo the advice others have offered but as you’ve already spoken to him theres no need. Bet discussing the forum has been a weight lifted off your mind. Good to hear your oh responded well 
Being open and honests always the best policy
Mine knows about the forum but has no interest in social media, as long as he gets quality time together he doesn’t complain 
@WillC me and oh also have each others phone pins amongst others. It’s not weird in my opinion, we use each others phones for various reasons. As long as theres 100% trust that’s all that matters. The rule I live by is, no trust no lust and it’s worked out well
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Exactly! Plus we know each other’s bank card numbers in case anything happens to either of us, the joint account too!
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Way to go bebe! Good on you for having the difficult conversation. I reckon you’ll feel happier in your heart for having told him. xx 
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Lots of great points here - I was going to post but @For_Your_Eyes_Only_x and @AJSTAR have pretty much said what I wanted to say.
My slight issue is teenage sons glancing over my shoulder when I’m on here, so it is difficult to join in as much during lockdown when everyone is at home.
But the forum and the store have been nothing other than positive for me and OH. Although he isn’t interested in joining himself, he is quite happy that I do and understands the nature of the forum.
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@Kitty-Cat01
Thanks… my OH is interested in toys and lingerie. I’m just worried that she would view interaction with members disapprovingly. Not a social media person at all.
She loves the toys and lingerie I’ve ordered. She wouldn’t order anything herself as I’ve said previously, not outgoing in certain ways.
I’ll keep an open mind and maybe get her to look at forum as if a non contributor.
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That sounds like a good idea. Hope it goes well
If you are clearing your internet history that it’s a sign you feel guilty and feel like what you are doing is wrong.
I would deffo mention to your OH about the site (don’t have to necessarily say u use it often) but maybe just mention that u came across this interesting site and see what he says.
And as long as you are not expressing personal information that you OH wouldn’t want other people knowing about then if he doesn’t seem that interested in exploring to forum with you I would say just keep doing what you are doing.
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I think it it’s safe to say that we enjoy having you here (at the very least I enjoy and learn a lot from your posts as well as so many others)
… But if you feel like this isn’t something you or OH is comfortable with, or if you struggle against your conscience in being here, I think it would be good to evaluate if being here is the best thing for you, OH, and your relationship.
The problem one can find themselves in is they seek escape or distractions from real life rather than facing an issue. Some ways that people do that are alcohol/drugs, porn, video games, TV/movies, etc…
While not all of those things are bad, if they are hurting relationships or keeping someone from dealing with or facing a real life issue, then I think it might be more of a problem at that point.
Confidence is a funny thing. If you don’t have it, it can be a rough time. But when you start to get it back, it can snowball and grow very quickly.
I’m glad you’re getting it back @Littleblondechick! Really, confidence is just you acknowledging and appreciating what’s already there and who you are: An amazing and beautiful person!
Lack of confidence is simply not realizing or appreciating the wonderful person you actually are. Once you have that confidence back, it shows and nobody can deny how terrific you are. Even if someone didn’t like you for some reason, they still know that you’re aware of how amazing you are!
I don’t say this to flatter. I wish more people would realize how special they are. So many people focus on “I’m not this” or “I wish my body was more like his/hers”. Just stop already. Realize the truly amazing things you DO have and that you ARE.
People can be so focused on what they are not, or what they could be, or what they could have, that even if they achieved what they consider the be the perfect body/personality/intelligence/life, they still wouldn’t be happy because the problem the entire time has been that they don’t see themselves in a positive light.
They could have huge breasts/slilm waist/18" cock/muscles growing on top of muscles/perfect smile/be an actual beauty or muscle model/perfect height or whatever else, and it’s not going to change how they see themselves.
This post has got to seem like such a cliche but it’s so true. I’m happy to encourage people, but compliments from others should be a bonus on top of the fact that people are awesome and that they know that about themselves.
You’re an amazing person @Littleblondechick! Fun and intelligent at the very least from what I read from you on the forums. And that goes for so many others I’ve had the honor of getting to know here too
Edit: this post is in no way intended to flirt with or hit on anyone. Only a sincere post with sincere, non sexual compliments
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Thanks @anon8189768 there are some really valid points there.
I dobt mean to be negative towards myself and I always try to empower and compliment others.
I think its just where I’m not used to compliments and I have no one to reassure me if I look good… not that I should and I know that sounds stupid. Sometimes its just nice to have someone to tell you or have someone to ask if it looks OK.
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Absolutely. It is nice to receive compliments from others
I admittedly haven’t seen any pictures and I probably will abstain from doing so. Seeing the lingerie on the product model is one thing. Seeing it on people who I actually can talk to irl (even with anonymity) sorta crosses a moral boundary with me as far as marriage faithfulness.
Now I don’t judge anyone, but for me personally I’d feel awkward if my wife was talking/chatting with guys that posted personal “lingerie/sexy clothing” pics.
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I must say - I find this really sweet and considerate 
Although I’d never be able to stop myself from sharing that part of the fun - I love it!
But luckily I can be open with my hubby so he knows about my participation in the forum.
I wouldn’t be able to join in and post pictures without him knowing - it wouldn’t feel right.
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The fact that OH knows and is ok with and supports you, imo, is what make all the difference.
Admittedly OH doesn’t know I’m here but there’s a lot I won’t go into about that. The fact that no private chat, flirting, or direct sex talk allowed with others makes this the perfect setting for me to share things and ask questions. Also the anonymity helps lol
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@anon8189768
Yes I understand why a lot of people chose not to share this forum with their loved ones too, for their own personal reasons.
Not for negative reasons, but here - people allow themselves to open up about their deepest darkest desires without any judgement which creates an escape, a sense of freedom and happiness 
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That’s definitely the most significant reason. If this place wasn’t anonymous I would 100% not be here lol
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Totally respect your decision and opinion.
I like that its monitored and anonymous here. My pictures aren’t overly sexual we aren’t allowed to show nipples or anything like that. Its a chance to see what the lingerie looks like on real people as opposed to just models. It can sway others one way or another if they are thinking of purchasing an item.
Its more a place for chit chat and advice but I will be honest I love the lingerie thread and the tox box thread.
Its really sweet that you feel that way towards your wife though.
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Honestly your pics are perfect, please don’t worry about your height or curves! You’re perfect!
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@WillC thank you and I wont. We are what we are aren’t we.
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That is 100% a phenomenal idea imo. Honestly very beneficial in a lot of ways and I’m glad someone thought of it.
I just don’t see any way of me explaining to my wife why I’m looking at real women in lingerie without her fulfilling my “Mistress/femdom” fantasies in ways that I don’t want 
But really, I think it’s great just not for me. Wife would much prefer to try on for me and return or trash if it didn’t fit. Part of that only eyes for her thing 
Thank you for that. I do try to be sweet to my wife 
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