Just seen tips to give a good bj,how about some tips for us guy’s or ladies to give a women good head
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Not quite the saying, but feel the reactions when teasing with your tongue… They’ll soon let you know if your doing it right
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As a starter you could shave her smooth.
Lick gently up and down. Pause to penetrate her with your tongue and move it about inside her. Move your nose up to gently rub her clit while still deep tonguing her. Finally concentrate your tongue on her clit but now finger her at the same time.
Ask her to tell you what she likes and give you instructions to be a better oral lover. This can be an additional turn on for her.
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I highly recommend reading “She Comes First” by Ian Kerner. Primarily devoted to women’s anatomy, arousal process, and cunnilingus technique.
Otherwise, in no particular order, here are some quick tips:
- Listen to your partner’s feedback, verbal and otherwise, to what they like (this one actually is in order, and the most important part). My wife is not crazy about direct g-spot stimulation and no amount of reading that tells me to try it this way or that way will change her preferences. So listen to feedback. Everything that follows is subject to tip 1.
- Cleverly seen elsewhere on the internet: start like a butterfly landing on a flower, finish like a bulldog eating an ice cream cone.
- I like to start by slowly licking all the way around my wife’s vulva, slowly. Around the labia, both sides, gently alighting up and down and all around long before I get anywhere near her clit. When I’m ready to move on, I start licking from the very bottom of her vagina up to her clit - slowly at first. If I’m really trying to ease into it I’ll actually count down in my head and try to drag that first lick up to a count of 10, 15, or 20. Then each stroke of my tongue I make the trip one count faster until it’s down to continuous licking.
- Alternate between tickling her clit with the tip of your tongue vs. the flat of your tongue for different sensation. Also alternate between targeted clit stimulation then back to full vulva licks.
- Don’t neglect the labia. Slick them, suck them in, hold them in your mouth while you lick the clit.
- Play with edging. If you know your partner well enough to tell that they’re about to come, back completely off and kiss her hips, thighs, come up for air and kiss her neck. My wife likes to receive a face-f*ck in this instance. Maybe blow across her vulva like a hot cuppa. Maybe she’ll beg for you to go back down, maybe you’ll decide when it’s time. See how many times you can do it before she’s holding your head in place and begging you not to stop.
- Don’t forget about toys, if appropriate. My wife prefers to cum with something to squeeze, whether that’s a couple of fingers, a dildo, or a vibrator.
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Get your OH to kneel over your face , and slowly run your tongue up and down her vagina. Then lightly lick her clit working your way down to her vagina and poke your tongue in and out like you would your penis. If need be pulling her lower on to you so your tongue can go deeper into her. Then work your tongue back up to her clit that’s if she hasn’t soaked you already which is what I normally do to OH.
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Love it!
I typically draw the alphabet with the tip of my tongue, adding my own pre-cum or saliva as I go and randomly sliding my tongue inside her as well.
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I personally like it when licking the clit is combined with fingering my g spot ( Em )
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Glad you added write the alphabet! That’s a good one.
When she says don’t stop, actually don’t stop what you’re doing. Keep the pace and the movement the same.
I like light movements to start with a soft tongue, don’t make your tongue rigid as that can hurt if she’s sensitive.
Lick and bite my lips, long licks up and down my vulva and then gently pull back the clit hood and lick gently again.
Suckle the clit into your mouth with your lips and then lightly lick it 
Just like with the penis, hum with the clit in your mouth.
I like @LRLRL tip 2. Do that and keep the pace when you know she’s close.
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Less is More is my approach, I listen and communicate.
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All of the above is amazing advice.
I personally love when a man is really enthusiastic about his work 
Arms hooked around my thighs and looking and sounding like he is enjoying every minute 
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my favourite!
listen, feel the reaction, be gentle then enthusiastic
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I could stay down there until I got lock jaw. Going down under or undercover work is my favourite
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Yes I like to do that and stretch my arms out and squeeze and play with her boobs.
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I hook my arms round so shes got no choice but to drown me. Love it when she squeezes my head between her thighs.
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Start really gentle…like REALLY gentle. Like barely touching it, and go from there. Communicate a lot.
I used to think I was supposed to rub really hard with my tongue right away because that’s what I saw in porn. I had to unlearn that fast
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Technology has come so far in a couple of generations.
I imagine one day there will be a device that allows you to feel what someone elses feeling. It would probably start off as something for Dr’s to diagnose with and it will cost a fortune.
One day it could be used for sexual enhancement. Imagine knowing when to pause, when to change, when to keep going for it, speed up, slow down… Everyone likes things slightly different.
We dont need it really, but there was a time before toys as well.
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We have that technology already, our voice and our ears.
But I get what you mean
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In the words of Harry Potter, just swish and flick !
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Hi LH used to sell a Little A5 size book for this very subject. It had a good description for ladies and gents as well as techniques to use. Not sure if they still do
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