@The_Little_Ladybird . You had a very difficult time, but perhaps you do not realise, how much your own story and the way it has panned out , may be providing help and strength to others.x
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It’s helped in the fact that we know there are so many other people out there who are active and have healthy kinky sex lives and not just us. We have always enjoyed sex and kinky sex and early on in our marriage the question arises if we actually had a healthy sex life and should we be more vanilla.
Basically yes!!!
Being able to participate in some threads as well as starting a few of my own to vent my spleen has helped a lot.
I wish I was able to post on the more “exotic” threads but that’s unlikely to happen.
@Iwill thank you.
My story was extreme - how people pleasing and lack of boundaries damaged every single relationship I ever had included the one with myself.
Im still a work in process as habits from the past 40 years or so dont fall away in a year. But Im so much better now.
My boyfriend will say “is this a boundary thing?” to check in with me if hes pushing me on something… e.g him insisting on walking me home and me saying that I am fine etc.
I am still quick to cave if something isnt really important (tonight he suggested a different shared starter than what I chose)… I just agreed, he then said, no you wanted nachos…we ll do that!
Divorce being read in court on 13th Dec, … we separated on the 14th Dec last year and Im looking forward to my next chapter x
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@The_Little_Ladybird . I picked up on " my boyfriend " …that is really pleasing to hear.
If he is insisting on walking you home , i think he is just being a gentleman and wants to make sure you get home safely. I wouldn’t take that as being possessive.
Keep going with the work in progress.X
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@Goth_Girl I had anxiety, depressed and OCD and cognitive behaviour therapy (and getting out of my marriage) helped me kick them all… its amazing
You got this x
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Well done you for coming back stronger!! 
new fantasies, more lovehoney and more fun on the menu? @The_Little_Ladybird
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I have only recently been going through CBT to help me with anxiety and depression, it is helping me out but not a quick process and takes a lot of adjustment but I am getting and glad it helped you out.
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@Goth_Girl . As i said, try to look at it as a new chapter…looking back can’t help you to move forward.
Get your mind cleared , set your goals and strive for them.
What happened is part of the old you, the new you is self determining.
Make 2024 a bright new year.X
Im also sure City will secure the title again.
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Hey, im sure Pep will get the pep back in their performances…
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Just take good care of yourself.x
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@Goth_Girl …im sure Pep with his swarthy latin smile , would be happy to oblige 
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@Goth_Girl .
you actually name a dildo after Pep. What kind of fantasies were you having i wonder.
If our little exchange has made you laugh im delighted!! You were needing one i think.?
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@Goth_Girl … I can fully understand why you are hurt. Sadly different people react to thing like you are suffering in unexpected ways.
Im sure the proffesional help can get you back to your normal level.
Any time you feel an exchange of views can help, we are all here for you.x
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You really are an inspiration @The_Little_Ladybird . You really have turned a massive corner over the year and I feel as if things are now going really well and from strength to strength. I am sure your story will help many other who find themselves in the same position.
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@Goth_Girl …that is exactly the right attitude, hold that thought.
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@Goth_Girl Im glad it helped
I had a “look how far Ive come” moment reading it all too…
You and so many others helped me so much. I hope i can be there for you too
Warrior women xx
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I hope it helps you uploading your feeling on here, others can offer advice/suggestions. Things take time but everyone is here to help you through. 
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I was scrolling through searching OCD and saw this comment. Im currently in the process of submitting my referal as i spoke to a mental health practitioner a few weeks ago about my mental health problems as i believe i have OCD, anxiety problems and possibly more.
This comment has given me some additional hope that ill be able to overcome it all 
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yes it has helped my wife and I make decisions on the types of purchases she’s made
Hell yes this forum helped me in so many ways,from venting my spleen and passing on advice, knowledge, words of wisdom(is that the same as the former 2
) to the music games and so much more!
Just knowing there’s supportive non judgemental people on here is great even though I’ve become a little bit of a lurker of late!!!
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