Beedra wrote:
Ooh I love the idea of a crop for image purposes! Thanks mysteron, those are some really interesting ideas.
AsYouWish, "I bet you would love to be able to..." is exactly the sort of phrase I need to be using! Thanks :) I'd not have thought of that: this stuff just doesn't come naturally to me (yet)
Ok i'll give you some ideas of how to use the riding crop and setting the scene a little.
IMO a lot of about domination in the bedroom is a lot to do with the mind and how you can control it. . So visuals are important and its "not what you do but the way that you do it" . I think thats a Banararama song from the 80's !
i hope this will be gentle enough for you .
First of all to set the scene black lingerie is a must IMO .White with perhaps a black robe may work.
The key visual ( badge of office if you prefer) and correction instrument is the Riding Crop . As you are not going to be using it as a backside hitting instrument then perhaps an intermediate one would look better against the Butterfly one we use .Available from Lovehoney
So at the moment your in the bedroom and you have your black lingerie on and your riding crop .A tip make sure you put the leather safety strap around your wrist so it can't be knocked out of your hand so easy.
When your in the bedroom everytime you state a command use the riding crop and point at him when your say it. It could be a simple command like "Undress and jump on the bed"
If for example he is taking his time undressing you can give him a gentle tap with the riding crop to remind him to hurry up and who is the boss. There is no pain involved here.
When you start teasing him when he is laid on the bed with either your hands or toys, his normal reaction will be to try and touch you . He's a man and wants your body. However your going to deny him this pleasure, right ? Your in charge not him, so again with the Riding crop just tap back of his hand and say "Naughty Don't touch!"
Keep on treasing him stroke his body as you normally would do . Again if he trys to touch you this time say something like " Did I give you permission ? " And again tap the back of his hands but perhaps a little firmer but still gently with the Riding Crop. This again is to remind him who is in charge here.
I will leave it upto you how long you prolong his denial of him touching you and you teasing him .
The principle is quite easy .![](upload://h7LJ67OOrR57VDYrj5ZEwwHAfLG.gif)