Going through a phase at the moment where I find myself looking at porn.Is this a bad thing it's just I seem very horney at the moment.
The wife is away with the kids and could do with a good session with her as the sex has been fantastic lately.
I cannot see that looking at porn isn't healthy. It's natural to go through phases when you're more horny than at other times.
Personally, porn doesn't do anything for me but reading erotica does so I'd say yes, looking at porn is healthy and if it helps while away the time until your wife comes back then go with it!
Just dont let it consume you something probably easier said than done though :)
Normal. Sometimes I'm in the same boat wife and kids away. Will watch porn once a day at least and be on the forums a lot more.
Nothing beats the real thing but it's lovely indulging your fantasies watching what you can't do.
Erotic fiction is cool. Have been reading some free stuff downloaded to phone!
OH and I watch it together... we compare, critique and put it on our to do list!!!
nothing wrong with a little porn.
I don't think its unhealthy unless you start making it a priority in your life. You've got needs and if looking at porn helps with that then why not?
I think it's a way of escaping from reality at times.
Nothing wrong with porn. Try to make sure you're using ethical providers, ideally small scale independent pornographers. Not necessarily feminist/female produced porn as it tends not to aim to please the male gaze as much, but sites with a good reputation. And don't pirate porn, people work harder than hell to make it both in front of and behind the camera, and despite what you might have heard there's often not a lot of money in it :P Lecture over, go and enjoy :P Porn and masturbation go (lol) hand in hand, as far as I'm concerned it's very good for you to enjoy your sexuality whether you're alone or spending time with a partner.
I guess it can become an addiction but then again, I can't go half an hour without listening to music, can't go more than a couple days without watching a good movie, and I'll not even get into how much chocolate I get through! Everyone's got things they can't go without, unless it's making you feel like crap I'm not sure there's such thing as too much porn :D
ditto looking at porn is anice thing to do together
lickmadick wrote:
ditto looking at porn is anice thing to do together
Tried it once, was an awful piece of porn but the noises seemed to make my OH 'try harder'. Whilst she is away, it stops me wanting anyone else so overall a good thing!
I enjoy porn as healthy part of my sex life, i think you do have to be careful that it doesnt consume you though. X
BlueStar wrote:
I don't think its unhealthy unless you start making it a priority in your life. You've got needs and if looking at porn helps with that then why not?
Agree x
If it's legal and not negatively impacting your life or relationship then why not?
Me and the OH watch it together
it can be unhealthy if the missus catches you and she dont like it!
i seem to be watching it a lot lately :/ just seems to be a good way to get a quick releaf, whenever im alone i cant seem not to have a quick look. really should stop watching it so much i think hmmmm
matt7c wrote:
i seem to be watching it a lot lately :/ just seems to be a good way to get a quick releaf, whenever im alone i cant seem not to have a quick look. really should stop watching it so much i think hmmmm
Dont worry, dont get hung up, just enjoy. X
In regards to if porn is healthy I would say this:
It is only really healthy as long as you don't condition yourself to think that it's unhealthy, as then it can cause you stress etc.
I personally think it's natural to look at porn and everyone will go through phases of types they like and how often they view it. Though I personally haven't viewed any porn for sometime, I put it down to me being lazy and overly fussy with what I watch. I also prefer to support certain companies by paying a membership rather than using free sites.... but that's my personal choice. When it comes to my OH I don't mind him watching porn, when I first got with him 6 or 7years ago I was a bit jealous but that's changed now. I have provided him with some very good pictures of myself anyway which he can use.
Also sometimes it might be worth considering that some people will view porn in different ways. There is some that I would regard as art and even though the content is meant to be sexual no matter how hard I try I can't see it like that for myself. basically everyones different.
Satoshi and i often watch porn together and we have found it to be beneficial to our sex life, it adds a fun extra element just as toys can.
It has also helped me realise that i am attracted to girls as well, something that i had never considered before.
As long as both parties are ok with it and nobody gets hurt then i can't see any problems, have fun!
The Nymphomaniac wrote:
Also sometimes it might be worth considering that some people will view porn in different ways. There is some that I would regard as art and even though the content is meant to be sexual no matter how hard I try I can't see it like that for myself. basically everyones different.
Most porn I don't think has the effort put in to count as art :P I mean effort by director, lighting etc, not the performers who I'm sure work very hard. But I have seen things that I would consider on the borderline between art and porn, including a photographer I did a fetish/art nude shoot with that eventually progressed up to open leg bondage stuff, which was gorgeous and artistic and I would totally put up on my wall but was defintely meant to be sexual. I can't see any reason why a porn movie couldn't be equally artistic or more so with a good director, but because of the stigma attatched, experienced good serious directors would never touch it :P I think in the future as porn becomes more acceptable more and more of it will become actually GOOD not just sexy as directors and actors from mainstream films will cross over into it.