Me and my boyfriend where in bed the other day and he looked really down, so I asked him what was up and he wouldnt answer until I stopped annoying him and he said.......
'I dont like the fact that, it is always you that intatiates sex' and when I pressed him for more he said that 'its demasculates him' and makes him 'feel like less of a man'.
I never planned for him too feel this way but if I didnt he never would. Its true I always make the first move and it is so annoying. I mean recently Im lucky if I get him into bed once a week (we see each other about 4 times a week)
I love him but I dont know if I can carry on like this, if its not the frequency, its the actual experience as he was addicted to viarga and now cant get fully hard, which means the only position that works for us is missionary and its always in bed when Im wrecked, as we cant be spontanous.
Nothing I suggest to do or say helps either, as the only thing he fantasies about is 3somes and nothing else, so when I suggest doing it in the living room or bondage, Im always met with a no.
I mean he doesnt have a low sex drive as he always wanks, once maybe twice a day but he never wants sex and once I even dressed up for him, pulled his pants down and begged him for it and he wouldnt. I felt so crap but to make matters worse he then turned reound and asked if I could guve him a hand job!! After just turning me down, when he knew how much I wanted it!! I cried myself to sleep that night.
Sorry I have just realised this is a big rant, no-one has to read it, I just had to get it out.
xx