She hasn't put the butt plug in me yet so hopefully if she starts doing it she may want to start pegging
Convallaria wrote:
We enjoy pegging quite regularly.
I've particularly enjoyed anal masturbation for quite a few years now and opened up to my OH N about it fairly quickly.
She embraced it and began occasionally using the toys on me with her hands.
Then we bought a strapon harness so she could fuck me properly.Took a while to get used to it to be fair, thrusting in that way is not so instinctive for a woman and it does take a while to learn your rhythm and what works best for you both.
But it's well worth it.
While I haven't achieved the illusive sought after prostate handsfree orgasm yet, I have felt very close multiple times and know it will happen eventually.Now, when N pegs me she gets better every time and Im in pure ecstasy, unbelievable pleasure and my orgasms when she fucks me are just insane! The most powerful orgasms I've ever had, proper full body orgasms with shakes that last for a good minute or two after the orgasm subsides.
Couldn't recommend it more.I would say to anyone getting into it though.. Try a number of toys.. Some of my favourite are smaller, softer toys where you can really go to town without any discomfort.
Agree totally with this, I was very lucky. The girlfriend was very excited at the thought of pegging me and had the same experience with you. It get better and better each time, and the OH enjoys it more and more the better she gets at it.
The role reversal is super hot and she is geuniely really shy and submissive but loves taking control.
I think I'm on the right thread here.....
If I may pose a question from a woman's point of view.
The OH and I have talked about pegging and tried other anal play for him, but I've just bought a harness for when he gets home tomorrow. He's excited but I'm hella nervous about hurting him. I've been on the receiving end of an angry male and am all too aware of how wrong anal can go.
Now I know this is entirely different since all parties are consenting and no one is trying to hurt the other but even still, I'm really afraid of getting it wrong and causing pain.
So guys the question then is this.... is there a position that you've found gives you more control and allows you to safely discover what you like? I've read that doggy isn't a good way to start in this, even if it seems the obvious starting point. Is there anything you wish you're partners knew prior to trying it out?
Thanks in advance guys. I'm just trying to get some male advice since both me and the OH have limited experience in anal play for him
Doggy style seems the most natural, and even the most erotic/primal, however (from what I’ve been told) this position allows more in, and further, so it’s better for people used to taking it frequently.
I know it may not exactly be “sexy”, but as with most first sex act attempts, just going slowly and not having your partner restrained or gagged is a good place to start.
Make sure he can hop off your dick at any time that he needs to, and can easily speak to communicate what he likes and doesn’t.
I’d recommend using a small to medium sized softer toy, starting with a thicker lube, and maybe instead of aiming to ram in and out to give pleasure, to slowly and tease him; talk dirty, reach around a stroke him occcasionally, kiss his neck, ask him what he wants (this is a very easy way for him to communicate needs because it’s not as awkward as “I want ____”, especially if you make it power play “Oh, you want it deeper, huh ? Say please”, etc.). Different lubes can help extend the session without it getting boring (heating/tingling/whatever you know he likes), or other sensory stuff; blind fold him and gently scrape your nails down his back, rub an ice cube across his body, etc.
Make it an experience, not just about having something up his bum, basically.
Thank You.
The dildo that comes with that harness is pretty firm and a bit bigger than it looked online, but I have the doc Johnson jellies 5.5 inch one that fits too and we've used on him already, perhaps start with what we know then.
Thanks for the tips makes it a bit less nerve wracking to speak with experienced folk first.
What sort of anal play have you engaged with previously?
If small toys like a butt plug or prostate massager, then certainly the depth of a dildo will be a step up and allowing him control of pace and depth would be good for the initial stages. If you have already tried dildos and depth isn't an issue, then doggy may very well work.
Mrs Sen and I recently tried harness pegging for the first time. I had used butt plugs, prostate massagers and the LH glass anal dildo, so depth was already there. We had the LH curved dildo 7inch. We went doggy straight up, it seemed the most comfortable to have our bodies in. I really liked the sensation of her hips slamming me from behind. Pace and depth were somewhat in my control still as I could lean forward for less or push back for more.
Whatever the position, take it slow, allow him to control depth and pace and communicate frequently (although his moans maybe enough feedback).
Wow guys the feedback is great thank you.
In regard to what anal play we've tried; we don't bring toys to bed very often but fingers and tongue are pretty much a standard part of our sex now. We've tried with the doc Johnson jellies anal dildo a fair few times and one of the slim swoon vibes once or twice.
To be fair he asks for it more than I give it and a strap on was the next step for us. The DJ dildo fits in the harness so we know that one is okay, have really gone for it with that one.
J here,
I totally agree with what Alicia said, doggy is actually a great position for it as you can control it.
I find in doggy I can bury my face in the pillow and let N go to town on me, but if ever it feels too much of too deep or hurts etc it is very easy to pull away.
Missionary variants where she is ontop, that is not really possible.
Riding her is also great for having the control and I find is actually one of the most comfortable positions for deep play.
The important thing is to use plenty of lube and keep communicating all the time.. Tell her if something hurts, or if the angle isnt right etc.
A soft toy definitely helps too, DJ jellies should be fine, but my personal favourites are the true lover cushioned core toys sold on LH. They are THE MOST comfortable dildos I've ever used.. And I was absolutely delighted when i recently saw the bigger one was available again and bought it straight away.
There will be a review up soon ;)
Hi all,
I'm straight, and used to consider anal play dirty and gay (no disrespect) but truth of the matter is that recently I've been experimenting with it, just lube and fingers you know, and i'm really starting to enjoy it, i'm waiting on the postman to bring some toys, to see if I really like it or not. these toys were chosen for single play, but, could be used by the wife too, as most others i've seen posting around here, broaching the subject is the hard part, she's not as adventurous as me (understatement of the year).
If I get to the point of being comfortable with it on my own, then i would love to get her into it, and pegging me... that would be... HOT
Pegging is new for us as a couple, I had used toys by myself previously, never fessed to the Mrs about it though as I had no idea how she would react.
Slowly started to introduce anal play for us both about 9 months ago, a plastic vibe during our first ever spanking session, then his / hers butt plugs as well as a prostate massager for me, then a glass anal dildo that she had used on me during oral and/or hand jobs, his / her glass butt plugs and a remote vibe butt plug for me (she says too big for her which I can respect).
finally at the start of the year, I introduced the idea of a harness / strap on kit, she was up for it "whatever you enjoy is ok" sort of response and to date we have had 3 sessions with the harness / dildo, our most recent session just last night.
Oh my goodness, I could feel a strange tingling sensation in my penis when she was penetrating me from behind (doggy), I then changed onto my back with her in between my legs, this way I was able to play with her boobs and kiss her. I reached around and grabbed her ass as she thrust. I don't think I have ever felt closer to her than I did in that instant.
The sex afterwards was mind blowing, strongest orgasm I can recall (that tingling sensation from earlier was multiplied 100 times). Part of me wanted to withdraw and see it happening, but she was wearing a LH peekaboo lingerie (for the first time) and I didn't want to soil it.
Talk to your OH about your interest in anal play, reassure her that it's not weird or dirty, let her read up on it (Cosmo online or even these boards, a quick google of "pegging" yields 100s of results) and then perhaps without the stigma attached, she may be more open.
Good luck, enjoy your new toys.
This is all great, useful stuff. So much of what I've been reading has been fairly basic so the tips on positions etc is all good.
We've talked about it for a while and nearly at the point of trying it properly till we had a set back when trying the harness on for the first time. Visually it worked for me but my wife did not feel sexy, more self conscious and the straps were uncomfortable.
I've ordered harness briefs instead to try and make it more comfortable and feel more sexy.
I’d love to give pegging a go but haven’t even mentioned anal play with
my OH. Something I do when I’m home alone with my secret stash of dildos
and woman’s lingerie. Afraid she will think it’s way to weird as we
aren’t the most adventures in the bedroom.
I'm new to bum play, and have yet to find a strapless that is slender
enough for my very tight assed SO who loves length in his bum. However,
we play with a leek mostly, as it it long and slim. I learned about
pleasing him by being very tender and close. He likes to feel my body
against him, so spooning is great. He also likes doggy or missionary,
and I'm constantly checking if I have the angle right (very important)
and going slowly. I tease his rim a lot to begin with, and only let him
have a little penetration until he asks for all of it. Not in a Dom kind
of way, just so he's in control and I know I'm not hurting him. His
pleasure when I let h guide me into getting it right is out of this
world, so it's totally worth it. And I love being the penetrator. Hope
that's useful. Love from Gran
I love being the penetrator too. It is comparatively rare, but when I
have the strap on inside him, I feel amazing, and I want to make sure I
give him every bit as much pleasure as he gives me when he's in my ass.
I remember the first time my wife pegged me , the excitment factor was about maximum . Other than a little lite bondage no one had ever been dominate over me . We bought an expensive harness with two sizes of butt plugs , one too small and the other OMG size . Still enjoyed the heck out of it . Later we bought several slightly softer cock replicas with more length and two different girths . Being submissive and having that snug thrusting feeling was one hell of a turn on . My wife got into it pretty well . We started off with me bent over and when we found a comfortable position with me on my back and her pumping away with the dildo while jacking me off , I think I came almost as hard as the night I took double dose of viagra . "Cleaning up" before hand using your anal douche pays dividends and makes for a much funner event .
I think im in. Testing....
Hi lots of views on this I love dressing up as sexy sissy for my lady friends and being there bitch they seem to love giving it to me and it turns me on they say it makes a nice change for them
Think she like giving it to you make a nice change for her my lady friend was sure at first but now she dress me up as her sissy bitch and let’s be have it and it turns me right on being dress up for her we have pleasure fie ages taking it in turns
Hi all, some great information here, there seems to be a minefield harnesses and strapons out there when trying to choose, as an intro to pegging does anyone have any recommendations? 🤔
Thanks Alicia, had limited experience of anal play and was hoping to get the OH interested, I don't know what it is but seeing a woman with a strap on I find a real turn on and like the thought of getting pegged. 😊