About a fortnight ago a fellow blogging friend of mine/ “sister” submissive wanted to do a joint interview collab-style blog post with me, feeling that it would be of interest and benefit to readers. However, despite opening the door to questions, they haven’t been really been coming in. My friend thinks it’s because people are too scared to ask questions.
So she wanted to compile a list of questions she thinks we should be asked (I know, how terribly unsubmissive of her ) and I’ve been working on that, but seven questions down, I’ve come up blank.
So I thought I’d ask you lovely people for help!
Picture this:
You get a chance to ask a question of two submissive women, both contrasting in their personalities and preferences (one is naturally submissive and identifies as a sex slave, the other is more spirited and identifies as a service submissive), about their BDSM lifestyles. Your question must be directed to both of them. What would you like to ask?
I’m working under pressure so I’ve going to have to set a deadline for questions by Wednesday evening. As a gesture of goodwill I will post a link to my completed blog post once it goes live on Saturday, though it mignt be a few days until I can link to my friend’s answers.
So far I have:
How long have you been a submissive?
What drew you to the BDSM lifestyle?
How did you know you were a submissive?
What do you enjoy most about being a submissive?
What do you enjoy least?
What defines your submission?
How do people treat you when they find out what you are? How would you expect to be treated?
I think there are many sessions for me that do not result in intimacy. BDSM is all about the boundaries and parameters you setup. Safe words should exist in case those boundaries are pushed too far. I do believe that living a dom lifestyle is different than just dom experiences in the bedroom, so my answer may be of a different opinion because of my view.
You’re absolutely right, there are many moments in my life with my Dominant counterparts where we’re “doing BDSM” but not doing intimate BDSM. It’s more about the dynamic, not the sex/intimacy.
THIS. It’s about the lifestyle you and your partner choose to live. We like the full lifestyle. We chose to look at the bedroom as the place to turn that up even more, thus where the intimacy comes in.
I think I might wrap this up tomorrow evening at this rate, I’m at 15 questions now and I haven’t asked my friend yet if she’s had any since. I don’t wan’t to make this too long
@JGood if you have any more, you’d better get thinking
Why are you the type of submissive you are? (As opposed to other types of submissive).
How did you end up where you are? What other sorts of submission did you try before landing here? (As a fellow member of the submissive spectrum, I’m interested in journeys into submission)
I’m not sure this is the right thread to pose this question, but maybe I’ll catch some comments from like-minded folks. The question is how can I (M) incorporate giving oral sex to my partner (F) when I’m domming?
The longer background is that my wife and I are both pretty switchy, but when she’s feeling submissive she especially likes to feel used and degraded and receiving oral sex doesn’t really put her in that mindset, while my default preference would be to restrain and tease her with oral edging. Still haven’t worked out how to enmesh those desires.
You’re words can be powerful here. If she protests you could tell her that you “don’t care” about her protests and this is about your pleasure, not hers. She wants to feel used? Then remind her who is in charge.
You can also try some more aggressive wording, like if she protests you can tell her to “shut up and stay still”. She’s trying to take control, don’t let her
) and I’ve been working on that, but seven questions down, I’ve come up blank.
