@SteelA1 of course!
You don’t even need to reply if you don’t want to.
It’s just food for thought.
Get yourself some rest 
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@Cupc8kes its no problem at all! If I stop for lunch tomorrow I’ll have another read over it and respond 
no time for resting 
I noticed this a few days ago but never got the chance to reply. I actually did see said friend around 10 days ago and he tried to tell me my phone was hanging off his door in a bag with his clothes and other stuff of his in it. I knew that was bull but still walked by on my way home, and shock horror there was no bag a t all 
. I forgot to add, I remained calm, cool and collective (how is a mystery as it’s not my strong point!) I nicely spoke to him about his addiction, debt n to admit that he’s sold my phone and I’ll try and help him get out of debt. To which he informed me that his debts will soon be settled as he’s getting set-up wait for it - as a drug dealer
Fast forward a week I run into him again and what dya know I’m in th next town and run into him again and I say 'where’s my phone '? He tells me it’s at his brother in a bag with the rest of his stuff. I said ‘that’s funny you told me that it was hanging off your door last week’, he was clearly that drugged up that he didn’t remember salt the previous location. Anyways I asked him to admit he’s sold it and we can move on, he said ‘if I’ve lost it I’ll purchase you another one’. I said 'no coated to your mountain of debt I’ll purchase myself a new one.
@Lovehoney_Brenna I can’t access where the posts have been moved to. I think this is a mistake?
Yep, it’s a mistake, it seems the thread isn’t visible to anyone - we’ve mentioned it in the lounge thread. Hopefully Brenna will get it sorted tomorrow
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Yep, it was a me boo boo, should be fixed now 
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Brilliant thanks!
Thank you for doing that @Lovehoney_Brenna - you’re an angel xx
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So, I got an electric wheelchair recently, and I’ve only been out in it a few times because my energy levels are still very, very low, but it’s amazing. I can do so much more when I’m out in it than I’ve been able to do in years. The only problem is how quickly you realise the world is not very accessible.
Today I went up a ramp to get to the supermarket carpark and at the top, there was a very sudden full kerb! If I hadn’t been paying close attention I could have easily tipped over it. I had to go back down and around to another slope. A lot of drop kerbs are not low enough either and catch the wheels. It’s a huge pain.
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@Queerantine You need to learn a whole new way round your town. It is a right pain, but worth it once you work the routes out xx
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Exactly! I’d expected it to some extent but you don’t really understand until you actually have to start adapting. It might actually be easier when I move. I won’t have established routs so it won’t be so frustrating to adapt. At least, that’s my hope! If my mobility doesn’t improve after I’m more settled and on meds, I can consider getting a more robust/expensive chair sometime too, finances allowing 
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I have a feeling the post office has lost a postal order of £100 and my driving licence. I posted it on Monday back to an office in Glasgow cause I’ve got a red light endorsement on my licence but I’ve heard nothing back yet 
Plus my licence is still looking clean
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I doubt they’ve lost it, the backlog at the DVLA in England is insane since Covid started and it seems to be over a month for any paperwork to be processed, probably similar in Scotland… fingers crossed someone else’s paperwork got mislaid though and your license stays clean! 
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Oh my days @Peitho ain’t that the
truth with many places. For example- I’ve been waiting since the 9th of June for a payment to arrive from the dwp,after sending numerous replies back, it’s proper crazy!
If you told the posted it recorded delivery and
office the value you’ll be able to claim it back if it has been lost, hopefully they’ll still get it soon @ChloJakes I had to Google ‘red light endocrement’ as I hadn’t heard of it before and thought the meaning was completely different so had to ask Google 
Edit - I was really tired typing this, thank goodness I noticed the errors mind! Usually al not view the post afterwards I was reading a new one n luckily the errors stood out like a bull in a China shop 
x
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Hi All,
So my fiancee and me are moving out together for the first time and finally moving out of our parents places. We are quite excited! The one thing that keeps bugging me is that his parents keep trying to offload appliances or items to us for when we live together. The gesture is honestly nice but at the same time I want to buy these items together with my partner as and when we needed rather than his parents giving us items that have just been sitting in their house and haven’t been used? Does it make sense why I’m getting irritated?
I spoke to my parents and they asked me what I’d like and I told then they don’t have to give me anything and when they insisted, I told them that a new Airfryer would be nice. They’re happy that they’re getting us something for the new place and I’m happy that my parents are not pushing anything else on us that is already lying around the house.
With his parents I have told my partner time and time again to tell them that we want to buy our own things but they’re not listening. They bought us a new set of cooking pots and pans and that I was really happy about and I like them. Yet they’re (in this case mostly his mother) is not stopping at offering more and more things that have been lying around in their house. Don’t get me wrong I like my future mother in law but it’s getting really frustrating to always have a conversation with her and she brings up another item they have at home (blender, small rice cooker) and then for me to have to be the negative person to always say no thank you.
Also if you guys are wondering what items she has offered =
- deep fat fryer. I rather get a modern air fryer.
- old metal frame double bed from her aunty that has passed away ( I told my partner I don’t feel comfortable with that).
- small rice cooker (in his household they eat small amount of rice so a small one is sufficient but from my Asian background the rice cooker wouldn’t make enough rice just for myself. So I declined it and said that I would want to buy a bigger one in case I have visitors or large family gathering around.
- old table from the grandma’s home. Again I said I want to have a theme to the new place instead of collecting different coloured items.
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- small clothes rack. Again it’s a nice gesture but it’s so tiny and not what I want as I have already been in the mindset of buying one I liked.
- Old blender. Again I’d rather buy new nutribullet.
I hope I don’t come across as ungrateful.
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It sounds like they are just trying to be helpful and save you a few bob, so when you decline their offers - it may come across a bit ungrateful to them.
When they offer things, take anything that you think you may be able to make use of - even if it’s just temporary until you get what you really want.
Then they can feel like they are helping out.
Otherwise, when you decline - just politely say why…
‘we’re looking to get one like this’
‘we want to get matching furniture’
‘we wouldn’t use it’
Hopefully they will understand - if they do take offence then that’s their problem, not yours.
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@Peitho that’s the thing, it’s not even going to the DVLA. I know full well the craziness of that at the moment, we’ve got customers at work who have been waiting on getting a new driving licence for months. It’s outrageous! It was just meant to be going to the tribunal/courts office in Glasgow and they can sort the fine and points from there. So now I’m down £100 and I’m gonna have to get a new driving licence if everything is lost!
@Alyssa646 I didn’t send it recorded or anything 
That postal order receipt is the only proof I’ve got that I bought it and sent it. You want to know something mental, all these endorsements that you can get on your licence… Speeding, red lights, dangerous driving etc all have a specific code and I pretty much know what every single one means without having to double check I’ve been in car rental way too long haha
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On the one hand, moving out and furnishing a house for the first time can get really expensive, so having a load of stuff second hand is a great way of starting the ball rolling. (and researching what you want to invest your money in can be time-consuming in itself, so an initial freebie can take some of that pressure off)
On the other hand, they seem to be offering you a load of tat. 
Taking it may seem easier than refusing it, but then you’re lumbered with disposing of it later. Don’t feel bad turning anything down, often people are just asking on the off-chance you’ll find it useful and aren’t expecting you to want everything.
Though I’d take a second look at that table from his Gran’s house. They don’t make furniture like they used to, so that may be a hidden treasure.
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My thoughts are on a similar line from @Ian_Chimp. Are you sure you can afford all new stuff?
Also, I briefly had a Nutribullet, and for me it wasn’t up to the job. I ended up returning it and getting a proper blender. I think that is a result of hype over performance.
Also, an AirFryer is a different thing from a deep fat fryer. There are a lot of things that don’t work in an AirFryer, and given fat is now being seen as not the demon it was (by scientists even if not the government) I’d make sure the AirFryer will do what you expect it to.
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@Adventurer_1992 I totally understand you are excited and want to do it all. But as the above, please say yes a little.
We moved in 18 years ago with hand me downs from family, friends and even my boss. Some stuff we used for a matter of months, others are still here now.
People love you and want to help, your MIL is trying to support you both and that’s a beautiful thing.
I’m not saying to take everything but consider everything. X
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