Not trivial at all, cos it’s affecting your mental health. All i can say is that life is often very stressful and it can affect even your pleasure. Just know that it’s not permanent and it will pass. Don’t focus on an orgasm, just keep doing what gives you pleasure. In the end, not pressuring yourself, will eventually achieve your goal. 
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Thank you! I know it will happen in the end but its so frustrating. I’m starting a new job tomorrow so fingers crossed after that stress I might have a relaxing evening 
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Good Luck in your new job today @Forever_his
Fingers crossed the stress of your new job start settles and you’re back to yourself shortly…
And nothing is minor if it’s affecting your mental health or well being…
Always friendly help and advice here on the forum…whatever the problem.
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Have a nice first day in your new job @Forever_his 
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Hope you’re doing ok @Knight1119
Forum members always here if you need to vent or rant…to give you advice and support whenever you need it.
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I’m sure if you keep at it it’ll cum! At least it’s an enjoyable thing to be doing whilst trying 
I can imagine the frustration though! Going to be some mess I’d imagine when you finally get to release 
I’m a night owl like yourself so ever need to chat I’m pretty much always awake and will keep popping in the see if you’re about 
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I’m ok thanks @CurvyJilly, just burying myself in work. I started looking at Counselling websites, it’s a real minefield, but just trying to get my head round which counsellors would be the most helpful.
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Thanks @SteelA1, very kind mate
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We can get counselling through work via an independent company so it should all be anonymous and work doesn’t need to know. Think most companies now have some sort of mentall well-being scheme, or maybe if you’re in a union they will have access? As always, there’s someone here to at all hours.
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Thanks @WillC
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I accessed counselling via work in December @Knight1119 . I was allocated a counsellor quickly and it really helped speaking to someone about my anxiety. I was offered 6 sessions. They couldn’t offer step 3 high intensity therapy though for my OCD, but I managed to access that locally on the NHS after a 6 month wait. It’s definitely worth exploring your options
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Thanks @Saffron18, I’ll have to have a good think, I’m not sure what category I would need
Hiya @Knight1119 the best things about independent counselling programmes accessed via your workplace is that they are typically free or very subsidised, and you don’t have to tell anyone in your organisation why you are requesting it. If nothing else, you can use them to help figure out what kind of therapy works for you.
If you see a therapist and they aren’t a good fit for you, say so. They won’t mind and you won’t be made to continue. The therapist may be able to suggest someone else or refer you to a different therapist or kind of therapy. We’re all different.
I’d say go for it. Good therapy can be life-changing - for the better.
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Hi @Silkyhat, thanks, I checked but as a contractor I don’ t think I have access, also it looks like all the help is internal not external, the only way to find out is to ask the company which means it’s no longer personal. It looks like I need to look back online.
Also, @Knight1119 you can refer yourself for nhs mental health care, you don’t even need to talk to your GP. There’s lots of info here on how to do it. Nobody else needs to know. There’s also a lot of support available via other organisations such as SOS. many others are listed on their Additional Support page.
I know reaching out that first time is incredibly hard. But if you do it once it’s easier the next time.
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Ok here goes,apologies if this turns into a bit of a litany but…
As some who follow the forum may know my wife got diagnosed with fibromyalgia last week so she could finally organise a meeting at work with h.r and occupational health, she had said meeting yesterday and she told me all about it when I got home last night. (She wouldn’t tell me over the phone so i knew it wasn’t good news)
I was absolutely fcukin raging when she told me and I’m still simmering as i type this.
So basically the nhs are trying to shoe horn her out of her position to a lower pay grade(fair enough as she’s unable to fulfil her role now) but there’s no available jobs within the hospital she can do!
Now bear in mind she’s served the nhs above and beyond her role for 32years and only has 14 months til she can retire and you may see my reason for my anger…
Naturally she’s really upset by this (and is worried she will get the sack) as after 32 years you’d think they could have worked around it given she has a few months left,and she’s worried about her income ( being able to pay her share to the household) and her pension.
I’ve said about getting the union on side (as have a few of her equally shocked colleagues) as this is what she’s being paying her subs for.
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Definitely get the union involved as they will have legal expertise at their hands and will fight her cause. It’s diabolical that any company let alone the NHS should treat their employees in such a way. My wife’s employer (of around 38 years) does help her with hospital appointments and time off for treatment and recovery, so it can be done. I am pretty sure there are laws to protect people such as your wife under inclusivity and diversity legislation. Best wishes to you both.
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It really winds me up, when you arrange to meet with people ( on line ) and they never turn up. What’s the point. Really does my head in.
So sorry to hear of your Wife’s treatment @pootle, I really hope she can see out her last 14 months without worry, hopefully the union can smooth this for her 
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