Rant Thread - Get it all out here

[Meals]

Yeah I would definitely get her union involved. Given that her diagnosis isn’t classed as life altering (internet words not mine). They will look at it as they wont be able to offer ill health retirement. So the union should be looking at two different angles of defense here. Using her skills/knowledge in a staff support capacity. This would be classed as light duties/reasonable adjustments. The NHS HR team should consider something called an equality impact assesment or a disability impact assessment. EIA is for the role, can this person with her diagnosis carry out that role and what measures can be put in place to support. The DIA or DDA will look at the impact her condition has on her and what reasonable adjustments they can put in for a reasonable term.

Its crucial that the DDA assesment is carried out with her employee healthcare team as she has had her condition confirmed by her GP. Once she has raised it the employer has a duty of care to look into what they can do rather than just shipping her to a lower paid job. The other important factor here is as her conditon worsens or impacts her productivity if she has got her DDA in place then shes protected under the equality act updated 2018 i think.

Dont lose hope, its frustrating but the goal is to get her protected under the disability discrimination act as soon as possible.

[pootle]

@WillC @Knight1119 @Meals
Many thanks for your replies, all the info and support it’s much appreciated.
Armed with this information the ball will start rolling first thing Tuesday morning

[WillC]

You’re welcome, there’s a fair few of us here with similar experiences and the members of the forum are a font of knowledge on loads of subjects. Hope you both get a positive outcome.

[Cali_Nyx]

Sorry not sorry to be that person but the amount of new menbers clealry using this forum as a hook-up site or as an outlet for their own porno fantasies.

[Dirty-Wife]

And then break the rules and get topics closed

[Cali_Nyx]

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[Calie]

Whilst I appreciate your frustrations, just a gentle reminder that personal attacks are also against the Forum Rules

[Cali_Nyx]

[Lovehoney_Brenna]

Please remember to use the flagging system, when interacting with members who have broken the rules a gentle nudge towards the rules is okay, but personal attacks will not be tolerated.

Please use the flag system to report posts which are against the rules. Don’t engage in mob mentality and gang up on a member who has broken the rules – just use the flags and a moderator will take care of the rest.

[DanceswithPenguins]

Five it should have been five

[Knight1119]

Trying to get through to the doctors, an automated message telling me I’m nearly number 40 in the queue

[WillC]

Disgusting isn’t it, and your being charged to wait on the phone. Hope you’re ok!

[Knight1119]

It’s rubbish mate, nothing serious thanks.

[Shelly24]

So, I’ve had to work up the nerve to do this. Reading the thread it looks like this is where i can let it all out. I think it’s easier in some ways here to people who I don’t know personally, i apologise in advance.

Life is super stressful at the moment. Although there is some light at the end of the tunnel, I feel like Im crawling to reach it, and I dont know how much strength I have.

My mum was diagnosed with cancer november last year and died in April after a very sudden decline. She was young (inly just turned 61), was the most hands on to help with my children, and was the person who I could talk to about absolutely anything. I would go to her for advice and my children absolutely adored her. Although my dad, and husbands parents are still alive, none of them are quite the same with my children (she took being granny with such enthusiasm). Im the oldest of my siblings, so its been mostly down to me to support dad with the will and funeral. My siblings are great, and they have been involved and supported in other ways.

On top of this I have been completing my MA in social work, and I was on my final placement when mum got ill. I just have my dissertation tongo, which im working theough but its been a real struggle.

I have a job lined up for after I qualify (in social work), which will be welcome in many ways after having such a tight 2 years whilst studying on limited income. Alongside this I set up a business (also in social work) in December (because i wasn’t busy enough!!). A friend of mine presented an opportunity and it was too good to pass up. Business is going well, and we’ve been offered an opportunity for expansion. However, I now need to work out how to line this up with my other job (I need the other to complete my newly qualified year, but if I don’t take the opportunity with my business i will miss it).

My husband works long and unpredictable hours, so he’s not often around leaving me feeling like Im raising the children alone (they are 5 and 7). Its been like this for a long time, although it feels like its steadily gotten worse. I dont even know what time he’ll finish each day/night. However, he has been successful in getting a new job which will have him working from home more, actually have 2 days off a week and have fairly regular hours. Im counting down the days!

It feels like in some ways I’ve powered through the hardest part, and there’s a few bits left but those just feel too much. Its like I’ve suddenly run out of steam. There’s some positives coming, although I know I’ll have more struggles to.come, especially getting through the future without mum.

Im not sure what I’m hoping for from this, but I felt like I needed to lay it out somewhere as I’ve just been holding it together.

Sorry for the long, long post, and thank you if you’re still reading!!

[Knight1119]

I’m so sorry to hear about your mum @Shelly24 , you’re doing an amazing job, sending some hugs for comfort

[WillC]

There are a lot of members here also juggling complicated lives so feel free to rant or ask for advice as there’s a lot of experience here and helpful and supportive members. Above all, look after your own wellbeing, as you are the centre of it all.

[Oldman]

Most people’s lives were challenging enough before the pandemic and many are struggling through the remains . I just wish the world governments would remember that they work for the people and not mega corporations of billionaires . Under the banner of “SAVE THE PLANET” or the green deal to force everybody into electric cars they are bankrupting many people . They do not consider that mining all the toxic minerals and processing just for the batteries is a large long term does great harm to the planet . Then there is the “tiny” problem of exactly where are they going to get all the electricity to charge billions of electric cars ? There , I feel better venting a bit .

[Mint-Monster]

Lately when I’ve been out shopping and gone to a cheap shop that would have sold a bottle of water for like 30p now only sells them in massive crates. What if I only need one to carry around with me while I’m out? I know there’s lots of other drinks there and stuff, but how come I can’t buy a single water like the rest of them?

I mean, it’s kind of a good thing when I think about it. Now I’ll be more likely to bring a sports bottle with me from home filled with tap water instead since I know what I can’t get when I’m out. Go green or go thirsty

[teacake]

What the fuck I’m so angry i went in for my first day i was teamed up with someone who was rude to me and then at the end of the day i was told I’m not needed for the rest of the week.

[WillC]

That’s disgusting, and sadly i have heard similar tales of agency work. Hopefully you get something more permanent with better colleagues.