So, I’ve always just masturbated and had sex to feel good in the moment, but lately I’ve been thinking about how I want to enjoy it even more. I’m having so much fun using sex toys. I’m happy with the relationship I’m in. I thought it would be good to have some sexual goals, things that I want to improve or work toward. These are my current goals:
Blow Jobs - I stopped giving my husband blow jobs for a long time because I don’t like the taste or texture of precum on the back of my tongue, but recently, thinking about giving a good blow job makes me really horny, so I’ve been doing it more. He knows that was the main reason why I stopped giving him oral, so if he notices a drip of precum, he’ll quickly get a tissue and wipe it, and so of course he has never cum in my mouth. I’d like to get to where I can enjoy cum in my mouth. My progress so far: I’m taking it in a bit deeper every time (working on my breathing and gag reflexes because I’d like to take him in my throat), trying different positions for oral, moving my tongue and lips in different ways (seeing some of the different blow job toys has given me ideas), and trying to get used to the salty taste of his precum so I can associate the taste with being horny (also got some flavored lube that I haven’t tried yet).
Anal Sex - We had anal sex a few times (maybe 3-4 times) early in our marriage, like 12 years ago. I wasn’t really interested in doing it, but he really wanted to, so I was fine to try it. We had no idea that anal sex required prep, so he’d just put it straight in, but somehow, the first couple times, I was really relaxed, so it didn’t hurt. He loved it because I let him go in bareback (always wears a condom piv), but I didn’t really feel anything from it, so I just laid there til he was done. Then the next time he put it in, it hurt SO SO SO bad. After that, I didn’t let him come near my ass, and he didn’t bring up anal again, knowing it gave me a bit of trauma. But starting about a year ago, he started rubbing my hole (only on the outside) when he’d be fingering my vagina or rubbing my clit, and then once in a while, he’d ask if he could put in just the tip of his finger when he’d be touching me. I noticed it was feeling good to have this stimulation, so when we got into sex toys this summer, we ordered a few different sized butt plugs and anal beads - and anal lube of course! Honestly, I still get freaked out when something starts going into my butt, so here’s where I’m at: I’m working on getting used to the feeling by fingering my butt with a finger cot and lube when I the shower and him fingering my butt during foreplay and using smaller plugs and beads. Trying to get more comfortable and gain more confidence before moving on to bigger toys and the real deal.
I haven’t told my husband about my goals yet because I’m a little embarrassed that I’m trying so hard with the blow jobs, but he is very happy to cooperate, and I don’t really want to tell him that I want anal sex, because I feel like it will either get his hopes up or he’ll try to assure me that we don’t need to do it… Anyways, that’s what I’m up to
What about you? Do you have any sexual goals or anything new that you’d like to try?