I’m so glad that you found my comment to be helpful and sounds like a great conversation with your hubs!
There are tons of threads that might be relevant, but since you asked I have run a search of my past comments and here are a few in the same vein. I only offer links to my comments directly since you asked, but tried to lock in to full threads that you may also find to be beneficial:
- Responding to “Advice on how to be more dominant”
- Further response on how to get into a scene
- Response to “Dirty weekend away”
- No comment from me on this one, but this is a really RICH thread “Advice For Those Who Want to Try BDSM”
- Here’s a response where I detail mistakes I’ve made
We’ve been married for 17 years, together for 20, and are still learning. We started adding toys about 15 years ago, first experimenting with bondage (buying our first ropes, handcuffs) probably 13 years ago. It was 10 years ago that we first tried anal once, and then another 3 years before we tried again and it became a part of our regular routine. We’ve dabbled in roleplay, power play, CNC, pegging (we’re pretty switchy) and somethings are real wins and become a regular part of our routine and some things are like - maybe we’ll get there with more practice and effort. Just cause it wasn’t a homerun on the first attempt doesn’t mean it was a failure. Sometimes you take that on-base hit as a single and say alright, next time we’ll try to make it a double - get one base further. Is that too American to use baseball for an analogy?