Well if she brings out the whip then it’s clear she’s taking full control from there. And there would be absolutely zero resistance from there.
Though to pop my own bubble, it wouldn’t be able to be fully realized until my son (11) moves out lol
Yes little ‘uns must make it all a lot more complicated.
I hope you and your partner get to try some of the things you mentioned together. Sounds like you have alot of ideas cooking.
RIght, getting late this side of the pond sadly, so i have to log out. but thanks for the diverting chat 
@Green_Eyed_Girl Sure thing. Love to chat.
And I absolutely have so many ideas lol
Maybe next school year my son will be in a physical classroom and my hopefully-then Mistress will have her way with me.
After school hours though she could have me doing chores or something not sexual but only her and I know the deeper context 
I’ve had a sore neck from the angle
Sorry, I kinda thought 1-on-1 chat was what the lounge was all about
Edit: it’s not. See below lol
This is why I thought more personal chat was encouraged. Though I will say that none of my chat is ever “only” for one specific person though I do often answer specific questions people have.
The above quote is what’s in view without expanding the pinned post. After expanding though I saw the rules reminder
Edit: or is the “Please remember not to engage in 1-on-1 chat ” reminder on the top of a post that had to be moved to lounge because it appeared more 1-on-1 in a thread that was not the lounge?
Roy’s a legend! (you can hear him in the background)
but @Lovehoney_Brenna was cute too
Got it. Little bit more face and personality to the name. Nice and thanks
Woops, my mistake too. Sorry everyone.
After looking at the posts “flagged” I think they may have been moved from an “introduction” thread. We could have been considered I suppose “1-on-1 chatting” but my theory is it was because we were the only two posting on the thread. Maybe anyone new to the thread and interested in jumping in could have felt unwelcome if they only saw us two in there.
That’s my hunch anyway. I’ve derailed threads in much worse ways (unintentionally of course) and as far as I know all my posts are similar so there was nothing new conversation or style wise that I don’t typically do everywhere.
Though, and not to brag, I have been getting better with moving “derailing” posts to here lol
@AJSTAR: Moving my replies to here from here
Well now I feel more bad about the “she” references. My apologies 
Still the same advice though. And I hope for the best. That’s a long time of silence without hearing back. Really just adds fuel to my fire about how I feel about some of the COVID lockdown situations 
At least you could otherwise go check on him.
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To me, it seems that your posts were moved to the lounge because they had gone off topic from the original thread. Don’t worry about it, it’s not a big deal and happens to us all sometimes 
With regards to the 1 on 1 conversations - it’s a tricky one and I wouldn’t like to be in Brenna shoes, having to make those decisions. But it’s just a friendly reminder.
As you had a few posts in a row with only the 2 of you chatting - that makes it feel like a 1 on 1 chat
So that’s something to look out for in future.
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@anon8189768 Most of us have been caught to one point or another for an inadvertent 1 to 1 chat. It happens. Just be aware and you’ll be fine.
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@KinkyMira See, being “caught” is what I feel bad about. I wasn’t trying to be sneaky or get away with anything. I chat the same way in all threads and posts (imo anyway).
If I knew what I did I could be like “ok, sorry. Won’t do that again.” but it feels like more like those two posts “won the lottery” so to speak. Like they were just randomly chosen.
If the violation was clear it would be an easy day & I could just move on & not do it again.
But again, I think it was the fact that it was mostly our back & forth in the thread, with the fact that at the time, I don’t think there was anyone else who had replied yet.
I don’t mind getting called out for something I did wrong, but it helps if I knew exactly what it was.
Well ok, I know the reason was for 1-on-1 chat, but I don’t know for sure how those posts differentiated from my other posts (other than what I suspect anyway)
@Cupc8kes yes, I do not envy @Lovehoney_Brenna having to mod the forums lol
Definitely a full-time job. Especially when you get new guys like me constantly derailing threads
I legit face-palm and feel like a jerk every time I sign in and see 3 or 4 of my posts moved. lol She does enough work without having to go behind me all the time 
checks to make sure this is the lounge
presses ‘Reply’
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Sometimes when other people are scarce on the forum, especially in the early hours it can seem like one to one conversation, at the end of the day it’s up to the moderator to decide, but it’s never personal.
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Same things were happening to me when I was new - made me feel silly too!
You’ll soon get the hang of it and understand what is or isn’t acceptable and like you said, where you’re posting things
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Thanks @WillC and @Cupc8kes. Guess this is the part of me that tries to follow the rules and not the ‘American Rebel’ 
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@Kitty-Cat01’s post about manual transmission vehicles: It’s at least a US thing. Not too many personal vehicles are manual transmissions in the US. And it is not at all “annoying” if someone doesn’t want to drive an automatic or prefers to stick with a manual (get it? “stick” with? unintentional pun 
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@WillC’s post about manual transmission vehicles: Yes, the stop and go traffic is probably the number one reason to own an automatic.
Not too many people do use the steering wheel pedals. If they do use “manual mode” with the pedals it’s typically for towing. That or you just want to see how they work and then never touch them again lol
@WillC’s post about dog training: Yeah, a pro trainer for the dogs would be great. Take all my money to do it too. PLEASE!!! Just fix it already
OH may be up for pro training if a pro trainer can have them spot on AND have OH still feeling like the dogs are actually obeying her and not only the trainer. I would SO SO SO SO SO love that. Phenomenal suggestion @WillC. Thank you.
And I am legit so proud of this. Correct thread. Multiple comments in a single post. Hyperlinks that also let the people that I’m “@-ing” know what the heck I’m replying to. I’m putting this on the frige
Edit: And can I pay the site to get more daily ‘likes’? It’s discouraging to see the “you only have a few likes left today” message. I don’t hand them out like candy but I do feel lots of posts deserve them and I dislike running out
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I think the big two to look out for are:
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Extended back and forth between two people. It crowds out other member’s posts, and can feel like there’s no space for others to join in.
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Over-using @mentions to direct your posts to specific people, and not the forum as a whole.
Though even the Lounge isn’t for one-to-one chat either. It’s where Brenna dumps all the off-topic stuff so it doesn’t snarl up the proper topics. The rules are slightly more relaxed here, but as the rules exist for a reason it’s best to stick to them as closely as you can. 
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That is helpful. Thank you
Edit: @Ian_Chimp is on my summary page as most liked and most replied to. In case anyone is curious
Edit2: Changed wording 