Not for me thanks. Im happy to explore anything with me OH. But only with her.
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Recently told Mrs.Rocky how I’d love to share her with another man, were both looking forward to having a chance to discuss it a little bit more over a drink
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I think I’d be open to having one of my female friends join us, just not sure how I would feel about my boyfriend being with them.
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Snap - would love to try it but then … it’s a fantasy and reality might ruin my marriage. For me it would have to be MFF
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The fantasy of a 3some is great!
The thought on the other hand… I mean, My wife would be turned on watching me with another woman’s (we’ve spoken about it) but she would feel self conscious around another naked woman so she’d prefer and MMF 3some.
I’d prefer a MFF being a man but I’m open to try a MMF, my thoughts are performance based, I wouldn’t want him to rock her world then have to spend the rest of her life with my average ass! I’d hate knowing that so it would probably just be a fantasy for us too
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Recently my missus asked me about the 3sums I’ve had in the past (she’s curious) i basically told her the 3sums I’ve had with a mate and a woman was basically just fun and the woman always loved the none stop sex (from my experiences)
i asked her if she’d ever have one and she said she might consider it if she was single.
I’ve got the mega 3" girth extender from love honey, when shes in the mood…that thing absolutely rocks her world.
I’m kind of toying with the idea of maybe inviting a completely random male (one with a big member) to join us. I like watching BBC porn as the woman have genuine orgasms.
Our relationship is solid, I don’t believe I’d ever let it cause an issue however it would only be a male with a big member, just purely because i love seeing and hearing her having wild orgasms.
Whats your thoughts on putting her curiosity to bed?
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@OneLifeLiveit I think you need another conversation before you do anything.
You said her answer was “if I was single”. She clearly isn’t single so I wouldn’t assume that was a green light.
Have another conversation and go from there. Good luck x
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Communication is definitely key - regardless of how solid things may be, a threesome can definitely change the dynamic of a relationship, so not a decision I personally take lightly. Some are absolutely fine & both benefit, others not so much, so plenty of chat required beforehand to discuss thoughts & expectations!
Hi @OneLifeLiveit. I hope you mean that the pair of you should invite someone, rather than you invited someone without discussion. That would be a massive no-no.
There is fun to be had at social events discussing who out of the people there you might invite, even if you have no intention of doing so.
But yes, communication, and don’t be surprised if she says no. She did after all say “if she was single”.
But as you may know if you read my blog, we do this a fair bit and if done right, it is amazing, especially for the woman (with 2 men).
And as long as she doesn’t feel pressured, and lets go of her inhibitions and societal expectations, she might have a fabulous time. Good luck with the discussions!
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I do agree to not assume the green flag. She did say she only wanted me so maybe for her it’s she may feel like she’s cheating going with another man.
I asked on here because this forum is brilliant for advice.
I know members here have invited another man, i just wonder if they felt the same way at first.
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Hi @KinkyMira no absolutely a joint decision, if she really feels like she wouldn’t want it, i wouldn’t push it on her or try to persuade her.
For me it’s not really a fantasy or anything, I’d only discuss it further if she really was that curious and willing
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Brilliant. I thought it was a phrasing thing, but I thought I’d check.
More than likely. That’s the societal expectations thing I mentioned. The “norm” is drummed into people, and anything outside that is “dirty”, a struggling relationship or other similar negatives. Total tosh obviously, but for this to be a success, she would have to get her head into the right space.
Again, I don’t know if you’ve read the blog, but we’ve had sex in front of people we know and people we don’t, we’ve had threesomes with women, a foursome with another couple and a polyamorous relationship with a woman. Ten years ago, I’d have done none of that. But over time, I’ve discovered about myself and got my head to the point that I can do these things, content in the knowledge my husband is fully on board and still loves me dearly (not that I ever doubted it, but doubts do happen for lots of people).
So, in my opinion, doing things like this is all about headspace, how the relationship actually is and her settling down to a good place. If she can let go for the peeing, then clearly, she is the type that can think things through, and that is a bloody good thing.
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I absolutely agree 100% @KinkyMira and Definitely points to discuss if and when it comes up next time. Again, thank you for your advice, much appreciated.
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Definitely search 
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Some great views/comments on experiences, how to approach , insecurities, and best way to try if it’s something you both want and relationship is at a trust level which can introduce third partner without impacting on your relationship.
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This Lovehoney podcast is a good listen on the topic 
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I think you missed a little point which was “if i was single” @OneLifeLiveit this is very important. Without a lot more discussion and her total agreement I think this shoud be left as a fantasy and nothing else.
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Just going to pick up on this - you do not and cannot possibly know that all woman in porn in this category have “genuine orgasms” and this is such a generalisation. Big dick does not = big wild genuine orgasm. There’s a lot more to a woman’s body for a start, but also not all women just want a “big dick”.
In regards to your question, I agree with others that you need to have an actual conversation with your partner about it and listen to what she actually says (not what you think she might mean).
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It’d definitely have to be a mutual thing you both agree upon before acting on it but if she’s all in too then could be an adventurous experience for you both 
communication is the key.
Communicate communicate then communicate some more ……. Enjoy !
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@SexInTheCity 100% agree that listening is the greatest tool to sexual health and happiness.
This topic with your OH @OneLifeLiveit , would be at least a few hours of conversations… I am sure you would do nothing else. I think that giving your wife over to someone else just have a bigger dick is a very noble and selfless thing to do as you have more to lose than gain. I trust she appreciates that about you in your relationship.
If I would consider a threesome it would be for selfish reasons and I would rather have another woman there than a man - again, just selfish reasoning as my wife has never said she had any interest in other women… but it is a fantasy of mine and unless she brought it up, I would never even suggest it. The fact that you and her have already started down the road of having the discussion about it tells me that she doesn’t want to hurt you by bringing in a third person.
For example, if my wife wanted Chinese food for dinner tonight and I just had it for lunch, I would probably say "sure, but I just had Chinese for lunch. " But I would also have it again if her heart was set on it. The fact that she said “if I was single” could have been a way to test the waters and see how you felt about it. It’s like someone who says something derogatory or sarcastic and says “just kidding” after. They actually meant it a little or it wouldn’t have been said.
If it is something that you guys would entertain, talk about it openly. My wife and I have a firm “No Regrets Policy” meaning that anything we decide, no one can throw it back in the persons face as a bad idea as we are in it together for every decision that impacts us both. Buying a house, a car, planning a trip, having a threesome… these items would fit in that category. But we discuss the pros and cons, the physical or emotional cost both on ourselves or those around us (children, parents, friends, etc.) and then after some discussion, we make a “No Regrets” decision and follow through. It has saved hard feelings and arguing if you are truly all in to no regrets.
If she wants a monster dick with no strings attached, have at it. I just don’t think it is as easy as it sounds and the risk of hurting everyone is high. It’s a drug that is pretty tough to give up though once you have it and finding your way through may be difficult, but fun. She deserves to have her say and you can’t be upset either way.
Just my 2 cents.
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The threesomes I have had:
Two women paid for and great sex.
MMF about 260 times but with same couple. First 10/15 times took an age to cum even though I was hard. Its tough to cum with someone else present
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