I have days like these and they really suck. The days when i cant settle and just don’t feel in the mood for anything i try are the worst. For me just picking something and doing it, can often help. Even i feel really unenthusiastic about it for a while, i often find when i relax into it it gets better.
If you can game with friends i always find it helps get me into whatever’s being played, even when i am low on energy. Apex legends is free and alot of fun if you like shooters. The games are short, energetic and fast so great for playing with mates who cant invest hours playing something like Stellaris (also an amazing multiplayer).
I suppose the best advice i can give you, is give yourself credit the things you do get done. Even if it seems small, or wasnt as much as you wanted or intended to get done. Just try to scrub all expectations and look at it from a positive perspective. look at it as progress and forward momentum, even if all you manage in a day is making the bed and cooking meals, that is an achievement.
No worries dude. Were all into different things. Making the play list does work though and ive found it helps me alot when i get incredibly low moods (Spotify is a good free option if you haven’t got a big music library)
That’s called getting older lol We must be on the same boat. I packed up my PS and went retro with a NES and duck hunt My 5year old couldn’t understand why the laser wasn’t wireless.
If i could go back to my snes days or N64 i would be happy and kept busy for weeks lol. Might have to break out the gamecube and play through some zelda lol
I really am showing my age now, I read your post and had not a clue what you were talking about. I am assuming computer games /consoles but its all double dutch to me. Lol
I’m a big kid too, I love lego! (My phone tried to autocorrect lego to legs!!) I’ve bought a few sets over lockdown to keep me sane! Enjoy if you do get one
I’ve just been thinking about some of the simple things that have helped me, some of them are really odd but here goes:
The most helpful thing for me was to take my breakfast and cup of tea into the garden in the morning even if it was cold I’d wrap up in blankets and a wooly hat if I needed to (did this everyday while I was furloughed in the first lockdown, except when it rained when I sat in the conservatory wrapped in a blanket). I think the light and being outside was really important for me. I felt like I’d been out and done something which made me feel better about the rest of the day. My neighbours must have thought I was crazy but who cares!
A weighted blanket is very calming when I’m feeling tearful on the really bad days.
Only attempting to do a task for a short period of time and then doing something nice as a break. For example I would do the washing up and then read another chapter of my book with a cup of tea. I wouldn’t attempt to clean the whole kitchen because, just the thought of it was overwhelming.
Treat yourself to a particularly nice food - I didn’t change what I ate but “treated myself” to a more expensive brand or slightly different version of what I would usually have - so I swapped my normal tesco teabags for twinnings earl grey for a while, then I tried redbush (I love tea so this is a treat!). I paid a bit more for a really nice bar of dark chocolate and I bought my veg from the local farm shop because it tastes better and the staff are nice …
Try to simplify everything that you can. It’s important to eat heathily but sometimes it’s just not going to happen - it’s ok to have a takeaway pizza sometimes but maybe open a bag of salad to go with it!? Buy frozen / prechopped veg and preprepared already washed salad - it’s a bit lazy but saves a lot of effort and sticking a bit of salad with your pizza will help a little.
Consider talking to your GP, trying some medication if this is a long term issue and talk to a counsellor (finding the right counsellor and the right meds has been a huge turning point for me).
Sorry this is so long! I hope it helps a little, even if you just laugh at my weirdness!
@Kitty-Cat01@Mrs.John i love lego, i spent a small fortune when the halo models were released. I love putting them together more then actually playing with them
Seems everyone i used to know is meeting people, having good times and generally being cared about.
I dont feel i really have those possibilities lately. Few people message me back or seem to want to talk.
There just seems to be so little worth doing these days.
Also i mentioned seeking legal advice to the guy who owes me money hoping it would give him a kick to pay me back and he said he would (that was 2 months ago and nothing). Feel stupid for believing him
I seem to have similar experiences recently, a lot of my friends haven’t been in touch much but I have grown closer to the two who have. I think a lot of people are struggling at the moment as lockdown has dragged on. Lots of people deal with low mood by shutting themselves off from others and ignoring texts and phone calls so it might not be because they don’t care, they might be struggling too.
There doesn’t seem to be much that I want to do either. The thought of going to the shops etc is just too overwhelming and scary after all this time of living like a hermit! There are friends who I don’t really want to see because I know that they ignore social distancing and that makes me really angry!
Is there anyone who you could call for a chat who might be able to lift your mood a little?
It sounds like you had a good time with your niece and nephew yesterday. Might the low mood today be due to the come down after a good day yesterday and realising that you have nothing else to look forward to for a while? Only saying that because it happens to me a lot.
Don’t feel stupid about trusting someone, it is a good quality to be trusting. Feeling angry is totally understandable but you shouldn’t blame yourself like that. Have you got any legal advice? You could try Citizen’s Advice which is free. I’m not sure that there is much that can be done but it would be worth asking the question so that you can make an informed decision about what to do next.
Not really, i dont have many people left that i am that close to and i wouldnt have much to talk about as i havent really done anything.
Its possible but i generally seem to feel low at the start of most days. If i have something to look forward to then its ok but sometimes i wont feel “up to it” and can sometimes turn things down (like my friend offering to take me to a large toy store).
Theres meeting friends at their houses etc but im wanting to keep everyone safe regarding the pandemic etc.
Plus i still wouldnt have much to talk about.
Im sorry to hear you are struggling so much too @Kitty-Cat01. I wish i could help in some way
I visit my mom two or three days a week depending on my shifts, sometimes it will be two days running. She’s been nowhere and neither have i, but we can always find something to talk about. She loves football and often discusses how The Wolves are doing, despite knowing i have no interest in sport whatsoever. But it’s
good to see her happily chatting about something she’s passionate about. Similarly my wife has spent about 75% of the last year shielding/furloughed whilst i have worked throughout. She’s been nowhere and done nothing other than some diy and housework but we can always find something to talk about.
So see those friends, make the effort, with a bit of imagination you can find loads to chat about. You can still see them and take social distancing measures. Also, try to be positive in their presence, as positivity breeds positivity.
My 5year old couldn’t understand why the laser wasn’t wireless.
everything is getting to me